Love is not a one-man affair, it is a result of the joint efforts between men and women.
For women, it is natural to hope that they can meet a good person and then be able to live well after determining the relationship.
However, knowing the face and not knowing the heart, we do not know what a person's character is, and it will also be because it is the first time to fall in love without experience, making it very difficult to deal with feelings.
At this time, we will feel that as long as we are obedient, as long as we dress ourselves well, we will make ourselves look beautiful, after all, men are visual animals.
And when we do that, it doesn't seem to do much.
There may be a moment and a half of happiness, but it is only because the freshness is at work, and when the freshness fades, we will still not feel happy.
And in a relationship between the sexes, it's often these three kinds of women who are having a good time with whom, really.
A woman with irreplaceable value
Fan Shengmei in the TV series "Ode to Joy" is particularly beautiful, and she is a radiant character in college.
However, after Andy appeared, almost all high-quality men would have a soft spot for Andy.
The reason is that although Andy does not have Fan Sheng's good looks, her work ability and the bold way of handling things make her whole person exude different charms.
Andy's value is irreplaceable, incomparable to those who stay on the surface of beauty.
Appearance is very important, after all, if there is no value, there will be no one interested in understanding our absence.
But if there is only the value of the face, then after the freshness has passed, the value of the face will become worthless.
When the appearance and identity, status, education, etc. come out together, that is Wang Bang, only when it is single out, it is a dead end, there is no external support inside, and it will become worthless after a long time.
Therefore, we must enhance our own intrinsic value, and when we master a skill, we also have irreplaceable value.
At this time, we naturally do not worry about who will leave us, and will not have a good time with each other.
As YiShu said: "Only a woman who does not worry about life can freely choose her husband." ”
A woman who doesn't lose herself no matter who she's with
In a relationship, what a woman fears most is to lose herself.
After establishing the relationship, they will treat love as the whole of their own life, the man as the whole of their own life, and then no matter what they do, they will focus on the man.
They will meet men's needs as their responsibility, but also cater to men's preferences, men like what they do, they will do, men do not like, they do not do.
They never think about whether they want to do something they like or whether they don't like it at all.
In the long run, these people have lost their egos, and gradually they have lost the initiative in love, because they have been led by the nose of men invisibly.
There is a kind of woman in this world, no matter who they are with, they will not blindly release their kindness, and they will not ignore themselves in order to meet the needs of men.
They are very "selfish", and this "selfishness" is also rare intelligence.
They know that if in a relationship they don't even know themselves, then don't expect other people to know them.
Bi Shumin once said a sentence that I agree with very much: "Our lives do not exist because we please others." ”
Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance, and when we know how to think for ourselves, please note that this is not selfishness, but a manifestation of the beginning of our inner maturity.
A woman who can stop losses in time and know how to return
Fantine in the movie "Les Misérables" is very beautiful, and when she went to Paris to study, she was also looked at by the children of rich families because of such beauty.
The rich family's children immediately launched a fierce attack on her, the flowers continued, and Fantine, who had just opened her heart, also felt that she had met love.
Her companions told her not to get too deep, because the children of the rich families had come to Paris to study, and their families would find them a wife to be the right one.
But Fantine felt that she had met true love, and even gave birth to a daughter in order to keep the rich family's children.
But in the end, the rich family left only a farewell letter and left.
At this time, Fantine could not find a job because she was unmarried and pregnant, and she was also insulted by others.
If you think about it, all these tragedies don't stem from her initial failure to recognize the situation and think that she can create miracles, but it still doesn't help.
Such a thing, a smart woman would never allow herself to do it.
Lu Qi once said in "Love Needs Stop Loss": "In this world, what you want, you will get." If you get something you don't want, you have to throw it away in time, otherwise you will get more and more wrong. ”
Because they know how to stop losses in time, such women will protect their interests to the greatest extent and will not be wronged by who they are with.