Male outside is also good
The heroine is also good
It's all a choice
There is no good or bad
01
In people's seriousness, it seems that the male and female protagonists have always been conventional, because in the past, women were not highly educated, and they were not allowed to work outside, most of them stayed at home to teach their husbands and children, and men went out to work to earn money.
So it continues to the present, but now life is stressful, many families in the city to work hard, buy a house, rely on the struggle of one person to live a family life is still difficult.
Coupled with the fact that women gradually began to go out of the family and into society, they also have their own place in society, on the same level as men in work, on the family will not pay less.
So at this time, there was a female protagonist outside the male protagonist, but many people began to be dissatisfied, thinking that whether women work or not, they should take on more responsibilities for the family.
Especially when there is a conflict between family and work, everyone is accustomed to thinking that women have to make concessions for the sake of the family.
02
Remember a quote from "Our Marriage": the child and the father said, I am going to school early, because the mother wants to work, and the man is very unhappy to find a wife, you have to discuss with me.
When the woman retorts that it is her own business, the man says, the whole family goes to work, who takes care of the children, who manages the house, you really want to work, I will find you a leisure.
She said what is idle work, when it comes to work, it must be based on you, and there must be one person who makes a sacrifice that is me.
In fact, this passage speaks out the voice of many women, why do women have to be in the Lord?
Even if it is really because the woman wants the Lord, it is necessary to consider her and negotiate it beforehand, rather than acquiescing that she must make concessions.
03
Why women refuse to be in the Lord, because they are not respected
Many times women sacrifice their careers because of family and children, take care of children at home, take care of the family, and daily chores.
There is no time to rest all day, but you can't get the understanding of your family, and everyone says that you are so idle at home and not tired.
Or just think you see me working so hard outside, come home and understand your emotions and help you work.
It seems that it is very idle at home, but those who have brought children at home know how bitter it is.
So if she doesn't want to be at home, wants to go out and work, wants to be more than just someone's mother, wife, and can be herself, then please support her.
Don't tie her up for family reasons and leave her unhappy.
04
The heroine should also recognize her ability
Many women work hard outside, and men are not willing at home, but their actual ability is not so strong, but it makes women sad.
For example, Qi Wei and her husband are very capable of working, and the children in the family are brought by their fathers, but when the husband respects her very much, feels that she is very hard outside, and is willing to take good care of the family, the two people will be very harmonious.
On the contrary, Chen Shan and her husband who watched some time ago were the female protagonist and the male protagonist, but the man did not handle the affairs at home well, and in the end, she said that her material requirements were not high.
Yeah, people at home say so, but what about the actual expenses?
Just like another couple, Lin Qingkun and Wu Min, are the male and female protagonists, but when the husband works outside, the female protagonist does not get the care of the husband at home, and she is very unhappy, and once suspected and even divorced.
Until the end, I also went to work, but the relationship was quite harmonious.
05
In fact, who is outside the lord has never been the key to determining the happiness of marriage.
Two people in a marriage are communities, whether it is a man who goes out to work or takes care of the family at home, or a woman who is at home to marry and teach children.
They all give full play to their own advantages, originally everyone makes up for each other, builds on their strengths and complements each other's weaknesses, and what kind of ability they have will play what kind of role.
As long as both parties are paying, then they should value each other, understand each other, and appreciate each other, because one is indispensable.
Imagine that without the other party's stable rear, where can you work with peace of mind, if it is not for him to provide money, how can you be at home?
In fact, no matter which choice, there are his reasons, everyone has their own area of expertise, as long as everyone performs their duties and lets the family function normally.
Every choice should shine brightly, because it is all wealth, it is all for the sake of family efforts.
It is an irreplaceable feeling of growing and progressing together.