The most free-spirited person in "Heart Residence" is Gu Qingyu, she is not as busy as her sister-in-law Feng Xiaoqin for life, her face is gray, nor is her heart higher than the sky like Feng Xiqian, her life is thinner than paper, Gu Qingyu, who can make her own decisions every day, dress herself brightly, and appear in front of everyone like a star.
Although Gu Qingyu's high and indifferent body will make people a little annoying, but that is Gu Qingyu's confidence, she is the most prominent child of the Gu family, from a young age is very good, famous university graduates, the youngest female executives of multinational enterprises, to be capable and capable, to look good, Gu Qingyu's way of life is the ideal state of all women.
This is also the fundamental reason why Zhan Xiang has been chasing her for so many years, Shi Yuan has been thinking of her for so many years, and relatives at home have respect for her, once a woman lives with confidence, everything around her will become different, the harder you work, the better life will be.
Enrich yourself with your abilities
Gu Qingyu's biggest strength in life is her earning power, all the foundation of her life is based on her earning power, she is only thirty-six years old, has already achieved financial freedom, already has a suite under her name, and wants to buy another set of ten million-level houses with better locations.
So how rich is Gu Qingyu? There is no fixed number, but she has long been not worried about money, a single business can take seven or eight million shares, in the company, no challenging project Gu Qingyu is not willing to take it, even the boss has to respect her three points, employees are more respectful to her.
And Gu Qingyu can reach today's status, through his own step by step efforts to obtain, Gu Qingyu's family conditions are not so good, an ordinary teacher family in Shanghai, from childhood without a mother, the father alone as a father and mother to raise her and her brother.
Gu Qingyu has been very sensible since she was a child, because there is no mother, she is like a little adult, helping her father to take care of her brother, she herself is also very smart, never let her father worry about his academic performance, at that time Gu Qingyu already knew Shi Yuan, she let Shi Yuan teach her to do problems every day, teach her to learn piano.
At that time, Gu Qingyu was not as good as Shi Yuan, but after twenty years of separation, the current situation of the two people was very different, Gu Qingyu was getting better and better, but Shi Yuan stayed in place, and in the past twenty years, Gu Qingyu never gave up self-cultivation because of the setbacks of life.
She was admitted to a prestigious university by her own efforts, and after graduation, she worked hard step by step from a small employee of a multinational company to become the management of the company, not only successfully allowing herself to live an ideal life, but also let her father and brother follow the light, Gu Lei and Gu Qingyu Are twins, but the two people are very different.
Gu Lei has been very stupid since childhood, and the disability brought by the mother's womb, walking one foot high and one foot low, but he is also an unmotivated, the whole family can only rely on Gu Qingyu to provide financial resources, although she is a girl, but Gu Qingyu is the real pillar of the family, even if the sister-in-law wants to buy a house, he has to ask Gu Qingyu to borrow money.
Gu Lei has no academic qualifications and no ability, the job is also Gu Qingyu looking for, grandma and father, in the future pension, but also rely on Gu Qingyu, Gu Qingyu's responsibility is not small, if there is no certain ability, to bear such a heavy responsibility, almost will be overwhelmed.
As Zhang Ailing once said: "When people reach middle age, they often feel lonely." Because when you wake up, you find that there are people around you who depend on you, and the people you want to rely on are not at all", people in their thirties, the burden on their bodies is very large, although Gu Qingyu did not get married and have children, but there are fathers and grandmothers, there are brothers and nephews, the younger brothers are not out, everything has to rely on her.
But with Gu Qingyu's economic ability, all this is not a matter for her at all, her brother has no job, she can help her brother find a good job with a few connections, the family money is not enough to spend, she often receives help, relatives at home have something to help, Gu Qingyu is also a one-sentence thing, even Gu Xiao University filled in the volunteer, is the idea given by Gu Qingyu.
The reason why Gu Qingyu has such a high status at home is precisely because she is capable and able to do things, when everyone has a mid-life crisis, Gu Qingyu lives at ease on her own, and all the confidence of people comes from your ability to "call the clouds and call the rain" to life.
Enrich yourself with your own appearance
Gu Qingyu is thirty-six years old, not yet fat, Yes is not sloppy, the figure is maintained more perfect than the little girl in her twenties, in her body, there is the shrewdness and maturity of the thirty-something, there is also the appearance and posture of the twenty-something, such a woman is the most attractive to men.
In Gu Qingyu's home, there is a very sharp contrast, every morning, when Gu Qingyu listens to music and leisurely practices yoga, Feng Xiaoqin is in the kitchen smoking oil smoke and hurriedly making breakfast, Feng Xiqian is lying on the bed, Gu Qingyu is doing yoga and carefully skin care, Feng Xiaoqin is busy calling the family to get up, dressing the little tiger to pack things, Feng Xixi sleepy eyes get up and brush her teeth and wash her face.
