Last night, my wife received a strange phone call, and to our surprise, it was from her cousin, who had been "missing" for more than 3 years.
I know this "brother-in-law", I am not familiar with it, but I have met a few times before, when he was still an introverted and shy young man, which gave me a good impression.
Perhaps many rural boys now face a dilemma when they are twenty-five or six years old: their parents feel that they have "raised" you and are waiting to "enjoy your blessings", but it is difficult for you to support yourself.
My brother-in-law is probably the same, but he went to an extreme, and he chose to "lose contact" after he could not bear the humiliation of his parents without scruples.
He "left" for more than three years, and he broke off contact with all his relatives and friends at home.
Over the years, I have gone to my father-in-law's house every year to visit the New Year, and my relatives and friends over there have also taken turns to go through it, about this brother-in-law, I have heard similar remarks from his father during the Spring Festival this year: "What to find?" Let him S count on the outside! Just when I didn't raise this son! ”
This is not the first time they have said this, every New Year's Holiday, kind relatives will always go to inquire, and then say good things to play the round field or something, and they will be very angry at this time.
Yes, in his hometown circle, his evaluation style is very bad.
His parents were extremely disappointed in him, he went to college but did not make a few dollars, and his friends and children who grew up in the village were in kindergarten, but he was still a "DSH". Anyway, he is useless, "thinking of him annoys him."
His relatives, friends, and neighbors often mention him, but most of them do not do so out of genuine concern, but as a "negative teaching material" to educate their children. "Less than the top, more than the bottom" Well! Whether their child is talented or not, they can always find a sense of superiority in him.
Anyway, according to my observation, people behind his family's affairs are also regarded as a joke, joke that his parents cut down on food and clothing to "cultivate" the college students are now mixed up more than their own junior high school graduates to work hard children, jokes that he is a realistic version of the "poor family".
My three-year-old son was severely criticized by his grandmother for knocking on the bowl twice during the Spring Festival this year, not because of rules and upbringing, but because: "Your uncle liked to knock on the bowl when he was a child, don't beg for food when he grows up like him!" ”
She said that the sentence was suppressed because the two families lived not far away.
I don't know if his other relatives and friends are so disgusted and jealous of him, but in his own home, it is obvious.
I remember that on the evening of the second day of the first lunar month last year, we also discussed his matter, and my wife was very curious about the reason for his "disappearance", thinking that he should be a person with a conscience, and no matter how new the New Year, he had to go home to see.
"Where did he have the face to come back?" They are all buried! The mother-in-law said so.
It is roughly that his parents like to go around publicizing his bad and expressing their dissatisfaction with him, resulting in everyone watching his jokes and everyone finding a sense of superiority in him.
"I'm different, my own children, no matter how bad it is, are also born and raised by themselves, who can go outside and say!" I never said in front of outsiders anyway that you weren't..." she said.
My father-in-law may have known more, but he just said the old saying: "Money is not omnipotent, but no money is absolutely impossible!" ”
"His parents are not easy, in order to provide for him to go to college, get up early and greedy, they are several years younger than me, look much older than me, you see their house, it has not been renovated for decades, it looks shabby!" Heck, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment! In fact, Rarity (his nickname) is a good boy, but the pressure is too much. ”
"I heard that people are in Shenzhen, and I don't know what is going on now... You say he's been out of college for so many years and can always save some money, right? How many send points back for people to renovate the old house, can not also give people a long face? ”
He looked at me and my brother-in-law with a little deep meaning and said, "Men must work hard to make money, there is no money, even their own parents will look down on you..."
"Old man, I'm afraid you've also dropped the money in your eyes!" Hearing this, my brother-in-law laughed at this.
In fact, the purpose of my brother-in-law's call last night was to ask my wife if she could go back to her hometown during the Qingming Festival, probably because she wanted to go back to see.
He said that he gave a large amount of money to his family before the New Year, and his mother asked him to go back to the New Year and he refused, although the other party was still very angry, but the words were obviously much softer. After having his contact information, I asked him to go back every three or five minutes.
Although he "saw through" the truth, he estimated that in the hearts of his parents, he felt that his son had grown up, the relationship had eased up, or was about to become better (mainly rich).
I was thinking that when he thought about going back at this point in time, he probably really had the concern of "wanting to raise his son and not waiting for him"!
Perhaps, over the years, he has also figured out that for parents like his parents, who have put all the chips on their children and have no old-age security, giving them money may be the greatest filial piety.
Giving money can solve some real problems and give them the peace of mind that "you are doing well"!
Well, figured out, it's always a good thing!
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