Why did the children in the past beat and scold and scold simply and rudely, cultivating so many national pillars, and now they can't beat and scold, there are all kinds of psychology, all kinds of educational skills, and cultivate so many losers, what is the problem? So we went to do the research. That in the process of tracking, there are several important conclusions that I recommend to you.
First of all, tell everyone why the education in the past can be simple and rough, and the current education must be gentle communication. Quite simply, in the past, that era was called the era of shortage, and those of us who were post-60s and post-70s had no chance to lack food, lack of information, lack of resources, we lacked everything, even stationery textbooks. In times of shortage, simple brutality is useful. I remember when I was in school,
My father often said two sentences, the first sentence is not obedient to break your leg, the second sentence tree nature straight. He didn't bother, didn't say that there was a parent-teacher conference, and he didn't say anything about tutoring homework. So the management of the past is called hard management, and the current management is called soft management. When we went to school, the teacher really opened his mouth to scold, raised his hand to beat, and now the children, we all say that we must not touch it. So why? It is because the times have changed, we need to use more soft management methods, soft management is too difficult.
Secondly, we want to achieve the transformation from hard management to soft management, the most important thing in the transformation process is the change of our thinking, we like to use accusations, accusations, and express our care, or that sentence, the era of hard management has passed, we have to make a transformation, to blame, to turn accusations into care and support. You really have to care about your child's learning, and if you don't understand it, you can choose to pour him a glass of water, and then tell him to pay attention to the combination of work and leisure, and then tell him that there is something you say hello to me. Silent companionship is the best love, you sit there with him, you can do it. A problem, a simple problem, before and after to the child told countless times, he still did not reply, and then he went to sleep, I sat calmly on the sofa, I did not lose my temper, did not say harsh words, maybe the child did not know that he would suddenly be.
The last is to wait, growth needs to wait, spring planting, autumn can be harvested, spring planting immediately harvested. That's genetically modified, it's a demon. You have to wait, don't worry, the biggest problem for all of us is that we can't sit still. You wait, he will brew himself, he will grow up, and the future will surely blossom. Some flowers bloom in the spring, some bloom in the summer, and some bloom in the fall. If our child is a plum blossom, it is blooming in winter, you can wait a while. So our silent companionship and support is the most important, don't use accusations, accusations to express your love, we want to use companionship and support.