Every parent wants to give their children the best education and love, but in the daily educational environment, because the children do not understand things or are not motivated, parents will inevitably always be angry.
"I also know that I shouldn't be angry, but the child is too skinny, I don't hit him without heart, when the child is naughty, I am really angry straight to the brain, and when the reaction comes, the child has been beaten by me to cry." 」 The "Tiger Mom" big week in our office told us.
Da Zhou is a wind and fire character, she not only can not tolerate sand in her eyes at work, but also usually in the issue of children's education, Da Zhou is also very decisive, as long as the child does something wrong, Big Tuesday does not say a big fire to scold the child crying.
Although he knows where his education problems are, it is still difficult for a grumpy parent like Da zhou to restrain his temper. Next, give such parents 3 points of advice, be sure to listen well.
First, when the child has a problem, parents should not be in a hurry to get angry, deal with their emotions first, and then deal with the problem with the child
In fact, when you know that your child has a problem, your emotions are the most useless, because it can't solve the child's substantive problems, so when parents encounter problems, they must first calm themselves down. You can go to a quiet place to stay away from your child first, or wash your face with clean water to calm yourself down and calm down.
In the process of calming down, parents should think about the reasons why their children are doing something wrong? What kind of way should I take to solve it? Can being angry with your child play a deterrent role? Is this necessary? When you know what you have to do and what you should do, parents will educate their children.
Second, try not to bring home bad emotions at work
Anger is the most useless educational method for parents, but there are still many people in life who can't control the pressure and troubles in life and work to bring home and vent in front of their children.
Instead of showing the best temper and personality to outsiders, we give the worst side of ourselves to our families. Home is for guard, and from the moment we step into the door, we have to leave bad emotions out.
The child obviously did not make any mistakes, but the parents did not vent the bad temper in life on the child, so it is difficult to understand the unpredictable, uncertain personality is easy to put the child in a panic and nervous mood.
Third, when there is nothing to express your love for your children
If the parent's personality is indeed irritable and difficult to correct in a short period of time, then the parent should express his apologies and love to the child in time. After you are angry, you should say sorry to your child in time to show that you do not love your child, but parents themselves also need to improve and grow with their children.
If there is an opportunity, parents can also make progress with their children, ask their children to supervise themselves, take advantage of this opportunity, and if the parents' personality has changed, they must also urge their children to improve themselves.
Only when children feel the love of parents can children shape a sound personality in healthy love, so changing their education methods is an opportunity for parents and children to grow together.
Dear parents, tantrums are not our way of expressing love for our children, if it is really difficult to control our emotions in ordinary life, we may wish to start from the above 3 points.
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