Parent-child relationships have always been a topic of great concern, especially mothers dominate the process of educating their children.
Recently, due to the epidemic, people have stopped working or worked from home, and primary and secondary school students are also taking online classes at home, so the parent-child relationship is becoming more and more tense.
My mother upstairs was like that, and we could hear her yelling at her child almost every day, followed by his son's tearing cries, which were heart-wrenching.
In fact, when she usually contacts this mother, she is also very gentle and polite, only in the face of the child's disobedience and can not meet her expectations, she can not control her emotions, and the anger is sprinkled on the child.
Not just her, I'm sure most moms do this, including myself sometimes.
In fact, there are only the following reasons:
1, the mother's own personality is so, there is no good control ability, lack of patience.
Everyone's personality is different, so for the same thing, there will be different stresses, so there are different ways to deal with it. If the mother's personality is more grumpy, in the face of the child's mischief and learning, it is inevitable that there will be a "bloody rain".
Children have a strong ability to imitate, if the parents have a bad temper, most children are the same, because they also learn to deal with contradictions like parents.
2, the mother did not understand the child, did not enter the child's heart.
Children are small, but they also have their own ideas. Mothers are always in a position where adults are now on top, ordering their children to do something and not to do anything.
Kids are not adults' string dolls.
In the name of love, he did something to hurt his child.
If you can't see into the child's heart and can't walk into the child's heart, you will always be troubled by yelling and noise, and you can't get out.
3, can only see the obvious consequences.
What if your child took your newly bought lipstick and went around painting and ended up with an empty shell?
Most likely, the mother will yell at her child.
Imagine if the child of the leader asked you to take care of it for an hour, but in this hour, the same thing happened.
The result is obvious, because you know that it is certainly not okay to treat your own children like you would, because then you may lose your job, and a bad attitude at this time will have unforeseen consequences.
However, for their children, they will take it for granted that no matter how bad the attitude, it will be all right. As everyone knows, the seeds of this kind of adverse consequences have long been planted, and if this is the case for a long time, it will one day erupt and be unmanageable.
Leave the good temper to outsiders, and the bad temper to the people closest to you.
Every mother loves her child very much, conceives in October, guards day and night, and regards the child as a treasure in her hand.
However, the roar ruined the heartwarming picture.
We can't love our children while hurting them.
Now mothers not only have to face the pressure of work, but also take care of the family, feel really powerless, so there is nowhere to release bad emotions, can only vent to weak children.
In the face of the pressure of work and family, find a way to release and reasonably vent; improve your own insight, deal with problems from the perspective of children; calm your mind and control your emotions.