This comparison is very meaningful, the contrast between Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Qingyu is based on economic ability, Feng Xiaoqin must get up every day to serve a big son, there is no time to manage herself, because she has no job, no income, everything can only rely on her own hands, and do not do it will be blamed and complained by the family, and Gu Qingyu has independent economic ability, has her own nanny, has a nanny at home, has a nanny to do, she only needs to do the most valuable things for herself.
And the contrast between Feng Xixi and Gu Qingyu is the contrast between laziness and diligence, the same is a single woman, Gu Qingyu strives to actively make herself better, and strives to maintain her appearance and body, while Feng Xixi is lazy and lazy, Lai lives in her brother-in-law's house, and in the morning she has to lie in bed, does not know how to improve herself, always wants to let others help and take shortcuts.
Gu Qingyu can have such a good life, not by luck to rely on others, but step by step steady and steady to earn, the same woman, Feng Xixi is young and beautiful, but can not find a boyfriend, but also rely on her sister to help blind date, and Gu Qingyu around the many suitors, and are excellent.
It is reasonable to say that Feng Xiqian has more age advantages than Gu Qingyu, but who would like a woman who has no light on her body, the reason why Gu Qingyu is so attractive is because she is shining, whether it is running on the track in sportswear or wearing high heels to walk in the workplace, it is a beautiful landscape.
Zhan Xiang pestered Gu Qingyu like a leper dog every day, only hoping that Gu Qingyu could give him a chance, even if he did not give, accompanyIng Gu Qingyu, it was also the happiest time for Zhan Xiang, Zhan Xiang was an upstart, there was no shortage of beautiful women around him, if Gu Qingyu did not have female charm, how could he attract Zhan Xiang for so long.
Gu Qingyu has always had Shi Yuan in his heart over the years, and when Shi Yuan saw Gu Qingyu again, first his eyes lit up, and then he was inferior, Gu Qingyu was so beautiful, so bright and beautiful, as beautiful as twenty years ago, but better than twenty years ago, Shi Yuan felt that he was not worthy of Gu Qingyu, but he could not put it down.
In the end, the two people walk together, which may be the greatest meaning of a woman's efforts to maintain herself, when you reunite with a long-lost lover, you can also boldly go forward and say that I still love you and want to be with you, not because of the destruction of the years, become inferior, or be rejected.
Enrich yourself with your mindset
Gu Qingyu never thought of getting married before waiting for Shi Yuan, and the family urged marriage from the twenties to the age of thirty-six, but Gu Qingyu always adhered to his inner principle: he would rather live alone than settle down.
The reason why Gu Qingyu's attitude towards marriage is so firm, on the one hand, is because she is excellent herself, and she does not have to rely on marriage to change her life like Feng Xiaoqin And Feng Xixi, but the most important thing is that Gu Qingyu has a good mentality and will not be bound by the world's eyes and the urging of relatives.
Gu Qingyu has always been waiting for the person she loves deeply, in her opinion, if you choose to get married just to cope with others, then marriage must be unhappy, rather than two people suffering, it is better to be alone, as long as you can see openly, there is no marriage, you can live a wonderful life.
Gu Qingyu's mentality is very good, not only for her own marriage, but also for the family affairs, she and Feng Xiaoqin have a small quarrel for three days, a big quarrel for five days, but her mentality has recovered very well, after the quarrel, she should still eat and drink, and never hold her breath in her heart.
If it is said that maintaining exercise and skin care is to enrich the appearance and body, then, stabilize the mood, do not disturb the world, maintain a calm and calm attitude towards life, and do not put bad things in the heart, it is the rich mentality, and the rich mentality is exactly the most important.
Gu Qingyu has experienced the death of his brother, the death of his mother, and the sudden disappearance of his first love, these are not an easy thing to deal with, if you have a bad mentality, you are likely to be stuck in which cut can never come out, just like Shi Yuan.
Forced to go to the countryside with Zhiqing's parents, after the failure of the college entrance examination, he began to give up on himself, no longer working hard, and then his mother fell ill, Shi Yuan did not have a little confidence in life, every day pounced on the mahjong table to eliminate time, the two people compared, Gu Qingyu experienced no less than Shi Yuan, but she never gave up on herself.
Gu Qingyu not only survived every slash strongly, but also gave herself the ability to cope with the slashes of life, for example, when her brother died, she could support her father alone, and even if Feng Xiaoqin was willing, she could also raise the little tiger to grow up, give him the best school, and provide him with a good living environment.
Mentality, just like a person's life on the road of the light, if the mentality is good, the road of life is bright, can help you cross any obstacle, look down on anything, if the mentality is not good, then this lamp is dark, will make you lose your way, can not find the future road, give up the opportunity to become better.
Enrich yourself
The biggest feature of Gu Qingyu is selfishness, but her selfishness is not a shortcoming, but an advantage, and it is gu Qingyu who can maintain this characteristic so that she will not be so easily kidnapped and taken by emotions.
