Text | Ren Pingsheng
Baby
Just before going to bed last night,
You and I talk about the big or small troubles of your campus life,
There are studies and there are also friends.
Listen to what you have to say,
Mom's heart was happy and nervous.
Mom knows you're going to grow up,
And in the days to come,
You will go into the wider world,
Take on more heavy schoolwork,
It will also handle more complex interpersonal relationships.
Future you, in school,
To face many problems independently,
You will also have a piece of your own world.
Here, there are some words Mom has to tell you.
When you get to school, you can sit in the front row, and you must sit in the front row
Closer to the blackboard and the teacher,
It means closer to knowledge.
Sit in the front row,
It is necessary to concentrate on following the teacher's thinking,
Only in this way can we catch the problem left by the teacher at any time.
This helps to focus your child's attention and study hard.
In our lives,
It is normal to allow yourself to relax and rest in your comfort zone.
But in learning, in work,
We need to consciously break this "comfort".
In class, you get used to sitting at the end every time, even if you think it doesn't affect your studies.
But do you find yourself missing or giving up opportunities to interact with your teachers time and time again?
A professor in the United States,
Once observed and recorded a group of students choosing seats in a classroom,
He found:
Some students always like to sit in the front row, while others care about choosing the back seat.
Ten years later, the professor published his findings:
The students who were in the front row,
The proportion of career successes is much higher than that of other students.
There is a "front row effect" in psychology.
Roughly, it means,
The man in the front row,
More able to step out of the comfort zone and go to the "front row",
Have a more proactive learning mindset,
It also means that he is more willing to participate and communicate,
Have a stronger interest in new things and maintain a sharper sense of sensitivity.
Baby, Momn's not saying you have to sit in the front row,
I just want to say,
If you do the front row,
This at least shows that you have a positive learning mindset,
It's also easier to have fun from learning.
You can make more friends, but friends are fine, not more
In China, people often refer to people they know as friends.
In foreign countries, they only call those who have good relations as friends.
Relationships in general can only be said to be "knowing".
Baby, Mom wants to tell you,
When making friends, be selective.
First of all, if you are with each other and feel wronged,
Then this kind of friend can be abandoned.
Secondly, the friends who always tell your secrets to the outside world are not worth making.
Friends are not obliged to keep secrets for us,
But a friend who can't keep his mouth shut and can't keep his secrets is not worth dating.
Third, those who always put "I don't play with you" are always on their lips.
If you are not happy, you will threaten your friends with this sentence and not make friends.
Baby, Mom wants to tell you that friendship goes both ways.
Others have the right not to play with you, and you have the right to refuse other people's requests.
Don't wronged yourself,
Make yourself feel uncomfortable in the relationship, and end it.
Not everyone can be good friends
You know,
Life doesn't need a bunch of "good friends",
It's one or two really good friends
What makes a person successful, in addition to love, there are also methods
Baby, you once asked me,
Sometimes you feel that your learning and productivity are low,
The reason is that it is impossible to make long-term, sustained and stable efforts.
Baby, Mom wants to tell you,
I know you worked hard,
But in fact, the method is also very important,
All of this is also a trait that good people really have.
You don't have to be proud of how late you go to bed and how early you get up.
Rather, pay attention to what you can really learn.
In addition, blind learning is actually not advisable.
About learning methods,
You can find a small bag of post-it notes,
Write down the learning tasks to be completed today every morning,
One post-it note for one task.
Complete one thing and tear off a sticky note.
Stick to it for seven days,
This small detail not only makes you feel good about learning,
In the future, you will become a clear-thinking, meticulous person and with plenty of time.
When you feel tired of studying,
You can choose videos to learn,
Although text is suitable for deep learning,
But the video composed of images and language,
is the most intuitive, the closest to the instinct of learning,
Learn with videos,
This allows you to more intuitively understand the approximate knowledge framework or goals,
Get into learning fast.
Don't underestimate anyone who can stand loneliness
In Sichuan,
There is a kind of bamboo called "ghost bamboo",
This bamboo in the first 5 years of growth,
I can't see Hsinchu grow out,
You see,
It can only be a wasteland,
But by the 6th year, this bamboo will grow a big piece,
It grows to 30 meters in a year.
Why the crazy growth in the sixth year?
Actually, it's because,
This bamboo in the first 5 years of growth,
Although there is no growth,
But they did one thing.
That is to take root silently in the ground,
And this process of taking root,
In fact, outsiders can't see it at all.
So you must not ignore those who are working silently,
Don't underestimate anyone who takes learning seriously.
One day,
You find these people who are struggling alone,
Blooming results that amaze others,
In fact, it is because they are accumulating thick and thin.
Don't underestimate people who can continue to learn,
Grades may not represent all of a person.
But it can withstand loneliness, and it can withstand square inches.
But it is the top strength of a person.
Be kind to your classmates, but you must have a bottom line
Baby, you must have heard the story of "The Farmer and the Snake".
Mom sees that you are warm and kind to people,
It's mom happy.
But Mom also wants you to be kind at the same time,
Be sure to keep your edge.
Mom once saw a post by a female college student on the Internet,
This girl is not very good at rejecting people,
During the four years at the university,
She brought breakfast to her roommate countless times.
Only once,
She declined her roommate's request,
As a result, she was isolated by her roommate.
Several other roommates rebuilt new roommate groups,
But he didn't pull her.
Baby, what Mom wants to say is,
When kindness is always given unconditionally.
Others tend to see this kindness more cheaply.
And it needs to be selective, and it needs to be sharp,
Only then can we gain more respect.
When others do not understand gratitude,
When endlessly asking for help,
Please put away your kindness in time.
Not to mention forced by face,
And provide unconditional help, etc.
Dear daughter,
Campus life is a fun thing,
But there are also more complicated things.
Mom won't interfere with your affairs,
But if you have confusion and need help,
Please be sure to let me know.
Dear daughter,
May your campus life be happy and fulfilling,
May there be light in your eyes,
Live as you want.
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Author: Ren Pingsheng, walk along the road until you turn yourself into a road. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.