Author | Petite clouds
The second season of "My Little Tail" ended, and the "most comfortable" pair of brothers and sisters was too unforgettable.
His brother Nie Zening was 27 years old, and his younger sister An An was just over two years old. Although the brothers and sisters have a 25-year age difference, it does not affect their status as "ideal brothers and sisters" in everyone's hearts.
The two get along comfortably, and the gentle brother is particularly good at guiding, known as "textbook level with baby".
The younger sister, An An, has several "titles".
Xie Nan called her "the decathlon sister of someone else's family".
Wang Yaoqing directly called her a "two-year-old independent woman",
Almost all the guests agreed that An An was a "good baby model".
Little girl, why have you received so much praise?
"Two-year-old independent woman", just so good
What is the first thing a two-year-old does when you wake up in the morning? Do you want your mother, or do you cry because you get up?
But Ann's daily routine is like this:
Immediately after waking up, get up, pull open the sleeping bag by yourself,
Crawl over the sleeping adult and find the bedside favorite picture book,
Then you start enjoying your morning reading.
The habit of loving to read allows An An to have a rich vocabulary,
The ability to express yourself is also amazing, see a certain scene,
She would search her mind for the exact words to describe.
For example, her brother ordered her favorite dessert,
Ask her if she likes it or not,
She tilted her small head and thought about it and said, "Eh, it's not bad...",
Because it was the first time my brother had eaten alone with her,
She added: "It's really special... ”
Brother took her on a trip,
Beautiful rooms prepared with care,
An An was very happy and gave back with "sweet words":
"Tonight, I'm going to sleep in my brother's heart...",
My brother was so happy that his mouth couldn't be closed.
On the prairie where the sun sets,
She told her brother, "It's sunset, it's beautiful."
Then the poem flourished and sang the ancient poem:
"I don't see the ancients before, and I don't see the comers after me." Thinking of the heavens and the earth, alone but weeping! ”
Love to read, express first-class, such a child, too cute.
But An An is not a "nerd" who "reads only the books of the sages", and her hands-on ability is also super strong:
In the morning, the adults placed her on the washstand, and Ann began to be busy brushing her teeth, washing her face, applying moisturizer...
An An helped himself, adults assisted;
As for eating by yourself, it is no longer a problem.
When playing, An An rarely asks adults to accompany him.
Or, sit upright and read a book,
While watching carefully, he also brought a cup of water from time to time to sip his saliva,
Like a "little professor" who is very dedicated to learning;
Or, she'll play with the toy intently,
When it's over, don't forget to put the toys and books back where they were.
An An also loves sports,
At 1 year and 10 months,
I learned to ski,
The balance car is also very skilled.
High IQ, lively personality, independent and confident,
Such a child is probably gifted, right?
Not.
Behind the child's personality and habits,
There must be a corresponding family education hidden.
Excellent character is inseparable from the proper stocking of parents
Raising children, Ann parents have always advocated "free-range".
An Ann and her brother participated in the show together,
When she handed An An over to her brother, her mother made only two requests:
First, under the premise of ensuring safety, there is no restriction on an anything to do.
Second, don't force her to do anything.
This is also the way my mother raised Ann,
No restrictions, no control, and support children to act according to their own ideas.
Like what
In order to facilitate An An's participation in cooking,
Mom made an exclusive wooden cart,
As long as Ann is willing, her mother will put her on it,
Let her help with rice panning, washing vegetables, washing dishes.
For kitchen affairs, An An has long been skilled,
Know how to pull down the faucet,
How much dish soap to squeeze,
How to wash dishes, fruits and vegetables, etc.
There are not too many adult restrictions,
An An has cultivated autonomy beyond that of children of the same age.
And the brother also perfectly continued the mother's education method,
Neither forbidden nor forced her to do anything.
What is even more valuable is that
In the face of difficulties, her brother also has a good way to give her positive guidance.
The first time I took swimming lessons with my brother,
An Ann, who has always been lively,
But he did not dare to introduce himself in public,
Nor does it respond to greetings from children.
To this end, the brother specially planned a "social training class".
The two came to the big supermarket,
Her brother encouraged her to ask strangers for help.
