Text/Wei Chen
Everyone is a magnetic field.
If you want to understand a person, look at what kind of person he surrounds, as the old saying goes: "Things are clustered in groups, and people are divided into groups." ”
Speaking is an indispensable form of communication in interpersonal communication. Whether a person can speak or not, and whether he understands the method of speaking or not, depends to a large extent on his level of thinking, cognition and cultivation.
Usually, how a person talks to others will get along with others.
In addition to the external conditions that can be seen and touched, there is also an elusive inner spirit.
There are clouds in the Middle Way: "The earth is low into the sea, the man is low into the king, the saint is nameless, and the great is invisible." ”
The level of a person depends on how low-key he is. The more low-key people have more connotations, and the more ostentatious people are, the more difficult it is to achieve great things.
As the saying goes, modesty makes people progress, and pride makes people backward. It is necessary to be a careful person.
Psychologist Freud once said: "There is no such thing as a slip of the tongue, all slips of mouth are a true expression of the subconscious mind." ”
We can see the pattern and character of a person through the way they speak and the content of their expressions.
Speaking has always been an art, being able to speak is the ability, and being able to keep silent at the right time is wisdom.
It is not difficult to speak, but the words spoken are like spilled water, and a sentence can amuse the other party and anger the other party.
Many times as bystanders, we simply can't empathize, let alone see all the truth, and it is necessary to choose to remain silent at this time.
It is a good thing not to speculate casually.
Speaking should pay attention to the sense of proportion, once people lose their proportions, they will lose their identity.
If you want to understand a person's level, you can see by looking at the mouth that some habits cannot be hidden at all.
Behind the scenes, he often gossips about others, not a gentleman
Mencius has a cloud: "If people are not good at what they say, what should they do if they are angry?" "A gentleman never talks about others behind his back, a gentleman will only be an adult beauty."
As we all know, those who say that people are right and wrong behind their backs must be people who are right and wrong. Since ancient times, gentlemen have been frank and far away from right and wrong, and some things will not be said around even if they are listened to.
If a person can't even control his mouth, it will be difficult to control the direction of life.
There are two sides to everything in this world, and there is no absolutely perfect man, and there is no absolutely evil man.
So, we don't judge a person on the basis of one thing alone, after all, you are not him, and you have not experienced what he has experienced.
People's fates are different, and maybe at some point in the day, you understand something. But at that time, it was somewhat ridiculous to regret that I had misjudged.
Behind the scenes, it is often said that people who gossip cannot be handed over, and this person is not a gentleman, even if he is not a villain.
Complaining everywhere, it is difficult to achieve
If you look closely, you will find that those who complain and complain about it in life are difficult to achieve great things.
As the saying goes, there is no way to compare goods, and people can't live than people.
Life has always been this mountain is higher than that mountain, we are based on society, everyone hopes that their life is smooth.
However, life itself is full of ups and downs, with uphill and downhill. Remaining silent at a low ebb is a lesson that everyone should seriously study.
As the saying goes, character determines destiny. What kind of character a person has, he will have a similar fate.
Optimistic people, after all, life will not be too bad, pessimistic people, always afraid of what comes.
Sometimes our lives are not arranged by the external environment, but by our own state of mind.
People with too much negative energy often have no good fate and no good opportunities. It is not fate that tricks people, but that in their blind complaints, they have long been unable to see the opportunities around them and the scenery in the distance.
Talking about it is unreliable
The shallow people of this world are always chattering, the ignorant people like to talk about it, and only the wise can know it.
The words spoken by the mouthless are always untrustworthy, and they often exaggerate or even invent out of thin air in order to achieve a certain effect and create a certain atmosphere.
Life has always been like sailing against the current, and if you don't advance, you will retreat. Only by maintaining a humble and studious attitude at all times can you keep your position.
Those who can interject no matter what kind of problems they face and come with their mouths open often only understand the skin, and although they have a strong sense of participation, they cannot rely on it.
You know, it is very important to be able to recognize yourself in life.
Many people are because they can't recognize themselves, or are unwilling to admit their shortcomings, so they show their personal "style" everywhere.
The more badly mixed people in the crowd, the more they like to talk about it, because for them, the most convenient way to get the attention of others is to deceive.
Good deceivers, unreliable.
Good teachers don't know how to shut up, annoying people
Do you know why a good teacher is so annoying?
The answer is simple, that is, they always self-righteously provide answers to others.
In fact, it is a good thing to be willing to give advice to others in life. But when this advice comes with coercive pressure, it can feel depressing.
No normal person would like someone who makes him feel depressed.
Suggestions can be there, but not too strong and detailed. Everyone's life belongs to themselves, and making decisions for others is a nosy thing.
If things are managed well, it will stop, and if things are not managed well, it will not increase regrets and troubles for people.
A high-level person knows how to control his mouth, and he can soberly realize that he is not omnipotent.
Therefore, high-level people do not consider themselves experts when dealing with people, but are more willing to listen to the opinions of others.
Those who do not do a good job as teachers are the consciousness of the wise.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.