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Netizen question: Is it useful for a female classmate of her daughter to participate in seven training classes on two days on weekends?
The daughter's classmates have to participate in seven training classes every weekend for two days, including Olympiad, English, Painting, Chinese Dance, Taekwondo, Piano and Guitar, and the child has no space for himself at all, is this a good thing or a bad thing for the child?
Re: Learning = exchanging time for social life experience, but still beware of "too much". Because learning is the basis for children to grow social life and cool down and enhance their ability to live independently, but being in a depressed state of education for a long time is also easy to affect children's mental health. In recent years, the mental illness of adolescents in the mainland has shown an upward trend, which has a lot to do with the pressure of high-intensity academic competition. The "China National Mental Health Development Report (2019-2020)" shows that young people aged 18 to 34 are the most anxious group of adults, and in 2020, the detection rate of depression among adolescents in mainland China was 24.6%, of which major depression was 7.4%.
It is too late, too much to do things, and it is not good to do enough.
Idiomatic Story:
Zengzi was a student of Confucius, who was cautious and respectful in his dealings with the world, and had the good name of filial piety.
Once, Zengzi and his father were weeding in the field and accidentally broke the crops. The father was very angry, and he lifted the farm tools and beat him on the back. Zeng Zi was knocked to the ground, unconscious for a while, and it took a long time before he woke up.
When he woke up, he not only did not get angry, but stood up happily and said to his father, "Just now I have offended your old man's home, and you are right to teach me hard, please don't be angry with me." Then he went back to his room and played and sang, wanting his father to know that he was in good health.
When Confucius heard about this, he thought that Zengzi had gone too far, so he told the students, "If Zengzi comes, don't let him in." ”
Zeng Zi thought that he was not at fault and sent someone to explain it to Confucius. Confucius said, "Haven't you heard the story of Shun, who was very attentive and thoughtful in serving his father, who asked Shun to do things, and he would soon come to his father; but if his father wanted to find an opportunity to kill him, he never let his father find him." When his father beat him with a whip, he endured the punishment, but if he hit him with a cane, he fled. Therefore, Shun did not commit the mistake of not keeping his father's duty, and Shun did not lose his pure and beautiful filial piety. Zeng Zi let his father beat him violently regardless of his physical condition, and he did not hide from death. If you die, you will trap your father in unrighteousness, which is more important than filial piety, are you not a subject of the Son of Heaven, and what is the sin of killing the subjects of the Son of Heaven? ”
When Zengzi heard this, he said, "I have committed a great sin! So he went to Confucius to examine his mistakes.
Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... All life must adapt to the natural living environment in a passive adaptation + active taking.
Chicks must adapt to flying with guidance, vegetarian animals such as antelopes + hares teach their offspring to avoid predators, lions + tigers teach cubs to hunt... As a community-based viviparous mammal with the highest comprehensive IQ, the slowest growth and development, and the most malleable growth in the natural life system, human babies must also imitate and practice integrated social survival skills from scratch after birth. Therefore, modern human society has formed the most complete group survival skill inheritance system in the natural life system - teaching.
Recess play to relieve stress
"The Teacher Says"
The ancient scholar must have a teacher. Teachers, so preaching is also karmic to solve puzzles. Whoever is not born to know can be confused? If you are confused and do not follow the teacher, you will be confused and will not be solved in the end. Before I was born, my hearers also preceded me, and I learned from them; after I was born, I also heard the Tao before me, and I learned from them. My master Daoye, fu Yong knows that his years were born in my lifetime? Therefore, there is no nobility, no low, no length, no less, the existence of the Tao, the existence of the teacher.
Teachers, preaching, receiving karma, solving puzzles. Teachers, people who teach morality, teach academics, and answer difficult questions. Teaching morality and teaching academics is the teacher's initiative to undertake the indoctrination of children's learning and growth according to the requirements of the existing civilization and wisdom of human society; to answer difficult questions, the teacher answers the growth confusion encountered by students in real social life according to the wisdom of the survival of human social civilization that he has mastered. That is to say, the main body of education work is divided into two parts, one part is taught by the teacher and the student listens, and the other part is the student takes the initiative to put forward the confusion encountered in the growth and the teacher passively answers.
