Some people say that sincerity in the relationship is a must-kill skill, but the premise is that this person at least has a good feeling for you, does not hate you so much, and is willing to try it with you.
If the other party does not want to be with you at all, or even try it, your sincerity is a joke in the eyes of the other party, and the other party will not be moved by your sincerity.
So sincerity is not to give to everyone, you are sincere to him if you are sincere to yourself, if the other party is not sincere to you, why should you be sincere with him?
There are still many people who feel that if they are good to women, they will definitely be able to get women's hearts, in fact, this is also wishful thinking, the real situation is that those men who are too good to women generally do not end too well, for these 3 reasons.
The first reason, your kindness to her may have made her run away
Why?
Because people's cognition of themselves, in fact, a lot of it stems from the people around themselves, and the summary of the people around them on themselves has become a lot of people's cognition of themselves.
Just like when you were a child, you didn't know that you were smart, and even you didn't understand what it meant to be smart, but adults say that you are very smart every day, and over time, you will feel very smart.
It's the same with women, why do many ordinary girls look down on ordinary men now?
It is because many boys in order to pursue girls, the girl is too high, send such a gift that they save money, the result is that women become beautiful and bright, go to see a beggar by themselves, how can the other party look up to you.
Holding the other person too high, it is easy to make the other person feel good about himself, and even feel that he can deserve a better person, you are just a stumbling block for her.
You deserve a lot from her, and a little love from her is a gift to you.
You were originally at the same level, and as a result, you pushed her to the top of the clouds, and she could no longer look at the ordinary you on the top of the clouds.
The second reason is that women don't just want men to be nice to themselves
As the saying goes, men are, women are strong, since ancient times, women looking for objects are upward compatible, especially looking at the current situation of the marriage market, many women only have the best 5% of men in their eyes.
This is actually a very distorted concept of mate selection, women are upward compatible, many women like to find a man who is stronger than themselves, let her worship, can take her to grow up, teach her sophistication.
But if a man is accommodating to her and clings to her in everything, then she will not look up to you, and will even look down on you very much, thinking that you are not a man.
Today she scolds you and you endure, tomorrow she scolds you and you endure, and the day after tomorrow she can put your face and dignity under the soles of your feet and knead and stomp hard.
You think you are accommodating her, but she feels that you are very stubborn, and it is better to please a person without a bottom line, and it is better to please yourself in turn.
Try to improve yourself and make yourself better, and then the other party will naturally move closer to you.
The third reason, being too good to a person is itself a violation of nature
Getting along with people is actually a game, and the reason why many couples quarrel and contradict after marriage is actually a kind of competition for family sovereignty.
Everyone wants to be the master of the family and become the person in charge of the family, but a family is not suitable for two people to be the master, which will make a family slowly collapse.
We often hear a saying that it is the feelings experienced that can last a long time, and the husband and wife also need to check and balance each other, if the status of two people is not equal, then how can equal love be.
Just like many parents spoil their children too much and are eager to dedicate everything they have to their children, children often do not take their parents' efforts seriously, and even resent their parents in turn.
Even in turn, complain that your parents give too little, the feelings are the same, you are too good to a person, the other party will take you wrongly, and when you give a little less that day, the other party will resent you.
Have you forgotten the example of Sheng Mien Dou Mi Vengeance? And high pay will inevitably have high expectations, when the reality and the ideal of a huge gap, this relationship actually has a crisis.
Of course, we can't deny all women because of a few bad women, women are still different from women, some people know how to be grateful, and some people don't know how to be grateful.
But we can't deny that human nature is like this, when you are too good to a person, too good to lose the bottom line, the relationship is not far from the end.
The old ancestors have long said that everything is too late, and it is also good for a person, and when you are too good to a person, the other party will treat you inappropriately.
This is not prejudice against women, this is reality, it is the heartache that only those who have experienced it can understand.
I still don't remember the lyrics: "Maybe give up to get close to you..."