Recently brushed vibrato, brushed to two children's passionate speech video:
"My father told me that every page you turn now is a bill that you will count in the future, so if you don't study, you are robbing you of your wealth, and what you don't want is a fool." Text annotation: First grade children's opening speech, want to understand this, do you still not work hard?
"You play games now, you can't get into a good university, you earn 3,000." You study well now and will earn 30,000 yuan in the future. Why would you make such a stupid choice? "Text: It's so right, the students who go to school should listen to what the child said.
Among them, the first video has 98,000 likes and 2,093 comments, and the number of views should exceed one million; the second video has more than 10,000 likes and more than 500 comments, and the number of views should also be hundreds of thousands.
Many netizens commented on being taught and supportive: "It's too realistic, your father is right, no one taught me this back then." "This kid is so domineering!" The future is sure to be remarkable. ”
But more netizens are still more rational and sober: "It is very realistic, but this kind of education will distort children's values." We should first educate them on how to behave and how to love the country and the people. ”
Although the child who spoke was only a little bit bigger, the tone of the pie and the momentum made people sound really thunderous at first, and the words poked their hearts. But calm down and think about it, these words should not come out of the mouths of children of this age.
Reading is for the sake of reason, wisdom and righteousness, not for the sake of money; the purpose of work is not only for salary, but more should be the way to achieve personal career and realize social value, not to mention requiring you to read for the rise of China, at least your three views are correct.
In this material society, it is true that more and more things are clearly priced, and it seems that money can buy everything. Some parents even think that money can buy their children's future and a happy life.
In life, there are indeed many parents who use such simple and rough operations, such as: children will give some monetary rewards when their academic performance improves; children do not cry, do not be unreasonable, and will give a certain amount of remuneration... Use profit drive to amplify the role of money indefinitely.
Such parents themselves are problematic, you instill this incorrect view of money into your children, everything is measured by money, even such a noble thing as reading, it is also crowned with a strong copper smell, which is worrying.
If you fail to establish a correct view of money from an early age, then in the process of growing up, including adulthood into society, most of them will also look at money, always calculate with you, calculate everything with you, how to get along with you in the future, how to get along with others in the future, and how will they treat themselves?
School is a place to teach and educate people, shouldering the special mission of cultivating national construction talents and future successors, your parents are not reliable, the school should not be confused, let a child who is like being brainwashed a little bigger, to a bunch of childish children to do incorrect guidance, such school education, can not help but worry.
It is said that parents are the best teachers of children, young children do not know how to distinguish between beauty and ugliness, first of all, they will only learn from their parents, to imitate, at this time, the father's words and deeds have a vital role model for children's education.
In terms of money concept and family education, Li Ka-shing has set a good example for his children to be diligent and thrifty through his own words and deeds, and even when he became rich, he also lived a thrifty and frugal life.
He usually wears a low-priced Japanese watch on his hand, wears a suit that has been worn for many years, and the house is a house that has been living for decades. He not only demanded of himself, but also taught his children to develop the good habit of thrift and thrift. When his children were studying abroad, he often encouraged them to work and study. Therefore, the father is a dragon, and the children are mostly dragons and phoenixes among people.
When I went to the cinema that day to see "Chosin Lake", the conversation between a mother and daughter next to me made me fall into contemplation.
"Mom, why are they going to war?"
"For liberation!"
"Didn't all new Chinas be established?" The daughter obviously knows more common sense than her mother.
"For the liberation of all mankind!" Mom's words seem to be more reasonable. But it attracted the sideways glances of others.
"You have to read well, don't always think about playing with your phone, you see how hard the war is!"
Unexpectedly, my daughter retorted with a straight face: "Don't you always play with your mobile phone, don't you always sleep like a lazy pig!" And now there's no need to go to war! ”
"Don't talk so much, watch the movie!" The mother did not understand whether she was afraid of affecting others, or whether she was speechless and terminated the conversation with her daughter.
To educate a good child, parents must learn to be a good parent, because the child grows up on the shoulders of the parents, and how far the child can eventually go depends on how far the parents have gone.
In addition to establishing correct values and developing good behavior habits, parents also need to have as much common sense knowledge as possible. It is not necessary to require you to learn five cars to be high, but some basic common sense should still be understood.
Now is the Internet age, if you want to learn what knowledge, understand what things, you can check and browse on the Internet.
If you don't learn any techniques yourself, don't know one, are lazy and strange, export into dirty, while lying comfortably and playing mobile phones, all night long touching mahjong, while asking children not to indulge in games, to study diligently, to be a good person, don't you feel weak in your heart?
Confucius said: "If his body is upright, if he does not order, he will obey; if his body is not correct, although he does not obey." "If you are a qualified or even excellent parent, you don't have to discipline too much, your words and deeds can have a positive impact on your child."
Children will one day leave their parents and go to society, they must first learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant. Parents should use their own words and deeds to help their children cultivate independent, confident, perseverance and brave character, so that they have the courage to overcome difficulties, be enterprising and have the spirit of cooperation, so as to better gain a foothold in society. Such family education is a successful education.
"If you don't teach, it's the father's fault." Parents are the best teachers for children, parents are role models for children, and children are miniature versions of parents. In traditional Chinese etiquette culture, teaching by example and leading by example is the most important method of godson for parents, and it is also the code of conduct for shaping children's beautiful cultivation.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Zeng Shan was a proud protégé of Confucius.
One day, Zengzi's wife wanted to go to the market to catch the market, and the younger son was clamoring to go with him, so the great-wife prevaricated the child and said, "You are waiting at home, and when your mother buys something, she will kill the pig stew for you to eat." ”
When zeng's wife returned home, she saw zengzi tying a pig with a rope, with a sharp knife next to it, preparing to kill the pig, and hurried forward to stop it: "Why do you really want to kill the pig?" I was just coaxing the kids to come. ”
Zeng Zi said to his wife seriously: "The child is small, he does not understand anything, he will only learn from his parents, listen to the teachings of his parents, and today you deceive your children with false words, which is equivalent to teaching your children to deceive people with false words after teaching them." ”
"Once the child feels that the parents' words are unreliable, what we say in the future, he will no longer believe it, and it will be difficult to educate the child in the future." We can't cheat on children, and every word and deed we do is an influence. ”
The unity of knowledge and deeds, and the consistency of words and deeds, is the magic weapon for parents to teach their children by word and deed. Meng Mu moved three times and chose her neighbor, taking pains to create a better growth environment for her children; Tao Mu sealed the altar and retired, teaching her children to be innocent and honest as officials.
Mencius, who eventually became a famous philosopher, thinker, politician, and educator during the Warring States period, was a representative of the Confucian school after Confucius and before Xunzi, and was called "Confucius and Meng" along with Confucius. The gentleman believes that this is all the result of Meng Mu's gradual indoctrination.
Tao Kan was an outstanding Chinese politician, military figure, calligrapher, and writer. His "righteousness-based, self-cultivation-based" way of dealing with the world has created a model of clean officials who is admired by the world and benefited the people. This is also soaked in the influence of Tao Mu's words and teachings.
George Herbert once said: A good parent is worth a hundred school teachers. Therefore, in the education of parents to their children, the most important and basic is to let children cultivate excellent ideological character and good behavior habits from an early age, which is the precondition for children to go to society for survival and development in the future.
As modern people, we have so many traditional etiquette cultures and references from ancient and modern Chinese and foreign experiences, and we should understand the subtle role of words and deeds. So, don't ask your child to do anything, but see what you can do first. Only if the parents themselves are good enough will your child be able to excel.