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There is a saying on the Internet that says:
When the heart is small, all the little things are big; when the heart is big, all the big things are small.
Pepsi starts from the heart. If a person has a bad mentality, no matter how small things are, they will become big things.
Just like the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, most of them are caused by trivial things, but in the end they will become major events that break up the family.
As the saying goes: Think hard about the mistakes, and think back and think about everything.
A harmonious family and a happy life are not without contradictions, but have an open-minded mentality and the wisdom of not competing with things.
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When I grew up, I understood that the New Year is just a magnifying glass, infinitely expanding the subtle emotions that were originally hidden in the heart, and happy people are happier, and painful people are more painful.
In the New Year, all kinds of complex interpersonal relationships will come together, there will be many trivial things happening, and the subtle emotions produced by complexity and triviality will expand infinitely under the magnifying glass of the New Year.
Especially between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, who are sensitive by nature, are most likely to have a gap, and if the mentality is not good, small emotions will eventually lead to big contradictions.
01. The first time to celebrate the New Year at the in-laws' house
Netizen Ding Ni (pseudonym) this year is the first time to celebrate the New Year at her in-laws' house.
On the night of Chinese New Year's Eve, she saw her mother-in-law Chinese New Year's Eve in the circle of friends, and after reading the comments, she felt aggrieved and only wanted to go back to her mother's house.
The wedding she and her husband Gao Ze (pseudonym) just held on National Day last year was less than half a year old. Although the relationship between her and her mother-in-law is not intimate, she also respects each other as guests and gets along harmoniously.
Tinnie's marriage house is in the main city, close to her mother's house.
The mother-in-law lives in the district and county below, about 20 minutes by car, married for less than half a year, she has never lived in the in-laws' house.
This year, she took the twenty-sixth holiday to clean up and clean her room at home. After two days of busyness, before she could catch her breath, her mother-in-law called her and Takazawa back for the New Year. Subsequently, she stayed at her in-laws' house.
The next morning, the mother-in-law was doing cleaning at home, took a purchase list, and arranged for her to go grocery shopping. Most of the New Year goods, the mother-in-law has already bought, mainly let her buy some seafood and vegetables.
However, when she purchased things back, either the shrimp was not fresh enough, and it would have blackheads when cooked, or the fish was too big, the soup had a fishy smell, or the greens were too old...
In short, of the several large bags of things she bought, few of them were satisfactory to her mother-in-law.
Takazawa saw that she was unhappy and explained it to her. It turned out that when the mother-in-law had not been separated from her father-in-law before, the Chinese New Year's Eve meals Chinese New Year's Eve every year were the responsibility of the mother-in-law alone, from purchasing dishes to cooking.
Previously, Takazawa's grandparents lived with them.
The father-in-law is the eldest son in the family, the family concept is relatively strong, every Spring Festival, Gao Ze's two uncles will be called to come together for the New Year.
The mother-in-law has to purchase at least two tables of dishes every year, so the mother-in-law has a wealth of life experience. Takazawa said her mother-in-law was not deliberately critical of her, but was teaching her how to choose good quality ingredients.
02. Cook Chinese New Year's Eve meal alone
From Gao Ze's mouth, Ding Ni also learned that the father-in-law was somewhat stubborn and pedantic, and the mother-in-law had lived very hard before.
Every year, the Spring Festival is the most tired time for the mother-in-law, and almost single-handedly solves the Chinese New Year's Eve meal of more than a dozen people. But women in the mother-in-law's era, the tolerance level is relatively high, has always dared to be angry and dare not speak.
However, patience always has a limit, and after Takazawa graduated from college, his mother-in-law still parted ways with her father-in-law.
After Ding Ni understood the situation, her mentality had just returned to calm, and a move by her mother-in-law made her heart full of grievances.
At that time, Takazawa wanted to help her wash the dishes in the kitchen.
The mother-in-law pushed Takazawa out, saying that it was hard to take a holiday, and that she had to go to rest quickly, and that the kitchen was not a place for men to stay.
In the first issue of "Mother-in-law and Mother", Chen Ruoyi was wiping the window, Lin Zhiying wanted to help, Lin Zhiying's mother saw it and immediately stopped it, letting Lin Zhiying go to rest.
