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Many people are pursuing a perfect life all their lives, so what kind of life is perfect, and what kind of enjoyment can be called the top?
There is no such thing as a perfect life in this world, but as for the top enjoyment of life, it does actually exist, and it is based on the will of man.
For people who like money, a lifetime of eating and drinking, economic freedom of life is the top enjoyment, and for those who value feelings, family fun, and a lifetime of beauty is also the top enjoyment.
Everyone's cognitive thinking and subjective feelings about the outside world come from the projection of the heart, in other words, the external environment determines people's thinking patterns, and also shapes the concept of top enjoyment in everyone's heart.
The question to be explored today is, if you start from your own subjective level, what is the top enjoyment?
Psychology is a discipline that studies people's psychology, which is dedicated to satisfying people's desire for happiness. Is the concept of top enjoyment influenced by the external environment or shaped by the inner psychology?
From a psychological point of view, the top enjoyment of life has a great relationship with people, and in the eyes of different psychologists, the top enjoyment also has different appearances.
Individual psychologist Adler once discussed the concept of top enjoyment in the book "The Courage to Be Hated", in his view, the most beautiful thing in the world is that a person can overcome the inferiority in the depths of the heart, so as to achieve self-transcendence, only by obtaining such ideas, it is entitled to be called enjoying life.
Rogers, the founder of the humanistic psychological school, believes that the balance in life is the top enjoyment, and people are always looking for ways to balance their contradictions, but if one day you really do this and realize the value of your life, then you have the top enjoyment.
Maslow needs hierarchy theory to point out. As the top of the pyramid, the realization of self-worth must be called a top enjoyment, and if a person wants to get the highest level of things, then he must obtain the highest level of satisfaction, and this satisfaction is obviously linked to the realization of personal value and spiritual needs.
These three psychologists seem to say different things, but their pursuits are the same. The top enjoyment of life is the process of self-balancing and the pursuit of self-worth, which is an experience from the inside out, which originates from the heart and does not depend on the external environment.
What is enjoyment? Desires are satisfied before they can be called enjoyment.
It is not excluded that some people get inner satisfaction and comfort due to changes in the external environment, but this enjoyment is outward-looking and inward, and cannot last too long, once the freshness passes, the heart will be filled with boring and boring feelings.
When a person has a vigorous vitality from the inside out, the subject's attitude to the objective world is the top enjoyment from the inside out.
The subjective attitude towards the objective world is actually man's cognitive concept of self, others, and society. The existence of psychology proves from the side that changes in the environment can affect people's life experience, but this positive or negative effect does not bring decisive effects.
From the perspective of shallow needs, most of the satisfaction that people think of stays at the level of material needs. And the deep top enjoyment is often only 4 words, that is, living in the moment.
Why is living in the moment called a top treat?
In the eyes of most people, these 4 words have a very strong negative color, although on the surface it gives people a way to live and live in the world, but the deep meaning of living in the present is actually contentment and peace, which not only means that you have an indifferent attitude towards life changes, but also shows your great wisdom and open-minded outlook on life.
Tomorrow and accidents can not be known to anyone who comes first, and only living each day calmly is the best way to take life seriously.
However, in the process of growing up, people are always required by teachers and parents and people who expect you to achieve something, you must have a long-term and clear plan, only in this way can the value of life be realized.
But life is difficult to smooth sailing, bumps and unevenness is the norm of life, just as The poet Li Bai also had a big dream when he was young, but several degrees of officialdom are difficult to achieve after all.
There is a term in psychology called psychological resilience, which refers to the ability of a person to resist stress and recover when encountering negative situations.
The more resilient the person, the better his recovery ability, no matter what kind of difficulties and obstacles he encounters, he can live optimistically and positively.
Living in the moment can solve 80% of your pain, and those unnecessary anxieties and uneasiness can disappear from now on.
Living in the present moment is still a kind of wisdom in life, only if you truly understand the meaning of these 4 words, you can have a new understanding. I wonder what you think about this?
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Author | Tommida
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).