Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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Did you find out? When people are old, whether you are really useful or not, as long as you manage too much, the more unpopular you are!
In today's society, it is no better than in the old days, whether the elderly in the family are right or wrong, most of them have children to obey. Even when there are big things and small things, they are willing to listen to the opinions of the elderly. In particular, the old man and old lady in the big family will be the "needle of the sea god" of the whole family!
But today, no better than in the old days.
Elderly people, if they can bring real -- "welfare" to their children and grandchildren, they may be obedient to you. If you can't get the benefits and you have to "take care of things", you will not be well fed back.
In reality, the elderly will be divided into the following categories:
1: Everything must be "decided", and the children's lives are messed up because of the strong force.
2: If something asks me, I will give relatively suitable advice. Without asking me, I will stop at everything and stop interfering too much!
3: No matter what happens, I will retreat to the "second line", if I can help my children, I will not be able to help, and I will not cry poor. As for the lives of children, good or bad do not interfere!
4: Carry the weight for your children and cultivate white-eyed wolves who do not understand gratitude!
Comparatively speaking, the most pleasing thing for children is the third kind of old man! Although the second type is not bad, because of the self-perceived "point to the end", it will occasionally be considered by children as "nosy"! The fourth kind deserves it!
In fact, when people are old, admitting that they are "incompetent" is the great wisdom!
Looking at the current relationship between the elderly and young people, it is not difficult for us to find that people are too capable when they are old, and they really do not have any benefits for themselves! Even, tired is not flattering!
Moreover, as people continue to age, many times what they think is right is really not necessarily the "right" that young people want!
A generation, there is a generation of living! Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, can be happy and idle, do not find "uncomfortable"!
When people are old, the more outwardly "capable" they are, the less blessed they are!
Competent, divided into two types: seeking inward and seeking outward.
The person who seeks to be capable is to manage his own food, clothing, warmth, and health, which is the best way to be relatively comfortable and not to cause trouble to his children. Children will also be particularly unbearable because of their parents' "not dragging themselves down", but they will be closer from the heart.
The ability to seek outward is to feel that one cannot do anything in one's own superpowers. Over time, the desolation of old age followed.
It is true that some elderly people are most afraid of having no weight and losing "usefulness" in the hearts of their children, so they will try their best to "perform". In fact, this is nothing more than a mentality!
What's more, even if the old man's original intention is very good, but because he has not really made his children feel the benefits, it will be a kind of harmful and unhelpful thing.
Old people, too capable, are ignorant of hurting others and hurting themselves.
Originally, between young people and old adults, there was a difference in living habits and concepts of looking at things, and if they were forced to do it, they would inevitably lose both. The most common phenomenon is:
Young people are deeply consumed, and old people are deeply saddened.
When people are old, they must know how to show weakness in front of young people!
Just as the so-called "good man does not mention the courage of the year", "the heroes of the past are better than the past". The old man who is too capable is the root of his self-inflicted suffering in his later years.
Too capable, so that I can make all kinds of contributions to my children, overloaded and unbearable.
Too capable will make your "nosy" make your children sick.
Too capable, you will not feel happy and happy and down-to-earth at all times.
People have reached the end of their lives, and the rest of their lives are few. Don't let "too capable" paint yourself a prison.
When people are old, don't compete with young people, and live freely with appropriate recognition.
To be a "useless" person is not a kind of advanced practice in the later years? Eat enough, dress warmly, try to stay healthy, that's enough! What else do you want to believe?
When you're old:
Appropriately leave some money in your hands, don't be eaten endlessly by your children and don't know gratitude; appropriately strengthen exercise to ensure that the deterioration of physical function is delayed; don't be too willing to throw away leftovers, and the result is that the disease enters from the mouth and accompanies the pain.
Some elderly people do not know that properly showing weakness and admitting encouragement in front of their children is the best way to find peace of mind.
Shoulders can not resist, hands can not lift, some of the empty "experience of people" as far as possible to retain.
When you are old and cannot adjust your mentality, you will become the focus of relatives, neighbors, and the object of disgust of your children.
When people are old, they should appropriately admit encouragement, show weakness, and serve the old! After a lifetime of hard work, don't let your ability become the first factor in the desolation of the evening scene.
Confession is not really instigated, but an open-minded state of mind.
Weakness is not to please anyone, but to be a penetrating epiphany.
Serving the old, it is not really impossible to do anything, but to let go of the rest of your life!
When they are old, their children have their own independent life and freedom, just live themselves well!
In order to avoid the bleakness of the evening scene, let's start by changing the "competent" and not getting away with it!
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