For a woman to be moved, men will have an instinctive reaction, that is, they want to have a relationship with each other.
This is the original impulse of one person, and it is also the premise of the union of two people. But this impulse will slowly weaken over time. It can no longer stir up anyone's feelings.
Men who really fall in love with a woman, in addition to wanting to have a relationship with each other, are more eager to get these three feelings:
First: be respected and trusted
For men, it is a very fortunate thing for a woman to be able to respect and trust herself from the bottom of her heart. Men basically love face, and he hopes that all his efforts can get the affirmation of the other half, rather than blindly accusing and doubting.
When a woman keeps labeling her husband, the other person will be discouraged and depressed.
Some time ago, I lived with my children at my mother's house. Every day when I open my eyes, the most I hear is my mother's nagging. They've been married for 38 years, and they seem to get used to being noisy. But I always feel that this pattern of quarrelry makes everyone feel depressed.
Dad planted a lot of trees, and every year in the spring, there would be a special merchant to buy trees. Dad intends to sell 100 of them, and the price of each tree is more than six.
As soon as my mother heard this price, she jumped to her feet in anger: What price do you see what others are selling, what price are you selling?
Dad explained: Our tree is relatively small, the next door neighbor is bigger than us, the price must be higher, I will deal with these things, you don't want to participate.
Mom began to yell at him: You have always been like this, you are unreliable in doing anything, I have been with you for so many years, and I have never seen how much money you have made.
Dad's voice raised an octave, and then he said angrily: I know what I am doing, don't interfere with these things in the future. Having said that, he slammed the door and went out.
I advised my mother on the side: These things, you don't have to worry about it, he himself painstakingly cultivated the tree, he also wants to sell a good price, must have inquired about it, let him decide for himself!
Mom has been nagging from the sidelines: he has worked so hard for so long, I also think he can sell a good price, why are you still polite to me?
Men want face. Face is sometimes more important than life for them. What they want most is the trust and support of their other half. Men want to do their best to create better material conditions for their families. They can pay a lot for the family, and the most intolerable thing is the accusation and complaint of the other half, which will dampen their enthusiasm.
Second: be understood and accepted
Getting along between men and women is an art. What men are most looking forward to is the understanding and acceptance of the other half.
When I was just married, I also made a fuss because of an incident.
Before getting married, we had an agreement that the family's money, I would manage. After getting married, he did. Every time the salary comes down, I put most of it here.
He will keep a part of it for his daily expenses and social expenses.
Every day when I come back, I ask him: How much did you spend today, and where did you spend it?
At first, he would reluctantly answer. Slowly, he was reluctant to answer again. The more reluctant he was to answer, the more desperately I pressed. Finally, one day, he broke out completely: don't ask me where I spent my money in the future, it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Since then, I have stopped asking him about his daily expenses. The tense relationship between the two of us slowly eased.
From this matter, I also understand. No matter how close the relationship between two people is, leave a little space for each other. A man's money is his guts.
Because of forming a home, he understands his mission and knows to look for more opportunities to create better conditions for the family. But at the same time, he also craves some personal space. There, he was free to dispose of his own money, to have friends and some secrets of his own.
Third: Be treated with tenderness
I find that all women, almost all of them have a common problem, and that is nagging.
There is nothing wrong with nagging, it is an expression of love. I love you and will remind you not to smoke and not to drink. I love you so much that I urge you to go home early and not stay up late.
But many times, women do not understand the "nagging" technique, often counterproductive.
For example, your husband likes to smoke and is often in the living room or bedroom, spitting out clouds. Every time you see it, you can't help but nag: how many times have I said it, why can't you change it? What exactly do you want to turn your home into?
This kind of "nagging" often leads to a quarrel.
In fact, we can put it another way: Husband, we are about to become a fairyland on earth here, can we smoke outside and then come in?
Using an opinion-seeking approach, instead of accusatory nagging, may be able to ease the atmosphere while making the other person aware of the mistake.
Truly attractive women will learn to change the way they speak and make their relationships closer to each other. What a man desires most in this life is a woman who understands and respects him.
Everyone in this world actually has their own shining point. Strive to tap the strengths of the other half, learn to accept each other's shortcomings, such a relationship, in order to be long and lasting.