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Recently, a video uploaded by a father in Lushui, Yunnan Province, went viral - because his father had a bad attitude towards the salesman, his son cried and said something to his father: ▼
"If you're not satisfied, you don't have to drive him away so directly..."
As he spoke, the boy choked up:
"If my soul is his soul, and then I sell it to you, you keep chasing me away, hurting the self-esteem of others, and everyone is trying to make money." 」
Children's hearts are kind and soft, and parents who have been immersed in the adult world for too long often need to learn from their children in order to find the precious kindness, sincerity and friendliness in human nature. If parents treat others rudely and disrespect people, especially if they have a very poor attitude towards service personnel, they will also be looked at by children and disapprove of their parents in their hearts.
Many netizens were touched by the little boy's kind behavior and cried, sympathy is easy, understanding is difficult.
There are so many emotions to perceive in this world, and kindness is definitely the most important one.
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"Bear child" has always appeared on the hot search list, and we have almost forgotten the child's original kind appearance. In this world, although there is always a haze, but think about it carefully: most of the children around us are still kind and innocent, aren't they?
Recently, a short video circulated on the Internet to warm our hearts:
Video surveillance showed that on an open road, there was a sewer without a manhole cover. Subsequently, the two children discovered the "big pit", and the two discussed moving bubble bricks from the side of the road to block the opening of the cave and remind pedestrians and vehicles to detour.
After reading it, I can't help but sigh: kindness is really a good medicine to cure the world.
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So what exactly does it mean to be kind?
Xiaobian believes that it is necessary to have empathy. "Empathy" is the most significant difference between "warm baby" and "bear child".
What exactly is Empathy? It is an important quality formed in interpersonal interactions, a way of thinking in the other person's shoes, being able to understand the positions, emotions and thoughts of others.
Empathetic children, they will be sad because of the death of a small pet, try to comfort their friends because of their falling and crying, will donate the money they saved from buying snacks to people who need more help, or like the boy above, tell their father please have a better attitude towards the salesman... In short, he can always perceive the emotions of others and develop empathy.
Parents should tell their children that they can put themselves in the shoes of others and understand others, because everyone's experience is different.
A psychologist once said, "If everyone only pays attention to their feelings, then the world will have no warmth and will lose all happiness." So when we face the encounters of different people, we hope to use our hearts to understand and try to understand. ”
Emotional understanding is definitely more comforting and useful than any language. When you understand others, your heart warms.
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Parents should cultivate the excellent character inheritance of "kindness" in their daily lives, but now some parents are weakening this character inheritance and replacing it with a simple pursuit of results. For example, after the child starts school, he will find that many of the questions asked by parents are related to the child's academic achievement:
What about the grade test?
Did you win today's team game?
....
This is actually a parent who consciously or unconsciously focuses on the child's achievement, and many people are not actually aware of this. At this time, if parents subconsciously avoid and reduce excessive attention to their children's achievements in their daily lives, but focus on the cultivation and embodiment of their children's daily good character, in fact, it is of great help to their children's physical and mental health and growth.
Starting with the most daily communication and asking questions, for example, at family dinners, we can ask more children:
What have you done to help others?
At first, children generally say "I forgot," but after a while, they give a more detailed answer. "I shared my food with a friend who didn't have snacks." Or " I help my classmate analyze the problems she did wrong in her homework."
They begin to look for opportunities to help others and take action to help. The key is not to force the cultivation of children's character into the dry preaching of benevolence or concern for others, but to show that these qualities will be noticed and worthy of attention.
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But kindness is not unlimited, it is left to those who deserve it!
Nowadays, various events are happening in an endless stream, and it is not uncommon to take advantage of the sincerity and kindness of others. What we should teach our children is what things and people are worthy of our love, and which moments we should reject!
When the following 4 situations occur, please tell your child to put away kindness:
When the other person's ability is originally stronger than their own
Parents should tell their children to be vigilant against adults who ask for help. Because adults encounter problems that cannot be solved, they will definitely seek the help of adults, rather than looking for children who are weaker than him to help.
Avoid entering a closed environment
Once you enter a closed environment with strangers, such as indoors, underground, cars, etc., the chances of children seeking help and escape will become very low. It's okay to help others, but remember to avoid being in an enclosed space.
Choose to be kind to people, but kindness is not a weakness
We often teach children to know how to share, and sometimes children are bullied, and we also teach them to ignore the previous accusations. There is nothing wrong with being kind to people, but kindness is not cowardice, and it is not a person's weakness. If the other person becomes more aggressive, please put away your kindness. By sacrificing one's own goodness to please others, the relationship that is maintained in this way is bound to be unsustainable and not really good.
When the other person does not understand gratitude
When we help others, some people will be grateful, but others may become greedy, dissatisfied, and even morally kidnapped. While we want to cultivate children to have love, we must also tell children the importance of gratitude. Tell your child that when they encounter other people's requests for help, kindness is limited, and it should be used for people and things that are worthwhile, and cannot be abused.
The real test of parenting is not what your child achieves, but who they will become in the future and how they will treat others. If you teach them kindness, then you're not just preparing your child for success, but you're also preparing your child for more friends and better relationships.
Kind child, Bless you with this wonderful quality, go forward!
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Some of the materials in this article are synthesized from people's dailys, parents' halls, and juvenile business schools.
Edit: Daifuku
Reviewer: Pleasing to others