Introduction: When one day the child makes a mistake, you shout at him, he is anxious to cry, and he hugs your thighs with grievances, what are you thinking in your heart at this time, what is the child thinking in his heart?
A friend recently told me that his children are very naughty and often contradict you. One day, the child, because of the robbery of the toy, got into a fight with a child in the community.
The cause is that their children want to play with each other's toys, but the other party does not give, there is a quarrel, and then the friend's child uses violence to grab the toy, and finally fights.
After the friend knew, he repaired the child at home, but no matter how the friend yelled, the child just held his thigh and looked at the child's grievances, and at that time he felt like he had done something wrong.
I said to my friend: If you want to be nice to him, isn't it just a toy, he likes it and buy it. In this society, except for the love given by his parents is selfless, no one will be sincere to him in the future.
You are his only dependent, and without your love, he will be psychologically afraid to be abandoned by the world.
A happy childhood is the energy of growing up
A good childhood heals a lifetime, and a bad childhood heals with a lifetime. Sometimes, we always hope that children can be confident, optimistic, cheerful, full of energy, put forward all kinds of upward and harsh requirements for children, in order to achieve this goal, but verbally intersect with children, violently reprimand.
In fact, this is a contradictory psychology, only a happy and happy childhood, people will have a positive attitude to face life.
Childhood has been well loved, and when you grow up, you will have the courage to face setbacks, and you will have enough energy to strive for a good life.
So the child's favorite toys to buy, the child is unhappy to take him to play, the child wants to play the game with him, rather than having preconditions for the child to get.
Because if your love must be conditional, then who will give him selfless love, and when he grows up, he will learn to love others with a purpose, will his concept of love make him happy?
Childhood security accompanies a lifetime
The child holds the thigh of his parents, in fact, he is extremely insecure at this time, full of fear, even if you scold him and beat him, he still believes that you can give him warmth, and you will not abandon him.
There are some parents' mantras: "If you don't obey anymore, I won't care about you, when you go shopping, if you make trouble again, I will leave you here" These words are not very familiar.
When parents are helpless to their children and have nothing to do, these words are often moved out, not knowing that invisibly, the child's inner sense of security is gradually worn away by you, and the shadow left for him will accompany him throughout his life.
Maybe after a few years, he has achieved something, but his inner inferiority, fear, and lack of security are engraved in his bones.
What you think of as a "good kid" is actually the most pitiful
Is a child who obeys his word a good child? The nature of a child is to be naughty and playful, and a child without nature is so pale in his heart.
You think he's really obedient, but in fact he's just worrying about your feelings, pandering to your emotions, and learning to look at things too early. Do you know how to please others, is this really good, and does the child really like this in his heart?
Children are not released from childhood, and often humbly control their hearts. When she grows up, she doesn't know how to vent her emotions, and if one day she can't control it, "the volcano erupts" will be more heartache.
Such a "good child" is better to let him become his own "bad child" from an early age, let him grow up in mistakes, and empower in growth.
Conclusion: Please be nice to your children, because the time for children to accompany us is really very little, childhood is every night, middle school is every weekend, college is winter and summer vacation, work is annual leave, marriage is the mother's family.
Maybe you have a lot of knowledge, but also a lot of educational ideas, but don't forget, this is your child, the best way to cultivate a child is to love him, he will perceive all the beauty of the world.