You Shi is the continuation of Jia Zhen, the patriarch of Ningguo Province, in the eyes of outsiders, Ning Guo Mansion is a place where cats and dogs are not clean, and in the mouth of Feng Jie'er, You Shi is a gourd with a sawn mouth, and only tastes the name of Tu Xianliang. How many ugly things Jia Zhen's father and son did, You Shi did not stop and persuade her, this is her dereliction of duty and incompetence as a wife.
In fact, You Shi is not for the reputation of Tu Xianliang, she is only the daughter of a small official eunuch, even if as a continuation, marrying into the NingGuo Mansion, it can be regarded as a high climb. What's more, Jia Zhen spent the day and the earth, where is You Shi able to control it? As the presiding grandmother of Ning Guofu, You Shi had neither the love of her husband nor the body of a child, and she sat in this position, and she did not have much capital to be proud of. Therefore, she had to keep a low profile and had to be patient. Her situation was actually similar to that of Lady Xing, the embarrassing person in the RongGuo Mansion.
But Youshi is worthy of respect compared to Mrs. Xing, she has her own bottom line as a person, although the living environment is smoky and miasma, she has seen various occasions, and all kinds of people, Youshi rarely maintains a kind heart. And her kindness, not only in Ningguo Province, but also in the entire Jia Province, among the so-called high-ranking people, there are few people as kind as Youshi.
You's kindness may be considered by some to be a manifestation of slime, bottomlessness, and nesting. For example, Jiao Da got drunk and scolded there. Sister Feng said that You's family was weak, even though everyone in the family was like this. You Shi explained that Jiao Da had saved the life of the great master by self-esteem, and now that he was old, he loved to scold when he was drunk. Youshi also often said that the steward should not be sent to him on an errand when he died.
This is Youshi's way of dealing with problems, to forgive people and forgive people. Sister Feng also said that You Shi had no idea, so why not send him to Zhuangzi from afar? In fact, if Sister Feng had been in charge, she would have sent Jiao Da clean long ago, and You's tolerance for Jiao Da also had some sympathy in it. You Shi only hoped that Jiao Da would not cause trouble, and refused to do too much. Although Jiao Da himself was disrespectful and cursed and provoked people, You Shi did not think of using thunderous means to govern him.
It seems that You Shi is not strong enough in the management of the family, and her kindness is still debatable, perhaps just for more things than less. But through several other things, we can find that You's kindness is real kindness, no show, no condescending, not troublesome, but from the heart of kindness, she is not a soft persimmon, but she speaks for those who are inferior to herself, which is unique in the giants.
In Jaffuri, good people – or acts of kindness – are not absent. For example, after Jia Mu saw a small Daoist priest being frightened by Sister Feng, she comforted him again, and then gave money to buy food, and even put herself in the shoes of the little Daoist's old lady. This is indeed kindness, although Jia Mu is in a high position, but she is not unkind to the rich, she stands in the perspective of her parents, understanding the difficulty of the little Daoist, it is really rare.
And Sister Feng, who has always been shrewd, also had a kind act, giving Liu Grandma twenty-two pieces of silver to fight the autumn wind, so that Liu Grandma's family spent the most difficult days, only then did she have the second to enter the Rongguo Mansion, and later the family went bankrupt to rescue Sister Qiao. However, Sister Feng always had the feeling of superiority in front of Grandma Liu, and giving Grandma Liu silver was also on Lady Wang's face.
You's kindness is not humble. Sister Feng's birthday came, and In order to celebrate, Jia Mu asked everyone to pool money for Sister Feng's birthday. Even Cai Xia, Mandarin Duck, Ping'er and other yahuan, as well as Zhao and Aunt Zhou, had to make a contribution. Especially Aunt Zhao and Aunt Zhou, usually nothing good can be done, even if they make up money, it is impossible to participate in Sister Feng's birthday party, and they are reluctant to pay money. They were originally financially strapped, and they couldn't even find a decent piece of cloth in Aunt Zhao's house, let alone Aunt Zhou.
Sister Fengsheng thought of the two of them, and You Shi couldn't help but scold Sister Feng: "I put your little hooves that are not tired of it!" So many mothers-in-law and aunts came to collect silver for your birthday, you are not enough, and pulled up two bitter urns to do something! Sister Feng quietly said, "You don't talk nonsense, after a while you leave here, I will settle accounts with you." Why are the two of them bitter? With money is also a blank gift to others, it is better to detain us to enjoy. "Sister Feng is completely inconsiderate of the hardships of the aunts' lives, and even their little money is not spared, which is really greedy and insufficient." However, YouShi truly understands the difficulty of the people at the bottom and unceremoniously points it out, although it is a joke, it is also a sincere word.
