Text: Xi Xihuan
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In love, women are often regarded as vulnerable groups, easy to be emotional, but also easy to be hurt, more likely to suffer from gains and losses.
For women, the most hopeful nature is to be held in the palm of the hand by a man and become the most special preference in the man's heart.
However, not every woman can get the expected results in love, maybe they are very serious, very hard to love, but in the end they are disgusted by men, even if they try to retain, but they can only be exchanged for more contempt and disdain.
In fact, women often do not understand a truth, that is, in love, it is not how much you give will get, nor the more you love him, the more he will cherish you.
Some people may feel that this is unfair in love, but there are also skills and rules to follow in love, a mind in love silly to pay, the last hurt may be their own.
Therefore, whether it is marriage or love, it will always be this kind of woman who is held in the palm of a man's hand. It seems that they have reservations about love, but in fact, they are the smartest way to do it.
01 Women who know how to love themselves can be more appreciated by men
Once heard a sentence, I think it is most appropriate to give it to a woman in love, "If you don't even love yourself, who else do you expect to love you well?" ”
Deeply believed, many women in love is like a moth to the fire, desperate, even if they give up their own principles for the sake of the other party, sacrifice their own preferences, and even turn against their parents at all costs, but the final result?
Friend Liang Xue is a person who attaches great importance to feelings, and her efforts in a relationship make people around her feel very touched, but she herself did not get the desired results.
When I knew the man, Liang Xue was moved by the first time he saw him, and learned that the man was single, although Liang Xue had never taken the initiative to pursue the opposite sex, he also secretly encouraged himself, and finally won the favor of the man.
After the two people established a relationship, the man's work was very busy, and sometimes there was no time to accompany Liang Xue, but Liang Xue never complained, but always made a midnight snack for the man to send to the company.
Men's colleagues and friends said that he was lucky to find such a gentle and considerate girlfriend, and men were indeed very grateful for Liang Xue's efforts, and when they were not busy at work, they would accompany her whenever they had time.
But after a long time, the man found that Liang Xue was a little too sensible, and even sometimes he would be hungry and wait for him to eat supper together, the man was distressed that she had a bad stomach, and it was not worth it to starve the body, but Liang Xue still did not listen.
At the beginning, Liang Xue's "understanding" made men very moved, and he also felt that she was the best object to marry, but later he found that Liang Xue loved humblely, although it was painful, but she never knew how to love herself, which was the biggest pressure for men.
Men feel that although Liang Xue loves him very much, but she does not know how to love herself, then the two people together will make him have a great sense of guilt in his psychology, and it is his fault that Liang Xue has unsatisfactory places.
In fact, women like Liang Xue are not uncommon, and their dedication to their sweethearts is always particularly touching, because no matter how many difficulties there are, and no matter what the attitude of men, they always firmly continue to pay their own efforts, but they forget that while loving others, they should actually love themselves well.
For men, it doesn't matter how much a woman pays for him, what they value more is whether the woman has the ability to love herself.
Because a woman who knows how to love herself will care more about her inner feelings, will not blindly follow, will have her own ideas on many issues, and be more charismatic.
A woman's understanding may make a man feel relaxed, but over time, a man will feel that there is nothing in a woman that can attract him.
Some women feel that it is not wrong not to love themselves, but they can get the pity of men, but in fact, such women cannot be cherished by men.
Therefore, if a woman really wants to become a person on the tip of a man's heart, she must first learn to love herself well, you only have yourself, and the woman who is well loved is the most attractive.
02 Know how to improve yourself
Women are more likely to fall in love with excellent men, such men can be more attractive to women, and also have greater strength to give women a stable rest of their lives.
But women don't forget, there is actually an equivalent exchange in love, if you are useless, then no matter how good a man is, he will not favor you.
Therefore, women must know how to improve themselves, because if you bloom and the fragrance comes from itself, only if you become excellent first, will you be appreciated and cherished by men.
College classmate Zhang Ning has always been a model in the eyes of everyone, neither a love brain, nor will she easily change her original intentions, she plans her life very clearly, and each stage goal set will be unswervingly strived to achieve.
Because of her own excellence, there are many men who pursue her, including many excellent men, but Zhang Ning always has her own standards, she knows what kind of feelings she wants, and she also knows what kind of men are the most suitable for her.
Later, Zhang Ning chose a man named Zhao Kaize, and after the two people established a romantic relationship, friends were puzzled, because from her, they did not see the passion and romance of love, but a lot more calm.
Zhao Kaiser is very good, and his achievements in his career are higher than Zhang Ning's, but Zhang Ning did not have inferiority, but stepped up the pace of learning and promotion to follow the height of Zhao Kaize.
Some people say that she is stupid, men are so excellent, she is still so hard is completely unnecessary, but Zhang Ning does not think so, she feels that she has made efforts to recharge, to improve, not entirely for men, but for herself, because only she herself is excellent, is the biggest confidence in her heart.
Facts have proved that when Zhang Ning became more and more excellent, Zhao Kaize also cherished her more and more, spoiled her very much, and simply held her in the palm of his hand.
No matter what happened, he would seriously seek Zhang Ning's opinion and care about Zhang Ning's feelings.
In love, women should not put the hope of happiness for the rest of their lives on men, because you never know whether the other party's heart will change in the next second, you will only pray with trepidation that men will never change, and your happiness will not change.
And if women know how to improve themselves and make themselves more and more excellent, they will give men a sense of crisis, and he will subconsciously make himself more and more excellent to match you, and naturally he is willing to spoil you.
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