After accepting help from others, An An still did not say "thank you".
My brother didn't blame, and he didn't force her to speak,
Instead, she was guided to touch the other's hand with her fist in gratitude.
This is also a gesture commonly used by brothers and sisters to express gratitude.
This time, An An did not refuse.
A little action,
Opened the door of Ann's heart,
In the next communication with strangers,
She was able to say thank you,
I also praised the beauty of my aunt, whom I did not know.
can give freedom,
Supplemented by positive guidance,
Respect whatever the child ultimately chooses.
This gives children a solid sense of security,
With the psychological conditions to examine the self,
In the face of different things, she can make the right choice,
Thus having better behavior,
It also nourishes the child's psychology and personality health and soundness.
And the richer and more diverse the experience,
The better the child's intelligence develops.
As the psychological counselor Li Xue said:
"It is not knowledge that allows children to develop intellectually, but experience."
Experience is also the process of children learning how to learn,
Gain problem-solving skills.
Instead of instilling knowledge in children,
It is better to let him explore the world freely.
This is the key to determining whether the child is good or not.
Parents who are free-range, there will be "humility" in their hearts
Early childhood educator Maria Montessori points out that
Young children are born with spiritual embryos,
It is it that guides children step by step to complete the wonderful and fearsome growth.
Look at the process of children learning to turn over,
No one instructs you how to make a force, how to find support.
But the child receives the command from the mental embryo to "desire to turn over",
Trying hard again and again,
Finally complete this "feat" of life.
If parents are the first teachers of a child to come into the world,
Then the mental embryo is the child's "inner teacher",
Live within it and guide every step of growth.
As "When I Meet Someone, the Mother-Baby Relationship Determines Everything About The Child":
"If parents do not teach their children self-righteously,
Do not force children to be what their parents imagine,
The child develops himself according to the guidance of the inner spiritual embryo,
Achievements will far exceed parents' imaginations. ”
The happiness of two-year-old An Ann lies in,
Her nurturers are humble people.
So is the same,
Only then can they tolerate and accept all the behaviors of their children and respect her choices.
A child who is more than one year old, just learned to walk,
But Ann fell in love with skiing.
This kind of exercise, for children who have just mastered the sense of balance in the body,
It's too risky.
But parents do not self-righteously restrict,
Instead, it is bold to let go, under the premise of ensuring safety,
Respect your child's wishes and support attempts.
The good news is that An An actually showed a talent for skiing,
Snowboarding is better than many adults.
The "generosity" of parents because of humility,
Let An An's soul be unbound and boldly explore the world,
And absorb knowledge like a sponge, becoming the "genius baby" that everyone envies.
In a short video, the girl has a dream of an astronaut since she was a child.
Dad often accompanied her to play the game of "landing on the moon",
I also specially customized beautiful spaceshoe shoes for her.
When the child grows up, he slowly refuses to communicate with his father,
Nor do I want to talk about unsatisfactory academic performance.
Although the father does not understand the change of his daughter,
But do not blame, do not force change,
As always, accompany her,
And carefully collected the astronaut toys of her daughter's hours.
Until her father died, the girl discovered these "treasures",
At this time, she finally understood her father's eyes full of love and expectation.
The girl was greatly encouraged and began to study hard,
Eventually, he was admitted to his ideal aviation school.
Parents do not need to be experts in education to teach their children well.
Just stay humble,
Always respect and accept your child's behavior and choices.
Such inclusive love can stimulate the potential of children,
Promote the growth of saplings into large trees,
And it blossoms into brilliant flowers and bears fruitful fruits.
Wu Zhihong said,
Love and freedom are indispensable in parenting,
If the child has both received full love,
also gain full freedom,
He's going to be his own person in the first place.
And eventually, it is bound to become a self-actualizer.
The correct stocking is,
Parents don't do coaching, willing to be sparring,
That is, let the child have boundaries, but also let him dare to challenge,
Let go of the anxiety and fear in parenting,
We will see our children grow stronger and stronger day by day.
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Author: Jiaoyun, who uses words to heal himself and please others. Some of the pictures in this article come from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.