Children will inevitably make mistakes in the process of growing up, and there will be various rebellious periods. Many parents criticize their children when they make mistakes, but did you know? Not always can you criticize your child. Sometimes you can't criticize the child, and criticizing the child will be bad for the child's health.
Many elderly people will tell their children's parents not to criticize their children when eating, and not to let their children cry when eating.
Many young parents do not listen, think that the elderly have too many things, children do not eat well at the dinner table or eat without rules, this time do not criticize the child when to criticize? Criticism is best remembered when things happen.
After this point, after eating you say, can the child remember the lesson? If you can't remember the lesson, then don't you have to do it again next time?
My neighbor always complained to me that her mother-in-law spoiled the child in all kinds, except for not criticizing the child when eating, and not criticizing the child at night, and not criticizing the child when happy. She said I criticized the child, this can not be criticized, at that time can not be criticized, really angry at me! You should live separately from your mother-in-law to see how much difference in the concept of parenting is between you and the elderly.
After every complaint, the neighbor said to me in a serious voice, when you have a child, don't live with your mother-in-law, otherwise there will be endless nagging every day, feeling that she is doing everything right, and what I do is wrong.
One day at dinner time, I heard the neighbors yelling at the child again, the sound was so loud that I could hear it at home, and then the sound of the child crying and the mother-in-law comforting the child. When she went downstairs for a walk, she ran into a neighbor, and she said that the child was not eating well, and she was angry, as for criticizing the meal. Now the child is still crying, leave it to the mother-in-law to coax it, she wants to scatter her mind. It wasn't long before her phone rang, and her mother-in-law called, saying that the child said that her stomach was uncomfortable.
The neighbor also felt that the child was being flirtatious again, and the mother-in-law asked her to hurry back to the hospital to see.
Later, I heard that the child is no big deal, and the doctor also said that it is easy for the child to criticize the child when eating, especially the child, the spleen and stomach are weak, and it is easier to blame the child when eating.
The mother-in-law said, although you young people know a lot, but the old saying says so, we are all such children, not my pet children, it is true that sometimes it is not suitable to criticize children.
The neighbor was a little ashamed, it seemed that it was still reasonable not to listen to the old man's words and suffer losses in front of his eyes.
She said she quickly looked at when she couldn't criticize the child.
It turns out that the old saying really has no time to blame the child.
In the Ming Dynasty, Lü Kun's "Groaning Language" was humble and childish, and he was cautious of what he blamed. No responsibility to the crowd, no responsibility for remorse, no responsibility for the night, no responsibility for eating, no responsibility for celebrating, no responsibility for sorrow, no responsibility for illness.
What does that mean? The translation says that there are seven points to teach children not to blame children, and they need to be paid attention to.
The first is not to blame the public. That is to say, in public, when there are many people, do not blame the children, but give the children dignity in front of everyone.
Many children are crazy, the more people are crazy, especially playgrounds or restaurants, parks, etc., parents are particularly anxious to catch fire, and many times chasing up is scolding. In fact, no matter how old the children are, they are all independent individuals and have dignity.
I know a child, going to kindergarten, I said to her mother, Mom, you don't tell those uncles and aunts at the kindergarten gate that I am not good here and there, you come back to me. Everyone knows what you said, and I'm embarrassed.
Many times parents feel that it is a joke to criticize and blame the child to other parents and children, parents are finished, but do not know what kind of impact the child's psychology will have.
The second is remorse, that is, if the child has already felt ashamed and regretted his own mistakes, the adult should not blame the child.
My sister's child lost a doll, which was expensive. The child is also very sad, has been crying, my sister said, tell you not to take it out to play, you have to take it out to play, you see, now it's good.
In fact, many parents will also be like this, seeing that their children are sad and sad, ashamed and regretful, it seems that they are not satisfied, and they have to make up for some hurt. In fact, children are not uncomfortable? It was uncomfortable, she was already very uncomfortable, and her mother was still scolding her, which was even more uncomfortable. So this time is not to blame the child. Trust that your child will know what to do next time.
The third is not to blame at night, that is, not to blame the child before going to bed at night.
Why can't I blame my child for sleeping at night? Because of blaming the child before going to bed, the child may still be sad and hurt in his heart, the mood is not good, if he goes to bed at this time, he will not rest well, and may also have nightmares, affecting the child's sleep and rest.
If there is something to communicate during the day.
The fourth is not to blame for eating, that is to say, do not blame the child when eating.
Many elderly people often talk to their children's parents when they see children, but some young parents will not listen, thinking that the elderly have a lot of things, too nagging, in fact, it is not. When training children when eating, it is easy to make children need to spleen and stomach, and it is also easy to eat well, and it is affecting children's eating and digestion.
The fifth is to celebrate without blame, that is, not to blame the child when he is particularly happy.
I have seen a message that a child who has scored 99 points is particularly excited to show his mother, and his mother is also very happy. Then he asked how many people in the class scored 100, and said, why can't you take the 100 points?
The child's first reaction is to be stunned. Wasn't Mom happy with me just now? I have improved so much, worked hard for so long, why is my mother like this?
One child said in his diary that when I was happy, I didn't want my mother to suddenly criticize me, and the criticism made me feel sad in an instant, and I felt that I didn't deserve to be happy.
The sixth is not to blame the sorrow, that is, the child should not blame him when he cries.
Whatever the reason, when the child cries, don't blame him anymore, maybe all the child needs is the hug of the parents and the warm embrace.
The seventh is that the disease is not blamed, that is, the child should not be blamed when he is sick.
Some parents are impatient when the child is sick, because the child is uncomfortable, so it may take medicine, injections are very difficult, parents coaxed to have a temper, began to yell at the child, criticize the child, who makes you sick, sick to take medicine, big mouth! Mouth! Hurry up, if you don't take it, I'll pour the medicine down!
Both adults and children are vulnerable when they are sick, and it is normal to have some emotions. Parents can put up with it and wait until their children are well.
My neighbor said that the original criticism of children also has so much attention, it seems that parents are not good. It's not just about taking care of your children every day, you also need to be educated, and you need to grow up with your children.
Indeed, the old saying makes sense, learn together how to raise children.
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