Text/Moran
Regarding love and marriage, many people's concern is never what the other party is thinking, but looking at each other's conditions, family situation, and attitude towards themselves.
Most people ignore the true thoughts of a person's heart. More attention is on how to get the attention of the other party and run a good relationship.
But for falling in love and getting married, external material things are very important, but the other party is also very important.
A person's thoughts affect his behavior, which may not be exposed now, but will be manifested one day in the future.
Once a person chooses the wrong one, no matter how hard he tries, it is useless to pay.
When choosing a person, we must see each other's minds clearly, and never fall in love with someone else in our hearts and get married. Believe that you can never touch a person.
I once heard a saying that there is a grave in your heart, and there is a burial of the undead, and you will never be able to replace the undead.
A person has others in his heart, this kind of thinking has long been deeply rooted, not relying on your efforts to shake the status, move a person.
If you fall in love with someone who has someone else in mind, you will fall into pain, so that the clown will be yourself, and you cannot change a person's thinking, you can only wronged yourself.
But in the long run, loving someone is impossible not to care, so that each other will fall into pain.
You think that if you work hard and be good to him, you can replace the person in the other person's heart, but in fact, you are only touched by yourself in the end.
Someone else in your heart is not worth your efforts and wastes, because you can never compare with the person in his heart.
Even if you do a good job, can you compete with a surviving person? In the end, only you are not happy.
Feelings are doomed from the beginning, you can never replace the beauty in his heart, after all, it is his youth, and it may accompany a person's life.
If you can accept the fact that one has someone else in mind, you are not qualified to think about it, because you should bear it yourself no matter how you choose.
The story of a friend, because he reached the right age and did not meet the right person, met a boy under the introduction of his family.
At first, she and the boys chatted okay, but she just felt that the other party was a bit macho, but other aspects were quite in line with her requirements.
After getting acquainted with each other for a while, the two people met, she had a good impression of the boy, the two people talked very happily, and then slowly determined the relationship between each other and chose to be together.
When she told me, she said that she seemed to be on top of her head and had never met such a conversation. Everything met her requirements for the boys.
I was happy for her, but I also sensibly reminded her not to fall into it completely.
For a while we did not contact again, and then she sent me a message saying that there was a problem between the two people, a fight, saying that the other party could not put down the ex-girlfriend in their hearts, she was more mindful, so she always accounted, cared, and blamed each other.
After a long time, the boy felt bored and tired, so he proposed to break up and let each other calm down.
At this time, she was completely panicked, did not know what to do, she could not put it down and could not change the facts before she confided in me.
In fact, about this kind of story, real life abounds, a person should never feel that he is the exception, has the ability to change a person.
Some people may say that there is no one in the heart of the girl who is pretentious, but for feelings, it is impossible to tolerate a third person.
If you're sure you're not the only one, don't try it lightly, or you'll only end up hurting yourself.
summary:
For feelings, many times they can't change it.
It is not his fault that there is a person in your heart who cannot forget a person, but if you choose a person who has someone else in your heart, you should realize what to face and what to bear.
For the pain of love, you have to bear it if you choose, and if you can't stand it, don't choose at the beginning.
Never feel that you have the ability to change a person, instead of having this time, it is better to choose a person who only has you in his heart, and only with you in his heart will he be happy.