Recently, I heard a parent complaining that his child always makes mistakes
Parents had scolded their children when they had made mistakes before, but then they knew that scolding was wrong
So the child suppressed his anger when he made a mistake, and told the child a lot of reasoning with a pleasant face
But it still didn't work, and I didn't know what was wrong
I believe that this problem is also a parent-child education problem that many parents are currently facing
From a psychological point of view, parents are anxious when they see their children making mistakes
Under the domination of emotions, the treatment methods often adopted are easy to over-radicalize
Even if you have to endure anger and calmly go to the child to reason
It will still make the child feel the emotions of the parents
Moreover, sometimes children will have fear or anxiety after making mistakes
So, how should parents deal with their children's mistakes is the most reasonable?
The following editor shares with you seven steps to get rid of children who make mistakes:
The first step is to ask the child what happened
It's important to give your child a chance to speak when they make a mistake
Don't come up and directly rebuke and scold
The second step is to ask the child how he feels now
It's a process of letting a child vent his emotions
Only when the emotions have calmed down can we face things rationally
The third step is to ask the child what he thinks now
Encouraging children to express their true views will make them feel respected
This is the premise of parent-child communication
Step 4: Ask your child what he thinks he should do now
Inspire your child to think independently and let him try to face his mistakes independently
Step 5: Ask your child if they have thought about the consequences of doing so
Guide your child to analyze calmly and let him say what the problem is
And be aware of the consequences you have to bear
Step 6: Ask your child what he has decided to do now
Through the guidance and preparation of the first 5 steps, let the child decide from the heart to change
Cultivate their sense of responsibility and responsibility
Step seven: Ask your child what he needs me to do for you
Let the child clearly feel that the parents love themselves
Know that you always have the support and love of your parents behind your back
This will greatly enhance the child's sense of security
When a child makes a mistake, go through the above 7 steps to guide it step by step
Not only will it not affect the parent-child relationship
It will also make the child realize his mistakes from the bottom of his heart and correct them
At the same time, parents should also cherish this opportunity
Because when children make mistakes, it is precisely the opportunity for parents to correctly guide and educate!