Finally, the family sat at the table eating fruit and watched Chen Ruoyi wipe the window alone.
When Ding Ni watched it before, she thought it was arranged by the script, but she didn't expect that in real life, there really was such a mother-in-law.
The same is true when making Chinese New Year's Eve meals. The mother-in-law planned to make 10 dishes, wrote the ingredients of each dish on a piece of paper, and then, the rest, she was handed over.
At that time, the sister-in-law, who also had a failed marriage, and her 17-year-old son also came to celebrate the New Year. The mother-in-law chatted with the aunt in the living room, and occasionally went into the kitchen to guide her.
Tinnie was alone in the kitchen, and the more she thought about it, the more aggrieved she became.
Gao Ze saw that her face was not right, and from time to time he came over to offer his hospitality, asked her if he wanted to help, brought tea in for her to drink, and explained to her that his mother-in-law wanted to accompany the guests...
Although Tinnie was not happy, she also knew that today was Chinese New Year's Eve night, and she should focus on the overall situation.
However, when she was ready to cook all the dishes and prepare them for the table, her mentality almost collapsed- her mother-in-law did not wait for her to open the table.
Because Chinese New Year's Eve day, the weather was very cold, do not eat while hot, the dishes are cold.
03. See the mother-in-law in the circle of friends Chinese New Year's Eve rice
Tinnie had to hold back the tears. In her family, the Chinese New Year's Eve meals that Chinese New Year's Eve every year are participated by the family. After the dishes are ready, we must wait until the family is in a neat and tidy manner before opening the table.
Chinese New Year's Eve didn't eat happily. What's worse is that the mother-in-law keeps pointing out the shortcomings of each dish...
Chinese New Year's Eve meal was almost over, Tinnie hid in her room by videographing her parents.
She chatted with her parents for more than an hour, and when she came out, the tables, chairs, dishes and chopsticks had been packed, and her mother-in-law seemed to be a little unhappy, and when she saw that she wanted to go back to the room, she immediately ordered her to sweep the floor.
After sweeping the floor, Ding Ni was playing with her mobile phone alone in the room and saw her mother-in-law Chinese New Year's Eve in the circle of friends.
She was curious for a moment, clicked in to read the comments, of which Aunt Takazawa commented that she had finally survived, this year's New Year's Day did not have to be so tired, there was a daughter-in-law to help...
Ding Ni had aunt as a friend before, and she could see her mother-in-law's reply, and it was her mother-in-law's reply that made her mentality completely collapse.
The mother-in-law said that today's young people, no matter how reliable they are, they still have to rely on themselves for everything.
Tired for a day, Ding Ni, the grievances in her heart were incomparable, just as Gao Ze came in, she said with a black face: "I want to go back to my mother's house..."
Tinnie left her in-laws' house overnight.
04. I want to go back to my mother's house
At that time, Takazawa saw that she had made up her mind, so he told her mother-in-law that she had not spent Chinese New Year's Eve with her parents for the first time, and her heart was uncomfortable, and she wanted to send her back to her mother's house to have a look.
On the way back to his mother's house, Takazawa persuaded: "My mother did not mean it, she had some ideas and concepts that were cultivated in my father's house, and now that she is older, she cannot change for a while, and I will slowly talk to her." ”
Gao Ze made her have a better mentality, and her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are still in the run-in stage, don't be too calculating.
Ding Ni said angrily, "Your mother also came this way, why should you try to give me a try again of what you have suffered now, do not do to others what you do not want, do not understand such a simple reason?" ”
Takazawa had nothing to say, but repeatedly advised her to relax her mind and not to compete with her mother-in-law.
There is a saying that if the heart is calculated, there are complaints everywhere; if the heart is relaxed, it is always spring.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, mentality is really important, more tolerance and understanding, less calculation and complaints, the family can be harmonious, life can be happy.
As the saying goes: Pepsi starts from the heart, a smile to solve a thousand sorrows.
The heart is as wide as the sea, only when the wind and waves are calm; if the heart is sunny, it can be warm everywhere.
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