You: After the death of daughter-in-law Qin Keqing, she said that she could not get sick, allowed her husband to fool around, and refused to attend the funeral
You Shi is an extremely complex character in the dream of the Red Chamber, her identity is awkward, although she is the head of the Ningguo Mansion, but because of her humble origins, her situation in the Ningguo Mansion is delicate. Nominally she was Jia Zhen's continuing wife and the mistress of Ningguo Province, but in fact, You Shi lived a very small life, not daring to take care of her husband Jia Zhen's private life, and had nowhere to tell her bitterness, living very tired.
Before the daughter-in-law Qin Keqing fell ill, You Shi treated her like her own daughter and asked for warmth, and after Qin Keqing fell ill, You Shi also ran before and after asking for medical treatment for her, worried about her body. After Qin Keqing's death, You's attitude was very strange, she said that she could not get sick, neither for her daughter-in-law to handle the funeral, nor to attend the funeral, allowing her husband Jia Zhen to make trouble.
Yu shi asked.
You Shi asked, there is no such detail in the novel, the 87 version of the Dream of the Red Chamber was specially added to this scene when it was adapted, and it is precisely because of this detail that I understood the reason for the change in You's attitude towards Qin Keqing.
At that time, when Teacher Wang Gui'e auditioned for the play, she chose the scene of "You's Asking Hairpin". This scene is not easy to grasp, the lines seem to be not much, but the heart is very complicated. You wanted to know the true relationship between her husband and her daughter-in-law, but she was also afraid to know the truth. She paced back and forth in the room with a hairpin, and that complex and contradictory psychology made You Shi have different feelings.
Although there is no detailed description of Youshi's questioning in the novel, there is a description of Youshi's voyeurism. This kind of brushwork, there are still several places in Cao Xueqin's pen, but the description of You's voyeurism is more direct, and it also hints at the reason for Qin Keqing's suicide, that is, Jia Zhen and Qin Keqing will be seen by You's peeping in TianxiangLou, Qin Keqing cannot face her mother-in-law, in order to save Jia Zhen's face and the dignity of Ning Guofu, she had to commit suicide and die.
After Qin Keqing's death, You Shi could no longer put it on, she was depressed in her heart, she needed to be relieved, and no one told her, so she had to say that she could not get sick, and threw a large Ningguo Mansion to Jia Zhen to cook alone, letting him fool around.
Say that the disease is not out.
All the way to the front of the Ningguo Mansion, I saw that the door of the mansion was open, and the lanterns on both sides shone like daylight, baking people in a chaotic way, and the cries inside shook the mountains and vibrated. Bao Yu got out of the car and rushed to the spirit room, crying bitterly. Then I met Youshi. Who knew that Youshi was suffering from stomach pain and slept in bed.
It can be seen from this that Cao Xueqin borrowed Baoyu's eyes to write out You's state. The daughter-in-law died, and you's mother-in-law should be sad to handle the funeral, but the strange thing is that she said that she could not get sick and let Jia Zhen toss.
You Shi was lying on the bed, unable to take care of the housework, Jia Zhen was overly sad, the whole Ning Guo Mansion was in a mess, and a hostess was needed to come out and preside over the overall situation. Although You Shi could not restrain her husband Jia Zhen's misdeeds, she also had her own bottom line, that is, after she discovered Jia Zhen's private affair with Qin Keqing, she not only lost face, but also became very angry. She did not have a strong maternal background, she could not make a big fuss like Wang Xifeng, she could only say that she could not get sick, and maintain the dignity that the family and her husband should have.
Jia Zhen is also at fault in this matter, although he is usually a bit foolish and willful, but he also compromised on the matter that his wife You Shi said that he was ill and refused to come forward to take care of Qin Keqing's funeral. He asked Wang Xifeng, the housekeeper of xifu, to help organize Qin Keqing's funeral, which not only gave You's face, but also made up for Qin Keqing's guilt, and held a luxurious funeral for Qin Keqing.
Refusal to attend the funeral.
On this day, on the night of the accompaniment, two classes of small plays and played a hundred plays with relatives, friends, and guests, You Shi was lying in the inner bed, one should be Treated by Zhang Luo, and only Feng Jie was fully responsible.
At Qin Keqing's funeral, You Shi did not attend from beginning to end, she always said that she could not get sick, lying on the bed, and let Jia Zhen fool around. Many people do not understand that You Shi is the hostess of Ningguo Mansion, and in such a special situation, she should come forward to cook and give her husband Jia Zhen face.
In fact, this is already the biggest compromise made by You's family, she can ignore Jia Zhen's flowers and grass outside, and she doesn't care if Jia Zhen plays ambiguous with the two younger sisters brought by her stepmother, but Qin Keqing is a daughter-in-law, once such a scandal is spread, not only will she lose face herself, the whole family will also be unable to stand because of this scandal, and Jia Zhen will lose everything.
After You Shi broke Jia Zhen's private affair with Qin Keqing, she did not make a big fuss like Wang Xifeng, but said that she was not ill and refused to attend Qin Keqing's funeral. It can be said that how good You Clan was to Qin Keqing before, how sad it would be at this time, although Jia Rong was not a child born to You Shi, but You Shi regarded Qin Keqing's daughter-in-law as a daughter.
After Qin Keqing fell ill, You Shi was very dedicated to asking for medicine for her, this ugly incident should have happened after Qin Keqing's illness was healed, Qin Keqing was ashamed to commit suicide, You's heart was broken, and he refused to come forward to cook, which is also a common sentiment of people. Jia Zhen knew that he was wrong, and he didn't dare to come hard, so he could only rely on Youshi.
This incident should also be the handle of You's life, and later You's attitude towards Jia Zhen changed, and Jia Zhen even flattered her in some things. But these can not change You's attachment to Jia Zhen, in the social environment at that time, even if You Shi had more dissatisfaction, she could only grievance herself and obey Jia Zhen to protect herself. In Wang Xifeng's eyes, You's patience was incompetent, which was also the reason why Wang Xifeng dared to make a big fuss about You Erjie's affairs and humiliate You Shi in ningguofu.
It can be seen that You Shi is nominally Jia Zhen's wife, but because of her humble origin, she lives a very small life. Especially in the case of Qin Keqing, she can only seek perfection and preserve the reputation of her husband Jia Zhen and Ning Guofu, but she also has her own bottom line, that is, she refuses to attend the funeral because she is ill.
I am Xiao Meng, telling you the story of "Dream of the Red Chamber".
Reference works: Cao Xueqin, Fat Yanzhai commentary on "Dream of the Red Chamber" Fat Collection