The news that the neighbor's child was lost for the second time, I knew it from the circle of friends of a dessert shop owner's wife. Parents only said that their 8-year-old son could not speak.
It was an afternoon 7 years ago, and I took turns to rest at home. It was surprisingly quiet that day, and I always thought it was a little strange. Because the neighbor's house opposite lives an 8-year-old autistic child, and his grandparents. Children sometimes go to school for half a day, mostly at home. The child is particularly noisy at home, there will be all kinds of knocking sounds, there are his shouting and crying sounds.
The occupants of our building are more of a pity for the child and his grandparents, and no one has ever blamed the child's noise.
Before the child was 3 years old, his parents were busy at work, the child was taken care of by his grandparents, and the parents rarely went home to see the child, and they could not come once a month.
At the age of 3, he didn't talk much, took him to the doctor, and was diagnosed with autism. Parents took their children to special schools, and for a while they came home more frequently. But even in special schools, this child could not integrate, basically grandparents accompanied him, he refused to go.
Later, the parents wanted to have a second child, saying that they wanted to have a younger brother or sister, or to take care of their brother later.
With Xiao Bao, Da Bao was as little as before. Basically taken care of by grandparents.
Grandparents found their eldest son (the head of a kindergarten) and sent the child to try out a regular kindergarten, but the child could not adapt. Later, I could only go to a special school for three days to fish and two days to dry the net.
That day was particularly quiet, at night I saw the information of the circle of friends, checked the location, the child's appearance, and felt that it was the child opposite. The neighbor is not at home and may be out looking for the child. I went upstairs to the director of the neighborhood and confirmed that it was the neighbor's child who was lost.
But the family still avoided the outside world, only saying: "The child can't speak." In order to convey the information more accurately, I informed the hostess, thinking that she could help publicize: "The child has autism and is not very able to communicate." ”
Luckily, at 11 o'clock in the evening, a call came from 6 km away and the child found it. Found crouched in a corner by a taxi driver.
The next day Grandma said, "My grandson has found it!" Got it! Got it! "Grandma speaks in the dialect of her hometown, and everyone actually doesn't understand her words, but looking at her expression and movements, you can feel her joy."
It turned out that Grandma was making lunch at home that day, Grandpa went downstairs to take out the garbage and did not close the door, and the child slipped out with Grandpa on the front and back feet.
Maybe you have to ask the child how he got so far away, why he went out that day, he can't say it clearly, or he can't remember it.
As a close relative, the safe return of the child is the best thing!
Then I moved, and I didn't know the news of the child. It's just that he actually wants someone to play with someone who loves someone to accompany him, so every time my house opens the door, he runs in, so he will go downstairs by himself and go for a walk. But the elderly grandparents only hope that the children will not be lost at home, and they do not have the strength to take better care of the children.
The child's parents, who may have given birth to Xiaobao, really wanted the child to have a brother and sister to take care of, but they also snubbed the child even more.
As a family member of an autistic child, we can imagine how difficult it is, but please don't alienate them, their world is really just you!
As bystanders, seeing children who do not have adults around them paying more attention and asking more questions, and seeing children who behave strangely are less likely to wait and see more respect, which may be the greatest help for them!
(Some of the pictures are from the Internet, the copyright belongs to the original author)