I have seen a sentence before, and I still remember it vividly: the tears of children are the most advantageous weapons in the world, and they can always grab the attention of parents at the first time.
From the first cry of birth, the child's tears have not stopped. I cry when I'm hungry, I cry when I'm unhappy, and I still cry when I miss my parents. In short, the child will use crying to represent all emotions, which makes parents a little unbearable.
It is no exaggeration to say that when you can't speak, crying is a signal that your child is connected to his or her parents. When they grew up, crying became a way for them to vent, even to blackmail their parents.
However, parents have different views on children crying
Xuanxuan mother: Crying is the right of children, is their way of expressing emotions, just like adults like to get angry, tantrums a truth. Although it is annoying for children to cry, parents cannot take away their rights. If the emotions have been accumulated in the heart, for a long time, it is inevitable that the disease will be suppressed.
Qi Qi's mother: When I heard the child's crying, I felt that I was on fire in an instant. So every time he hears their cries, he is strongly asked to "shut up" and it is best not to make any more sounds. Occasionally, of course, he chooses to ignore it and pretend not to hear it.
Yaoyao's mother: It is said that "boys have tears and do not flick", from childhood to adulthood, the most unacceptable thing is that the son likes to cry. I always feel that crying is a manifestation of cowardice and timidity, and boys who once felt that they like to cry will certainly not be able to become big things in the future.
From a parent's point of view, it is normal for them to have different opinions. Because everyone's way of thinking and personality are different, the perspective and ideas of looking at things are also different. Take the fact that children like to cry, there are parents who approve, and naturally there are parents who oppose.
It is undeniable that whether parents are in favor or against, it is actually a way to love and care for their children from their own point of view. However, many parents do not know that children who cry at every turn and children who endure not crying have a completely different future.
You may feel that children who hold back tears and do not cry are stronger in their hearts and more likely to achieve something in the future. But the study found that children who like to cry at every turn have infinite possibilities for their future and will create more surprises.
Like to cry and endure not to cry, what is the difference in the future?
1. Psychological pressure is different
Crying has allowed children to vent their negative psychological emotions in this way, so their hearts have no previous pressure. But to endure not to cry is just the opposite, the previous pressure has been buried in the bottom of the heart, do not know how to release, can only be forced to bear.
To know that the greater the psychological pressure, the personality and work aspects, it is easy to become impatient. There may even be a lot of psychological problems, which must not be the result that parents want to see, right?
2, the ability to bear is different
In contrast, children who like to cry are more tolerant. The reason why I cry is because I have encountered a lot of unhappy or sad things. After crying, this matter is slowly diluted, and naturally more things can be endured.
On the other hand, the children who endure not crying, they seem to not cry or make trouble on the surface, but their hearts have begun to surge. When bad things accumulate to a certain extent, the child will definitely erupt and torture himself in ways that parents can't imagine.
3. Empathy ability is different
Many people say: The level of empathy ability indirectly determines the level of children's emotional intelligence, and also directly determines their future. As we all know: children with high emotional intelligence, not only do many people like it, but they also have a particularly good ability to deal with the world.
It is because they like to cry, so children can better understand the feelings of others, and empathy ability is constantly accumulated in daily crying. And the child who endures not to cry just lacks this ability to empathize.
In this way, children who like to cry when they encounter things are not only mentally healthier, but also have a stronger mentality and ability to deal with things. Most importantly, the probability of suffering from mental illness is reduced, and even if the future life is full of setbacks and suffering, the child can easily cope with it.
There is a sentence that I especially want to tell all parents: children like to cry, which is also a manifestation of emotional richness, indicating that their hearts are very kind.
Of course, crying is also exquisite. If you clearly know that children threaten their parents with crying, they must not be accustomed to such problems, they can pretend not to hear, and they must not compromise. If they know that the child wants to escape responsibility by crying, or to escape punishment, then the parents will not allow it.
Write at the end: give your child space and let them vent to their own. When encountering boring and unhappy things, encourage children to cry out, and believe that the mood will become different. Smart parents never demand their children in their own way, but stand on the opposite side to observe and understand them.