When children are praised for their intelligence, they will gradually establish a fixed way of thinking. And what kind of bad impact will the fixed way of thinking have on the child?
From time to time, parents will praise their children for being smart.
"Baby, you're so smart, you're doing so well!"
"This painting is so good, I will definitely become a great painter when I grow up!"
Children will deliberately behave very smart in front of their parents. If a child wants to be smart in front of his parents, he or she will deliberately avoid asking his parents for advice. Because, children will feel that they are often tired of coping with various challenges, and parents will feel that I am studying hard and hard, which means that I am not smart enough. Over time, children will be afraid of challenges, and only things that can be done easily can prove that I am the smartest. And what I have to do with a lot of hard work will only show that I am not capable of enough.
When the child has this negative psychology, he will think that the efforts of others are a threat to himself, which will have a very bad impact on the child's future interpersonal communication. In particular, when a child enters the school and needs to work with classmates to complete something in a teamwork manner, this negative emotion will make the child jealous, but it will affect his normal play.
So, how do parents do it? The answer is: develop a growth mindset in your child.
01
Will actively learn
Children with a growth mindset believe that as long as they study hard, they will have more knowledge and are improving every day.
02
Will enjoy the challenge
Children will want to keep learning new things through challenges. Therefore, they will take the challenge as an opportunity to learn, and they will not mind making efforts in learning, and they are willing to invest more energy in order to learn.
03
Don't want to compare yourself to others
When a child sees someone else succeed, he will wonder why he is successful, what I do not have, and what I can learn from him to make myself successful.
How to cultivate a growth mindset?
1. The process and the result are equally important.
For example, parents end up seeing their children's paintings and pay little attention to the process of their children's paintings. It is as if a difficult yoga movement is completed step by step, from A to B is a slow process. If you were given three weeks or more to complete the maneuver, focusing on your hands in the first week and your legs in the second week, you could easily complete the seemingly difficult move in the third week.
2. Complete a complex matter step by step, and the difficulty of completion will decrease.
The same is true for family education, the next time a child has a new work, parents can compare it with the previous work, followed by the third time, the fourth time, and so on. When the child is about to lose confidence, the parents show the whole work to the child. After the children have compared, it is not difficult to find progress again and again. He would be very happy to tell his parents: "It turns out that I have made great progress from the first day to today." "Parents can lose no time in encouraging, and it will be better to work harder, and I believe that children will be full of confidence."
In short, the cultivation of growth thinking requires children to see setbacks as a learning process, and strive to be enterprising to meet new challenges.
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