While everyone else was busy flattering Sister Feng, You Shi returned several of the yahuan's shares, even the two aunts' ones. The two of them did not dare to collect it, and Yu Shi said, "You poor people, where is all this spare money?" Feng Yatou knew, and I should have it! When the two of them heard about it, they accepted it with great gratitude.
Yes, for the grandmothers and wives, two or two silver is nothing, for Sister Feng, it is not enough to plug the teeth, but the days of the aunts are already tight, and two or two silver is not a small number! You's move is both a good intention and a win over people's hearts. Although in Feng Jie's eyes, these low-level people do not need to be valued, but You's relationship between up and down will be dotted, which is also her thoughtfulness in dealing with the world. Humble people also need to be respected, and they should not be underestimated.
In the matter of returning part of the money, perhaps Youshi also has the suspicion of being a beggar, but the next two things can be seen even more that Youshi's kindness is a habit and an intolerance.
After the death of the old lady Concubine Xue, each family needed to disband the drama team, and Jia Fu was no exception. The twelve little dramas of Lixiangyuan are faced with the fate of either walking or staying. You's suggestion is that these girls can be kept. Madame Wang thought it was inappropriate, so it was better to give a few silver plates and let them go on their own.
Madame Wang could not watch the singing, and scattered and cleaned up. You Shi was careful, and then put forward his own ideas, saying: "Now we also asked him twelve, and if anyone was willing to go back, he brought a letter and asked his parents to personally take it back, and gave them a few pieces of silver and coils to wrap them around." If you do not call his relatives, for fear that everyone who is an will take them out in disguise and sell them again, will they not live up to this grace? If there are those who do not want to go back, stay. ”
You's color is thoughtful, and it can be regarded as the exhaustion of these unrelated little dramas. Madame Wang simply wanted to send people away, and You Shi not only had to ask the wishes of the actors, but also had a specific set of operating rules. Even if they are willing to go back, they must be personally taken back by their parents, so as not to be betrayed and resold, and the fate of these girls is not even more tragic?
You Shi is not deaf to the outside of the window, the rich family who grew up in the greenhouse, it can be seen from her few words that You Shi is well versed in the dangers of the world, but has never lost his good heart. She bothers to think about the small dramatists and make the best arrangements, she can't get any benefits, and her is not too cumbersome, well-thought-out, but it can make the little dramatists take a lot of detours, and even avoid a ruthless fate.
The giants are often high and low, but Youshi has never acted like that. For the weak, she never bullied, but within the scope of her ability, she gave assistance, not to get anything in return.
When inspecting the Grand View Garden, The Painting of YaHuan around Xi Chun was found to be hiding the man's belongings. Although it was later explained clearly, it was a pity that Chun refused to keep the painting again in order to avoid people's words. You Shi later persuaded Xi Chun to spare the painting, after all, he had followed her for so many years. Although Xi Chun was young, he was the most lonely, and he deeply hated Ning Guofu, and even he did not like Youshi.
You Shi interceded for entering the painting, after all, a Yahuan who was picked up by the master, his reputation also stinks, what else can he do when he goes out? Xi Chun did not want to enter the painting, but also shook You Shi for a while. You Shi couldn't seriously mix with Xi Chun, so he had to leave patiently. As the grandmother of Ning Guofu and as Xi Chun's sister-in-law, You Shi did not have to intercede for entering the painting, is this not self-pleading?
You's kindness is the conscience that still exists after going through the world and seeing all the cold and warm feelings of human feelings, and the loneliness of Xi Chun is the angry resistance of the rebellious girl, and You Shi can't take this little sister-in-law, but no matter what, even if she touches the nail, she still has to touch it and try. Xi Chun should not enter the painting, but You Shi could not help but persuade him, what if Xi Chun changed his mind? At least, Youshi tried.
You shi can understand the difficulties of the people at the bottom, can speak out for the vulnerable groups, the whole Jia Province, who else can do it? You Shi is both grounded and understands human nature, and in the Ningguo Mansion like a large dyeing vat, she is a clear stream. There are some things that she can't do, but she can think of some kind actions, although others don't think so, and won't pay attention to them, she will insist.
For Youshi, kindness is not a show, not for the sake of standing up, and she does not need anyone's applause, she feels feasible and will do it. In everyone's heart, there is a scale, some people put interests first, some people take affection as the most important, and Youshi, even if he is in the rich family of human indifference, even if he touches a cold nail, he has not lost his kind heart, which is really precious.
Author: Ah Wu, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.