Some people may have noticed that it seems that people with better family conditions at present are not willing to have a second or third child, and are more willing to put all their energy on one child. On the contrary, those with poor family conditions, the more they have to have a second or third child, which also makes many people express their incomprehension, thinking that these people should be "ignorant and fearless", in fact, the reason behind it may not be so.
Case: Parents are not getting more and more aware of the importance of "having more children" in their old age
Friend Kobayashi recently had a bad time, because Kobayashi is an only child, after marriage with his parents to live with his parents, now his parents are in their 70s, Kobayashi himself has two children, a large family life is more difficult, because only Kobayashi and his wife work to earn money to support the family.
In addition, recently, Kobayashi's parents are not in good health, both fell ill in bed, fortunately, the two children can help take care of the grandmother and grandparents, but after all, they are children, and they cannot rely on them completely.
Some time ago, Xiaolin's father was directly hospitalized because of cerebral hemorrhage, and Xiaolin and his wife basically spent every day at home, company, and hospital, which was really unable to take care of, made tired, and the mood became very depressed.
Kobayashi himself experienced this situation personally, and saw that other friends have at least one or two brothers and sisters, and they can help each other when encountering things, even if they can't provide material help, but they can also give encouragement spiritually, not to be as bad as he is now, and he understands more and more the importance of "multiple children".
Although his current family conditions are not very good, but he also gave birth to a man and a girl, he does not feel any burden, and the child is also very obedient, so it is enough. In fact, many only children will face the same situation as Xiaolin, especially when the parents reach the old age, there are more problems to face, and the more important it is to have brothers and sisters.
01 Why do people have to have two or three children the poorer they are? It is not "ignorant and fearless", forced by three major practical reasons
Some people say that the poor have a second or third child, that is, "the ignorant are fearless", which is disapproved by many people. Because although some people have bad conditions, but having a second or third child may also be forced by the helplessness of real life.
First of all, some parents consider that having only one child, the child may be more lonely, especially when they see that others have siblings, they will also envy, but also hope that parents can give them a brother or sister. In order to meet the needs of their children and to have better companionship between their children, parents will choose to have one or two more children.
Secondly, some parents choose to have more children because they have a longer-term perspective. It may be that only one child is born at the moment, for young parents, the pressure of parenting is relatively small, but if you look at it more long-term, then you must take into account that in the future, when the parents are old, whether it is the problem of care or the future handling of the aftermath, if there is only one only child, then for the only child, the pressure is still very large.
For a simple example, in some places, after the death of an old man, the cost of taking care of the aftermath is about 100,000 yuan, if there is only one child, then it means that all the pressure is borne by this child, plus other trivial things, I am afraid that people will collapse. But if there are multiple children who can help share the burden, then the pressure will be much less. Therefore, from a certain point of view, having more children can actually reduce the pressure on children in the future.
Finally, there is another practical reason is that having more children is also more secure for parents. Because if it is only an only child, it will not be filial piety in the future when encountering children, then the parents will have a harder time in their later years. But if there are many children, at least there is still a way back, one of the children is not filial piety, can rely on the other child, if multiple children are filial piety, then it is very happy. Of course, this is also related to whether parents can educate their children well, if the children are well educated, there is no question of filial piety or filial piety.
In the end, the situation of only children will have less pressure on parents when they are young, but in the later years of parents, for parents and children, the pressure is relatively large. And more children, when the parents are young, the pressure will be relatively greater, but in the later years, it is just the opposite. Therefore, whether there are only children or multiple lives still depends on personal choices, and there is no right or wrong.
It is also necessary to remind parents that whether it is an only child or a multiplicity, the key is to educate the child well, otherwise it will not only ruin the child's future, but also for parents, they will also bear the cost of educational failure with their children in the future. Because only by educating children well, in the future, whether it is the relationship between brothers and sisters, or the gratitude and filial piety to parents, it will be relatively more secure.