Author | Guan Shan Yue, small pomegranate
How important is a good circle?
There is a law in social science: the five-dimensional theory of close friends.
Meaning,
The wealth and wisdom you have,
It is basically the average of the 5 friends around you.
This theory still holds true for children.
Someone once counted: Which university did Apple and Google employees graduate from?
The largest number of graduates are from stanford university in the world's top 5 rankings.
Secondly, it is a graduation from a humble school,
The world's top 1,000 universities, put in China, may not even be counted as two universities.
What is so special about this school?
Surrounded by not only Apple, Google, Intel, Tesla and other top international companies,
There are also famous universities such as Stanford and California.
Students have many opportunities to get close to excellent teachers and students, and they will involuntarily understand, imitate, and follow.
In a certain essence:
The environment determines you, and the friends around you will also determine you.
I think that's why,
To tell children the 7 unspoken rules of interpersonal communication as soon as possible,
Good circles can make children work harder and more disciplined.
Meet more friends of equal stature, harvest more advanced happiness, and become a better self.
Grasp the circle well, it is difficult for children to think about whether they are excellent!
The principle of getting along: the circle is different, and it is not necessary to be strong
Stay away from those who consume you: don't be reluctant
Cherish treasure friends: good friends are the wealth of a lifetime
At home, make rules: do not follow the rules, can not be square
Outside, remember the upbringing:
It has nothing to do with the face of the parents, it is a habit that benefits the children for a lifetime
Strengthen yourself: If you bloom, the breeze will come
Write at the end:
Mr. Lao She said:
Half of a person's life is in friends.
A good friend is the wealth of a lifetime.
Ms. Yishu also said:
Why reluctantly be friends with those who disagree with the Tao?
Circles are different and do not have to be strong.
Tell your child:
Make friends who will make you happy, friends who will make you progress, friends who will give you encouragement,
Instead of making you cry friends, consuming your friends, and taking your efforts for granted.
More importantly,
You have to have the ability to discern right from wrong,
You don't have to please everyone.
You must have a strong heart,
If you bloom, the breeze will come.
Bless every child,
Can harvest good circles,
Meet more friends of equal stature, harvest more advanced happiness, and become a better self.
Life should be beautiful and gentle,
You too.
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Author: Guan Shanyue, Little Pomegranate, focusing on parenting and child psychology research. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.