Feng Xiaoqin is a foreign daughter-in-law, at the beginning it was Tu Gu Lei who was a Shanghainese and married him, Feng Xiaoqin married Gu Lei for eight years, there was no job, Gu Lei's job was also Gu Qingyu looking for, there was no high income, plus the little tiger had to spend, daily expenses, they did not have much money in their hands.
But Feng Xiaoqin's heart is higher than the sky, he does not have a penny in his hand, he wants to buy a house in Shanghai, for this reason, Feng Xiaoqin hit the idea on Gu Qingyu, leaving aside Feng Xiaoqin's contribution to the Gu family, this matter Feng Xiaoqin's requirements are very excessive, and it is borrowed by moral kidnapping and emotional kidnapping.
First, Feng Xiaoqin felt that Gu Qingyu earned more, each single business had to earn seven or eight million, she also had a house herself, there was no shortage of money, borrowing them a million was simply a dime, there was no pressure at all;
The second is that she has paid for the Gu family diligently for eight years, and it is not too much to buy a house, and Gu Qingyu's failure to borrow money makes Feng Xiaoqin feel very puzzled, why she can't buy a house with her own name.
However, Feng Xiaoqin did not make it clear that the money belonged to Gu Qingyu, that she did not borrow money was her own business, and that there was nothing wrong with it, and that Gu Qingyu did not prevent her from buying a house, but that Feng Xiaoqin herself had no financial ability, and it was unreasonable for her to ask Gu Qingyu for such a reason.
Gu Qingyu guarded against Feng Xiaoqin, because from the beginning to the present, Feng Xiaoqin's ambitions were too obvious, Gu Qingyu as the main backbone of the family, she had to protect her father and brother, Feng Xiaoqin was not so important to her.
But the most important thing is that Feng Xiaoqin has no money for the down payment, borrowed a million down payment to buy the house, when the house is in Gu Lei's name, to be renovated, to repay the mortgage, this successively has to spend money, then still have to borrow from Gu Qingyu, is not simply a problem of borrowing a million.
Gu Qingyu chose to keep her selfishness, as long as her relatives are good, she is not afraid of offending Feng Xiaoqin, and in fact, Gu Lei's death has made the contradiction between her and Feng Xiaoqin deeper, almost turning against each other, but Gu Qingyu does not borrow money, intellectually speaking, there is really nothing wrong.
And like Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", she is also a workplace elite, but she is dragged down by her mother and brother, she has achieved nothing in her thirties, all the money she earns has been taken away by her brother, and her mother is constantly kidnapped with feelings, so selfless, I would rather not.
Gu Qingyu also has a selfish point, that is, to Zhan Xiang, Zhan Xiang liked Gu Qingyu for more than ten years, paid a lot for Gu Qingyu, many people say that Gu Qingyu is iron hearted and cannot be warmed, but they forget that love and gratitude are two different things.
If there is no basis for love, because a person is good to you, you are moved to marry him, then such a marriage will not be happy, at the beginning of the love may be able to maintain the marriage, but over time this relationship will be unbalanced, the man will be too much to get and collapse, the woman will also be because the other party pays too much repression and pain.
Gu Qingyu is sober and selfish, she was not kidnapped by emotions, did not choose Zhan Xiang because of Zhan Xiang's goodness, because she knew that it was not good for Zhan Xiang, but hurt her, for Zhan Xiang's feelings, Gu Qingyu has always been very clearly rejected, she just regards Zhan Xiang as a friend, this is clear and Zhan Xiang explained.
Later, Gu Qingyu met Shi Yuan again and immediately stayed away from Zhan Xiang, which was very hurtful to Zhan Xiang's heart, but there were some things, when the break was constantly affected by its chaos, Gu Qingyu directly and simply told Zhan Xiang that she and Shi Yuan were together, in order to let Zhan Xiang put down and not let him continue to have illusions.
The selfishness of Gu Qingyu is actually the consequence of rational thinking, so she always appears cold and clear, but behind the indifference and purity is an unfettered freedom, only by learning to be as appropriately selfish as Gu Qingyu, can she not be burdened by trivialities, such selfishness is a quality that everyone should have.
The best way to live is to enrich yourself
Gu Qingyu's state of life is really the state I envy the most, I think her life is the life that a woman should have, have an independent self, have a favorite career, have hobbies that persist every day, simply live every day, rather than around her husband and children all day, grinding the original beautiful self beyond recognition and becoming a nasty yellow-faced woman.
And Gu Qingyu's way of life is to constantly enrich himself, never give up what he insists on because of his laziness, or the interference of others, and clean up his own clean every day, even if the loved one has not yet come, he can take good care of himself and improve himself.
People's life should be like this, learn to enrich themselves well, in order to live the life they want, in order to protect the people they want to protect, in order to maintain an elegant posture in this place of life, may you, may I, like Gu Qingyu, learn to enrich themselves.
Rich ability, give yourself the life you want, rich appearance, maintain a healthy and beautiful posture, rich mentality, no matter what you encounter, you can stay positive, rich in selfishness, not kidnapped by emotions, and then, become a sparkling person.