What is the "new type of nibbling old"? In the face of the "new type of nibbling on the old", what is the attitude of parents

Text: Tong Ying

Influenced by traditional beliefs, most Chinese parents have always doted on their children and have no reservations. Unlike Western education, children who grow up under Chinese education also have an innate sense of dependence on their parents. In this case, "nibbling on the old family" has become an inevitable development.

Nibbling on the old people is not a new word now, "nibbling on the old people" is not that they can't find a job, but those who have reached adulthood and have the ability to live, but are not willing to work and still rely on their parents to live, they not only have to rely on their parents for food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also the cost is often expensive, so that they help them buy a car and a house, all of these behaviors make the elderly unable to enjoy their old age happily.

The "nibbling on the old" generally refers to people who are despised by the outside world, but according to research, 65% of households in the world have the problem of nibbling on the old. Not long ago, a sad news headline appeared on the Yahoo website in Japan. "Hopefully, my son will live another 40 years with the money his parents left behind."

It is understood that the sentence came from a 75-year-old mother who took the initiative to find a financial advisor and asked her what she should do to protect her young son to the greatest extent possible after her death. More precisely, it was her 45-year-old youngest son. She has two children in this life, the eldest son works to get married and have children, has become the mainstay of society, but the younger son has been "nibbling on the old".

In college, although the younger son entered a very good private university, he did not graduate. He said he dropped out of school because he was "not interested in college courses and couldn't find the meaning of a job." Since then, he has never worked again, but has been living at home and not interacting with outsiders. Yes, her son is a typical "nibbler".

In Japan, like her youngest son, not going to school, not working, not socializing, not going out of her room, and living only on the old people has become a serious social problem. According to Japanese statistics, such an "8050" group (that is, 80-year-old parents take care of 50-year-old children) has exceeded 1 million.

Not just in Japan, 33 percent of U.S. 25- to 29-year-olds live in the same room as their parents or grandparents. About 23 percent of Brazil's 11.2 million "double-nothing" population aged 15 to 29 are not employed or have not attended technical and vocational training, according to the Brazilian Institute of Geography and Statistics.

It is worth mentioning that recently there has been a popular "new type of nibbling on the old" in society. What is even more frightening is that the majority of parents not only do not know it, but also mistakenly believe that this is the filial piety of their children. So, what is the "new type of nibbling old"? Recently, some people on the Internet have discussed what is the attitude of parents in the face of their children's "new type of nibbling on the old"?

Let the elderly help with the children

Although the life of young people today is very stressful, and life is more difficult after having children, raising the next generation is always the business of parents, and has nothing to do with their parents.

Now, more and more young people prefer to let their parents help take care of their children. In the eyes of parents, this is the embodiment of filial piety of children, willing to entrust children to their own care, but also a kind of trust in their children. As everyone knows, the real idea in the eyes of children is that they don't want to spend money on a nanny, because for them, parents are conscientious and free nannies.

What is even more chilling is that some children will scold the elderly because of trivial matters after asking their parents to take care of their children, quarrel or say that the elderly are not. Children generally believe that if they do not spend the money of the elderly, they are not considered to be old, and their parents have nothing to do when they stay at home, and it is better to help bring their babies. This is typical "white-eyed wolf" behavior.

Fake accompaniment to nibble on the old

Children are known as "taking the elderly home to enjoy happiness", so that they can better take care of and accompany the elderly. But over time, when the work is busy, there is nothing to do for the elderly, but the elderly see this situation and do a lot for the family, help pick up and drop off children, clean up, cook for the family, and even sleep with the children every day, the children are originally lively and active, and also deeply affect the sleep of the elderly. In the long run, the old man's body will not be as strong as before due to long-term fatigue.

Parents should learn to distinguish between "stealthy nibbling on the old"

As a parent, to learn to distinguish between "invisible nibbling old", they may feel that after all, it is their own biological child, helping is not nothing, but it will hurt them, the child is not small, can take care of themselves, this age is their own need to take care of, rather than parents to take care of children, if they continue to help their children, their children may forget what is gratitude in the future, will take this for granted.

Of course, young people also have the helplessness of young people, and sometimes "nibbling on the old" is also our helpless choice. So, what should we do about this popular "new type of nibbling old"?

Strive to improve living conditions

In fact, after we start a family, we should shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family and not let the elderly become the so-called "retreat". Only by continuously improving economic strength can we make life easier, let children receive better education, and better honor the elderly.

Study hard and improve your abilities

Most of the old people's education is not high, some have not gone to college, and some even dropped out of school to work after graduating from junior high school and high school, and the meager income is the fuse for the old people. Therefore, students should cherish the time to receive education in school, learn good knowledge, improve their abilities, and make themselves strong enough to let their parents enjoy happiness with them.

epilogue

In the end, no matter what kind of old age, it is nothing more than the selfless love of parents for their children. For the elderly, their children have long grown up and have their own lives, and they should also run through life, experience, and feel the tempering. Excessive protection and indulgence will only make their lives more difficult in the future.

What do you think about that?