As the saying goes, everything has a degree, and it is too much.
Overdoing things is just as inappropriate as not doing enough.
The same is true for family education, how to grasp the balance and prevent "too much", parents should pay special attention.
Today, I will list 6 parenting details that are easy to overlook, so let's read on:
Being too intimate with your child
Once, Hong Kong sister Li Jiaxin posted photos of bathing and kissing her son many times, which aroused heated discussions among netizens.
In this regard, some children's sex education experts said:
Parent-child interaction without a sense of boundaries will destroy children's physical boundaries and affect the normal development of children's sexual psychology.
After being kissed by parents too much, touched for a long time, and hugged for a long time, they will define these behaviors as "expressions of love".
Children can't tell what "aggression" is, and when faced with danger, they don't have the awareness to say "no" at all.
Therefore, no matter how much you love your children, you must pay attention to proportion, give them correct gender education, and build a solid line of defense for them!
The whole family revolves around the child
The author has read such a sentence in the book, which is very thought-provoking:
"Don't put your children first, otherwise, what awaits this family is mostly tragedy. ”
If the parents are in a low position, the children are in a high position, and the son is not obedient to the father, it will be difficult to carry out family education.
If everything is child-centric and good things are only given to children alone, they will not only take it for granted, but they will become more and more selfish.
You know, raising children is not just about revolving around them, but also about teaching them authority, rules, and gratitude.
Parents are slightly taller than their children, and they are the most ideal parent-child relationship!
Pursue the best conditions
In recent years, there has been an emerging concept: the "rich second generation" of the whole people.
To put it simply, whether rich or poor, parents should give everything they can to let their children enjoy the best conditions.
Among them, there are not only material "buy if you want to", but also "arranged substitution" in life.
I thought that children could concentrate on learning and lead to excellence, but unexpectedly, they learned early to be greedy for pleasure and love vanity.
In fact, the most conducive to children's growth should be to let them endure more hardships and temper more.
Remember, a healthy body, a sound personality, and a strong will are the best assets that parents can give their children!
Fear of losing at the starting line
During the winter and summer vacations, off-campus interest classes and tutoring institutions always make a lot of money.
In order not to be left behind by their peers, many children are forced to end their carefree childhood early and have to rush to study.
The idea is good, but in reality, can a child really become the best of his peers because of this?
Children's growth is not only about learning, but also about sports, play, hobbies, and hands-on practice.
If the child is tired, he will not learn anything well and will be very inefficient.
Only by combining work and rest, paying attention to habit formation and character cultivation, can children truly win at the starting line!
Expectations are too high
Pulling out seedlings and being ambitious is one of the common parenting mistakes made by many parents.
Studies have shown that many children who need psychotherapy often have problems due to family education.
They are overwhelmed by their parents' strict demands and high expectations, and they either become numb or rebellious.
Understand the mentality of parents who want their children to become successful children, but your expectations must be "tailor-made" for your children:
Age characteristics, mental level, ability status, and growth laws should all be taken into account.
Only then can your expectations become the motivation for your child's progress!
There is too much negative language
When educating children, many parents always talk about negative and negative words:
"Don't do ......", "You can't do this...... "Why don't you listen to me!" "Take the consequences!"
If you pay too much attention to your child's shortcomings, after a long time, they will be nervous and scared when they see you, for fear of being corrected by you.
A truly wise parent knows how to use positive encouragement to show your child the way:
"I think you'...... will achieve better results" "Do you want to try this ......"
When children receive positive cues, they will have more confidence and patience to correct their mistakes and do well!
Parenting is no trivial matter, and attention should be paid to the details.
May we all become qualified parents and teach excellent children!