Francis Bacon said: "Reading history makes one wise, reading poetry makes one wise, mathematics makes one thorough, science profound, ethics makes one solemn, and logic makes one argumentative." Whoever learns something becomes a character. "Primitive human ancestors taught children to pick plant fruits + hunt other animals + defend against survival predators, parents taught their children to sow plants + captive animals + make production labor and life aids during the agricultural and pastoral period, Chinese parents or teachers taught children to speak Chinese + write square characters + use chopsticks to eat stir-fried vegetables & rice & steamed buns, Indian parents or teachers taught children to speak Hindi + write + eat pilaf, British parents or teachers taught children to speak English + write ABC + eat bread & sauce with knives and forks... After the birth of a child, all activities that support their growth have an educational function.
Half a year old tentatively controlling his body, 1 year old began to toddler + babbling language, 3 years old or so basically achieved eating + excretion self-care, 7 years old or so has the initial complete life of self-care ability, 15 years old [according to the different judicial definitions of various countries, the world's legal adult age ranges from 15 years old to 21 years old, the mainland stipulates that people over 18 years old with physical strength + normal intellectual development are fully civil behavior adults] above the basic ability to live independently... The essence of children's growth is to exchange time for comprehensive experience of adapting to human social life. Learning = exchanging time for social life experience, but we must still beware of "too much to live".
Learning is a lifelong benefit, and the comprehensive survival skills gained through learning will not become a burden on life; learning is like eating and eating, and the food in the mouth is too full to complete the chewing. Similarly, the same is true for children to learn cultural knowledge, each child must receive the age-appropriate cultural curriculum education, but the learning time is too long, and the child's comprehensive growth time is full, resulting in "indigestion".
An herb has only one top bud, a woody plant has only one trunk, an animal life has only one head... In the same way, a person can only do one thing well at a certain time. Confucius said: "Isn't it very pleasant to often use the knowledge you have learned to review frequently after studying?" Writer Gladwell pointed out in the book "The Other": "The genius in people's eyes is extraordinary, not because of superhuman talent, but because of continuous effort." 10,000 hours of tempering is a necessary condition for anyone to go from ordinary to world-class master. "It's not hard to imagine that if a person dabbles in learning too much in the same time period, it will be extremely difficult for him to achieve breakthrough growth."
The ancients on the mainland often used the metaphor of "flowing water is not corrupt, the household center is not beetle" to compare the vitality of animals that are often in motion in order to maintain health and vitality. Similarly, children's learning and growth can not be in one or more specific state of bondage for a long time, and being in one or more specific state of being bound for a long time will make children lose the potential for comprehensive and balanced development, such as children who are too strictly disciplined relatively lack the ability to be independent, children who are allowed to be free lack of awareness of rules and discipline, and children who are limited to classes for a long time lack the ability to learn and use the knowledge they have learned...
Horses are not fertile without night grass, and people are not allowed to be rich, which means that horses do not eat grass at night and do not grow fat, and people who do not have additional property will not become rich. Terrestrial plants must absorb water and micro-minerals from the soil + receive sunlight to grow, vegetarian animals must eat plants + replenish water to maintain stable basic vital signs, carnivores must kill vegetarian animals + replenish water to maintain stable basic vital signs... As a rare omnivorous mammal in the natural life system, human body growth must eat, and intellectual maturity is inseparable from learning. Therefore, learning = exchanging time for social life experience, but we must still beware of "too much".
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain, need selfless companionship from the family, and need sincere teaching from the school and society. Nurturing neighbors: Explore the use of neighborhood friendliness to promote social harmony, promote social moral education and indoctrination, and promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone, with a view to "tailoring" children's growth plans with parents and building an educational service ecosystem where neighbors help each other in the community.