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Since ancient times, Chinese have paid attention to repaying one report after another: what kind of cause is planted, what kind of fruit will be produced, not not unreported, the time has not yet come.
No one has ever done anything bad and retreated completely, even if he escaped the condemnation of his conscience, he could not escape the pressure of public opinion supervision. The matter of the lady of the Huizhou banquet is a living example.
There are many things that are not exposed like that, most of which are small things that happen around everyone, and it is not easy to attract the attention of others, nor will it be deeply investigated.
However, these inconspicuous little things in front of outsiders can cause disputes again and again at home. Saying that the public is justified, and the mother-in-law is reasonable, they all feel that they are benevolent and righteous, and it is others who deliberately provoke them.
Not only the Internet has memories, but people also have them. The things you have done will exist in everyone's memory and become the basis for how to treat you.
A friend of mine had such an experience, obviously did not take on the responsibility of being his grandmother, and still delusionally tried to fool his grandson every day, and finally did not even want to see her son. It can be seen that the causal cycle makes sense.
The child is not called grandma, and the mother-in-law finds the daughter-in-law to be accountable
"Daughter-in-law, you come here, and your mother has something to ask you." Zhang Yue was cooking in the kitchen, and he was called by his mother-in-law, who had only recently returned home.
"I see that other people's children are small and will be called people, why is my grandson 5 years old, and he can't be called grandma?" Didn't you usually teach him how to talk? Don't you care at all? How did this mother do it? As soon as she sat down, her mother-in-law scolded Zhang Yue for splitting his head and covering his face.
Zhang Yue was not easy to explain, and was making a mistake, and the child came over, "Mom, hungry!" ”
"Will call people, why not call me, is not going to say grandma" The grandson called her mother in front of her, indicating that she can still talk, that should just not be called grandma.
"Come here, good grandson, call Grandma." I'm Grandma, Grandma, Three Voices. "You're not Grandma, Mom said Grandma hasn't come over in her own house yet." Zhang Yue's mother-in-law pulled the child closer to her side and wanted to teach him to call people, but she did not expect that the child was childlike and unscrupulous, and she could not get off the stage on the spot.
"That's how you taught my children to let my grandson call someone else's grandmother, you're such a good mother, forget whose house you live in now is so ungrateful, I shouldn't have agreed to my son marrying you in the first place, it's really unfortunate." 」 The child's words completely shattered her illusions, and she thought that there was a problem with education, but she did not expect that it was the result of being instigated by her own daughter-in-law.
Ignoring the grandson, the daughter-in-law counts the mother-in-law's dereliction of duty
"Well, Mom knows, you're good, let's go back and play first, okay?" Mom will cook quickly and call you when she's ready. The child is still young, many things can not let him know, Zhang Yue can only first appease his son, and then explain the words with his mother-in-law.
"Mom, the child is young and somewhat recognized, don't worry about him." Zhang Yue was worried that her mother-in-law had an opinion on the child and first cleared the relationship for him.
"It's still with you, of course I know. I didn't bother with him, I was just worried that the upper beam was not right and the lower beam was crooked, and the child's attitude now was mostly inseparable from your mother. "They are all mothers, although the mother-in-law is angry at this time, but she also knows that the child is still young, there are not so many twists and turns, if no one deliberately guides, he will never know what a grandmother represents."
"Mom, you just came from my sister-in-law, I don't know." The child has been with my mother since birth, and usually my husband and I are busy at work, and my mother is helping to take care of it. Whoever is good to him, who is close to him, the child knows in his heart. In the beginning, even I was a mother who couldn't compare to my grandmother. ”
He didn't know who to hear that the best thing for his grandson was his grandmother, and he wanted to call me grandma or die. I would like to correct it, but he doesn't even see you a few times a year, he has no impression of you, and we can't do anything about it. Zhang Yue did not intend to perfunctory past, how the mother-in-law treated this grandson in the first place, they all knew it, there was no need to pretend to be peaceful.
Eccentric sister-in-law, the husband is dissatisfied with the eccentricity of the mother, unwilling to take care of
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were talking, and Zhang Yue's husband returned from work. Seeing her son return, Zhang Yue's mother-in-law's first reaction was to complain to her son, "You look at your good wife, instigate your grandson not to call me grandma, and now and all kinds of perfunctory excuses for me." I think that sooner or later he will make a fuss at home, and if you don't teach him a good lesson, sooner or later you will turn against the heavens. ”
"Mom, you have no other reason to make trouble, I also know that the child calls Grandma, that is the child's own willingness, not at all as you said to be provoked by Zhang Yue." What children do at this age has a number in their minds, instead of picking thorns all day, it is better to think about it, why does the child not recognize you? "After a tiring day, I just came home and encountered such a bad thing, and men didn't have a good look for their own mothers."
"You two both feel that I am to blame, and don't forget whose name this house is now." It was not easy for me to take care of you growing up, and now that's how I repay you? I already knew that you were a white-eyed wolf couple with the same smell, and I didn't want to give you this house empty. Seeing that his son did not help, the old man used the usual trick, in order to calm things down, they will definitely apologize to themselves and be soft.
"Okay, mom, how did you treat me and how you treated my sister when you were a child, don't need me to tell me." Sister gets married, you send a house to her name, I get married, you rent a house and fall in your own name; he is still a treasure after she gets married, you run to her every three to five, you feel bored before you remember that I have a grandson here; when the child is just born, I beg you to help take care of it, you don't say anything to pack your bags and run. Never thought of sending a message to me as a son to make a phone call, in your eyes only sister's child, I can only dip her light. "Seeing that his mother is going to cry and make trouble and hang himself three times, he can't bear it anymore, why is he wronged and seeking perfection for so many years, when the mother's birth of the child is not responsible, what qualifications do he have to be a mother?
"She's your sister, so why don't I look at her so badly?" The old man did not feel that he was wrong, both of them were his children, the palms of his hands and the backs of his hands were meat, who was good or not?
"Okay Mom, just when you mentioned the house, I'll tell you." We are planning to move to my mother-in-law's house, this house is empty or sold, just beg me, I will not come back, you good to yourself. After saying that, he pulled Zhang Yue to go, simply packed up some luggage, took the child to leave, and saw the mother sitting in the living room in a daze, and did not leave a word.
Be merciful, and adults should be responsible for their actions
In our daily work and life, any small negligence may lead to big failures, so people with a strong sense of responsibility can not only be trusted, but also lay a solid personality foundation for their careers on the road to success.
Being responsible for one's own words and deeds is the most basic requirement of being a person, and it is also the principle of handling things. This is because a person can be responsible for his own words and deeds, which shows that he is responsible and honest, so others can trust you, which is also the recognition of people's values.
The lack of honesty and trustworthiness in responsibility is not only a kind of slack in one's own responsibility, but also an irresponsibility to others. Therefore, any person should be responsible for his own words and deeds, which is the basic principle of being a person and the minimum moral code of a person.
A person who has a sense of responsibility for his words and deeds is not only reflected in the face of great right and wrong, but also in small things.
In life, it is not an easy task to truly remain responsible for your words and deeds.
People's sense of responsibility is like a balance, and the slightest deviation will have different results. When The day is inclined to be responsible for its own words and deeds, it will gain the trust and respect of others.
Today's topic
If you are a mother who is disgusted by her son's family, where to start to save the family that could have been in the same family for three generations
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