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"Experts say that 2 years old is divided into beds, 6 years old is divided into rooms, your children still sleep with you, my children sleep by themselves!"
"Children 3 years old is the golden time to learn to draw, miss this stage, children want to catch up can not catch up ..."
"If you want your child to dance, before the age of 4, your child's muscles and bones are the softest and the best period."
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There are many nodes for children to learn, and there are 2-year-olds who recite Tang poems, take the baby out of the house, meet babies of the same age, and often encounter parents who let their children recite Tang poems.
If parents are too serious, this is infinite anxiety, other people's children will already memorize Tang poems, their own children will only run and jump, other people's children have been divided into beds, their own children can only sleep with their mothers, other people's children will draw, their own children will only take the pen to scribble, other people's children have danced like decent, their own children...
Forget it, talking too much is tears, if it is true, there is nothing else in life, it is all anxiety.
If you listen to these parenting scriptures, start early to give children early education lessons, art lessons, let children learn dance, it takes a lot of financial resources and time, and the baby is not willing to learn, reluctant, and even crying.
Parents are anxious, children are reluctant, and life is a mess.
Parenting is a top priority to listen less, so that children can grow up with peace of mind
If you want to reduce your anxiety, try not to look at this information, do not listen to this information, away from these "parenting classics" is the best way to alleviate anxiety.
Remember when I was pregnant, there would be a lot of mother groups, the first joined the mother group was added when doing sugar tolerance, after joining the mother group, the anxiety doubled.
Because the pregnant mother group rarely moves in daily life, usually when the mother has a different appearance, it will be sent to the group, and every day the group is opened, it is all negative information, the anxiety is multiplied, and then it is withdrawn from the group.
This truth is the same, away from these things that make you feel anxious, the mentality will gradually return to normal, pregnant mothers successfully survive to the eve of childbirth, smoothly give birth to the baby, parents of parents, rest assured to see the child grow up on time.
Especially for mothers, many people with ulterior motives are aimed at this mentality of parents, under the guise of "scientific parenting", spreading how to raise children, and debunking is to let parents pay for something that does not make much sense.
As for when the child divides the bed, when to divide the room, there is no need to listen to who to guide, different children have different characteristics, according to the characteristics of the child to choose when to divide the bed, when to divide the room.
The educational resources provided to children are within their means
Then there is the issue of providing educational resources for children, which makes it even less necessary to listen to the opinions of others, and it is even more unnecessary to refer to the opinions of others.
Not that children want to learn or parents want to learn, you can give children to learn, the piano is elegant, people who can play the piano have face everywhere, but can ordinary families learn the piano?
A piano is often tens of thousands, a piano lesson of several hundred yuan, this is not an ordinary family can afford it, unless the child is really talented, just like Lang Lang, the whole family is really smashing pots and selling iron for the son to learn the piano, take the son to participate in the competition.
If there is no such talent, the economic conditions are limited, or do not force the child to learn, the whole family is one thing to suffer, and finally the child can not become a pianist, may be able to perform at the company's annual meeting many years later.
What children learn, how to learn, how long to learn, there must be a systematic plan, if the child really has talent in a certain aspect, then only attack this direction, let the child stick to it, and finally learn to succeed.
Raising children is most afraid of following the trend, and the result of following the trend is that neither the child is good at finding the area that the child is good at, nor being able to let the child persist in a certain aspect, and finally nothing can be learned, and the money is spent.
There are these suggestions for learning Tang poetry and learning Chinese characters
If parents force their children to learn Tang poems and use candy snacks as lures, can children recite Tang poems?
In fact, after the child is 2 years old, as long as the parents are willing to use various methods to teach and let the child recite, the child will be able to recite it.
Although they don't understand the meaning of Tang poems, they can imitate the words of their parents and recite them from beginning to end, but is there any meaning?
After Tang Yuanbao was 2 years old, for a period of time I also guided her to recite Tang poems every day, memorized about 20 poems, each Tang poem as long as you say the name, she can recite the author and Tang poems, but she does not understand the connotation of Tang poems at all.
Because I don't understand the meaning, I will naturally forget it after a long time.
We cultivate the foundation of Chinese culture for children, you can read Tang poems and Song poems to children every day, but there is really no need for children to memorize, the number of times they read, children will recite, that is a child's business, but parents are best not to force children to recite, because it is really meaningless, and it is likely to affect future learning.
Children's comprehension is staged, as they grow up day by day, comprehension will increase, if the child learned Tang poetry when they were 2 years old, when they learnEd Tang poetry again when they were enrolled, they would not ask deeply about the connotation of Tang poetry, but they would recite, the reason is that when they are 2 years old, they have formed an understanding of Tang poetry, "memorization" is the purpose, there is no need to understand.
This will directly affect the depth and efficiency of children's learning.
The same is true for learning Chinese characters.
Of course, if the child is really interested in Chinese characters, willing to learn, there is no problem in showing children some Chinese character cards in advance, the child learns Chinese characters by himself, he can read books by himself, which is a good thing, but if the child is not willing to learn, parents do not have to force their children to learn through various methods.
The last thing I want to say to parents is: don't have too many expectations for your children, let your children grow up on time, it is the happiness of your children, and it is also the happiness of parents.