The older generation believes in "stick education", in their view, educating children is very simple, just beat up once, really can be beaten twice. Today's parents shout "don't yell and don't teach their children", but how many can control themselves?
Cases of beating children abound on the Internet, and I have many parents who beat their children around me, especially the eldest sister downstairs, whose son had to be beaten twice a week almost twice a week when he was in junior high school.
Professor Li Meijin once said in the "Round Table Pie": If the child breaks the law, punishment is actually a kind of protection, let him know that he is afraid, let him really regret it, and never dare to do it again, and really let him dare not to protect him.
Punishment is a way of educating children to know respect and fear. Just punishing the child requires skill, especially the fight, be sure to pay attention to the position. These 3 places are the 3 "lifelines" on the child' body, and parents cannot fight if they are angry again, so as not to cause lifelong regrets.
01, the back of the child's head can not be hit
The back of the head should be the most "handy" position, right?
The child is not tall, the parent will slap the child on the head with a slap, if there is something in hand, it may be directly patted. My baby is 6 years old this year, 126 centimeters tall, whether I stand or sit, every time I get angry, I especially want to pat his head, and by the way, I scold again: Are you underwhelming?
Fortunately, I was sane online and was able to control myself well every time, and I didn't hit him in the head when I got angry.
The back of the child's head is very fragile, when people are angry, it is difficult to control their strength, a little attention may hit the problem, injured baby has been injured, regret can not reach.
I once saw such a case: an 8-year-old girl in Shaanxi suddenly felt unwell at night, dizzy and nauseous, and was unable to return to heaven after being sent to the hospital... The reason turned out to be a habitual action of the mother!
That afternoon, the girl was watching TV while writing homework, the homework made a lot of mistakes, the mother was too angry to hit the back of the daughter's head, the result of the girl out of the skull. inside. defeat. crack. injure.
Although the doctor said that there were some problems in the child's brain, the mother's slap caused the child's deformity. shape. brain. blood. tube. break. Cracking is only the cause of SI death; but the harm of hitting the back of the head should not be underestimated. This position is an important part of the human body, without the protection of the skull, and when it is hit by external forces, it is easy to damage the nerves.
Moreover, the center that controls breathing and heartbeat - the bulbar is also located in the back of the head, and after the back of the head is impacted by external forces, it is easy to cause respiratory concussion, which in turn causes some complications of respiratory failure and causes SI death.
Therefore, parents can not hit the back of the child's head when they are angry, and they must also teach the child to protect the back of his head and not be hit by external forces.
02, the child's face can not be hit
As the saying goes, "exposing people does not reveal shortcomings, hitting people does not hit faces", punching people is a very insulting behavior, it is easy to hurt children's self-esteem. If you punch your face too hard, it may also cause eardrum damage and affect your child's hearing.
In March last year, a father in Shenzhen "beat" his 11-year-old son into the hospital. At that time, the father was helping his son to write homework, the son has been grinding and chirping, he was very angry, he raised his slap to try to scare his son, but accidentally hit the left side of the son's face, and then the son's left ear could not hear clearly.
When I went to the hospital for examination, the doctor said that the eardrum of the child's ear was perforated and accompanied by mild hearing loss. Fortunately, after a period of treatment, the child's hearing returned to normal!
Seeing this, do you dare to punch your child in the face again?
There are many parents who do not punch their faces or nod their heads, but prefer to poke their children's temples with their hands, which is also not allowed!
The temples are the weakest part of the entire skull, only 1-2 mm thick. It is also the intersection of the skull and facial bones, and there is a very important blood vessel underneath it, the middle meningeal artery. When the temple is hit, the bone will be damaged, and the blood vessel inside will also rupture and bleed, endangering life.
Therefore, parents should not punch the child's face, poke the child's temple, but also pay attention to safety, do not let the child play and run with sharp objects.
03, the child's back can not be hit
Don't hit your child's back, don't hit your child's back, don't hit your child's back! Say important things 3 times!
Seeing this, many parents expressed doubts: the head cannot be hit, the face cannot be hit, how can the back not be beaten? Indeed, for children, the back is also a key place to protect!
The child is still growing and developing, the spine and cervical spine are not fully developed, very fragile, and the back is still the child's protective layer, protecting the internal organs inside. If the parent's strength is larger, it is likely to hurt the internal organs inside, including the kidneys, liver, and even the spinal cord, nervous system, etc., thus affecting the healthy development of the child.
The child's abdomen is also a relatively fragile part, once hit hard, it may hurt the internal organs inside; the limbs are relatively better, but can not be too strong, otherwise it is easy to cause fracture damage.
This can't be fought, that can't be fought, where can parents fight?
In fact, the education of children should also be based on teaching, supplemented by punishment. The punishment is not just to fight!
The Czech educator Comenius once said that those who make mistakes should be punished, but they are punished not because they have made mistakes, but because they will not make mistakes in the future.
Hitting children is not the goal, let them know that reverence is the most important thing!
A person should have his own bottom line, and once he touches this bottom line, he has to bear all the consequences.
Children are the same, when they touch the bottom line, parents should take certain measures, let them recognize the mistakes, self-reflection, correct bad behavior - according to the child's age and specific problems, set up targeted punishment methods, such as doing housework, repetitive writing, deducting pocket money and so on.
If the child breaks the law, such as throwing objects in the air, the first time they should be severely punished, let them know that they are afraid, know regret, so that there will be no second or third occurrence!
If the child does not change repeatedly, he can also beat him once to let them know that they are afraid. When my son was 4 years old, he was beaten for the first time in his life because he peed in his grandfather's cup and repeatedly taught him.
The first time he urinated, the old man said that the child was too young to understand things, and should be reasonable with him; the second time, the old man said that things were not three, and the child should be given the opportunity to correct... When the third time it happened, I just took him in my arms and beat him up, and I never dared to pee again.
Dingma Message:
Teach children not to be blindly reasonable, nor to fight casually. Hitting the child at a small thing will only make the child more and more skinny, on the surface it is afraid and afraid, but in fact, it is the rattan in the hands of the parents, who no longer reflect and correct, but cover up or flee.
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