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01
Sometimes men never know what is wrong, and even when they know they are wrong, they still attribute the reason for their mistakes to other people.
This became a reason for how many women no longer had any illusions about men.
Zhang Yi (pseudonym) is a city woman with a kind heart, but also a little love brain
When you meet the man you like, you will lose your opinion, and you just want to be with your beloved him all the time.
At a company party, Zhang Yi met the man who made her love brain unmistakable
— Wang Kai (pseudonym).
Wang Kai was born in the countryside, the family is not rich, it can even be said that it is relatively embarrassing, his parents are also authentic rural people, farming for a lifetime, all the savings in addition to supplying the family and providing Wang Kai with education, there is very little left.
But despite this situation, they are very fond of this son, perhaps they themselves prefer sons to daughters, thinking that having a son is the greatest honor.
Wang Kai has a bright brain from a young age, is naturally lively and active, and is also a little bit of understanding in learning
Finally, I was admitted to a fairly good undergraduate school. Because of his quick thinking, ability to speak the Tao, and a little luck, Wang Kai was favored by the boss of the state-owned enterprise who came to the school to recruit, and after graduation, he went directly to the state-owned enterprise to work, and slowly stabilized in the city.
The encounter between the two is not surprising. Although Zhang Yi is not a rich family girl, but she also looks like a water spirit, Wang Kai looks at a handsome young man, through a mutual friend to introduce the two people, suddenly look at the right eye. Being together is also a natural thing.
Zhang Yi, who is in love with the brain, has a special love for Wang Kai, and the little bird is dependent on people, afraid that Wang Kai will be separated from himself
。 Wang Kai also let himself go to this
The little woman who "manipulated" was more satisfied, and the two also got a license and got married.
But because of this, Wang Kai after marriage seems to have changed into a person, and Zhang Yi is obedient to himself and more and more brutal to Zhang Yi. After marriage, it is even more excessive.
Soon after the marriage, Zhang Yi became pregnant. After being pregnant in October, Zhang Yi, who gave birth to a child, although not bedridden, was also relatively weak. It just so happened that Wang Kai's mother, that is, her own mother-in-law, had a cold in those days, which made Wang Kai her heart, and even let Zhang Yi, who had just given birth, take care of her mother. Zhang Yi asked angrily:
"I just had a baby, and the person who should be taken care of is me!" Wang Kai replied, "You're still young!" I don't think you're healthy now? Take care of your mother's cold, you again
sit
It's not too late for confinement
Although Zhang Yi was very angry, he still listened to Wang Kai's words and did it.
But it's really your own baby's own pain. A few days later, Zhang Yi's mother came to see Zhang Yi, who thought she was in confinement, and entered the house, but saw that Zhang Yi was not lying on the bed to recuperate, but was busy in the kitchen, Zhang Yi angrily questioned Zhang Yi, Zhang Yi told her mother the truth of the matter, Zhang Yi listened, and took Zhang Yi back in a huff
Maiden
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Back home, Mother Zhang was nagging, complaining, and distressed. His daughter suffered such treatment in her in-laws' house, how could she swallow this breath.
After the enlightenment of her family, Zhang Yi woke up and decided to divorce her husband Wang Kai.
The moment Wang Kai received the divorce agreement was calm, because he felt that Zhang Yi could not do without himself at all, thinking that this was Zhang Yi's impulsive approach, he calmly signed the agreement and quietly waited for Zhang Yi to regret it and come to him.
But he never thought that what he was waiting for was not the news that Zhang Yi, who had just come out of the moon, came to ask for a reunion, but that Zhang Yi was about to marry someone else
"Bad news".
At this time, Wang Kai knew regret, regretting that he did not keep Zhang Yi at that time, he angrily went to Zhang Yi's house, pointed at Zhang Yi's mother and said that she must have obstructed it. At this moment, Zhang Yi saw this man thoroughly
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02
In fact, I have heard a lot of marriage tragedies, and from this story, what we can know is:
First: One-sided preference is not love.
Some people always like to give silently; always think that as long as they love him, they can impress him; and they always feel that as long as they insist, the other party will change their minds.
But often the more such a person, the more he can't get the other party's heart, and the more he can't get the respect of the other party
The end result is not only the loss of the person you love, but also the loss of self.
We hear it often
"Good love should go in both directions." Many people know this, but when they meet someone they like, they immediately forget about it. While love washes over their minds, it also takes away the most basic sobriety and sanity.
What we need to be clear is that a person's unilateral preference, not love, blindly pay will only make him lose a failure.
There is a female friend next to her, who often complains that her boyfriend does not care enough about herself, that he does not love her: does not remember her birthday, never takes the initiative to care, and even accidentally gets pregnant to let her go to an abortion.
It is also true that he just does not love her. She thought she had met love, but in fact she had only met someone who was content to accept her preferences but did not love her.
"I've seen you love me, so I know right away when you don't love me." Love is two-way, and when you feel that you are the one who pays unilaterally, it is time to "stop the loss in time".
Second: The tolerance between husband and wife cannot be exchanged for harmony.
The idea of putting up with the wind and waves may apply to many things, but it is by no means suitable for couples.
Marriage is the graveyard of love, and there is a reason for the words. Because once married, two people are no longer faced with not only love, but also life. Chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea has become a matter to consider, in addition, giving birth to children and taking care of both parents is even busier. As soon as there are many things, it must also increase the cause of quarrels.
Many couples always think that a bearish end, as everyone knows, a problem is like a tree, the root of the problem is the root of the tree, cutting down the tree seems to solve the problem, but as long as the root is still there, the tree will grow again, so if you want to solve a problem, you still have to
"Uprooted".
Forbearance is definitely not a solution to the problem, it is the embodiment of laziness, but also a manifestation of the lack of confidence between husband and wife, it is not in exchange for harmony, but more and more disputes and misunderstandings.
To run a good marriage, communication is needed and necessary. Never think that if you don't say it, the other party can also understand themselves and understand themselves. Timely communication and timely correction are the best ways to build a good relationship between husband and wife.
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