There is a passage circulating on the Internet:
There are three major reasons why Chinese women are aging: writing homework with their babies, invisible husbands not making money, and living with their mother-in-law
The first kind of mother's pain is called homework with the child.
How harsh is the environment for Chinese mothers to accompany them?
The first point: educational anxiety spreads and sweeps through the whole society
In China, affected by the concept of "never let the child lose at the starting line", the anxiety consciousness of Chinese mothers has accumulated into a tower in the pile of bases day after day, and whenever they see a naughty child, the first reaction is scolding:
How can you be so stupid? Pigs are smarter than you! You look at Bob from the opposite house.
Excessive language behavior will definitely cause children's resistance and rebellious psychology at the first time, and heavier accusations are the last straw that crushes children's self-esteem.
The child begins to choose to escape and resist, so the mother and the child start a fierce family struggle.
The second point: the family division of labor is unbalanced, seriously misaligned, widowed parenting, and the pressure of education is tilted
There is a stay-at-home mom who uses numbers to calculate her day-to-night workload: one hour of laundry, two hours of grocery shopping at the market, two hours of making lunch and dinner, one hour of washing dishes and mopping clothes, twenty minutes of bathing for the baby, and three hours of writing homework with the baby. When I looked up, I saw that the hands were past ten o'clock in the evening.
Settle the child and go back to the bedroom to pack up and take a bath, while the pig teammates are already sleeping soundly in bed.
When he became a mother, he stubbornly turned the former female petite woman into a female man. When the father is unqualified, it all depends on the mother to rescue.
In recent years, the terms "invisible father" and "widowed parenting" have aroused widespread discussion.
A mother said, "After having children, I finally understood the importance of money, although the child is small, but also needs a lot of money, just got married I don't know, now I understand, it's too late..."
Fathers do not have the consciousness of accompanying their children, even in the pitiful time spent with the baby, many of them are impatient, not focused enough, and the management of the baby is a mess. Coupled with the weak economic strength, the mother is really tired...
Living with in-laws is full of contradictions
If conditions permit, most women may not be willing to live with their in-laws after marriage, sometimes not just because of generation gaps and contradictions, but more likely to be afraid of being disturbed in their two-person world, especially for newlyweds.
The older generation has the ideas of the older generation, and they take their children into account in everything they do, especially in their self-reliant era, and hard work is their most optimistic quality.
However, in this prosperous era, young people pursue their own comfort, and everything is oriented to their own comfort. As a result, an insurmountable gap between the two generations has created, and it is difficult to get along harmoniously in life.