There is a saying:
"Appreciating a person often stems from behavior, and so does disgusting a person."
In the relationship between men and women, a man will make women feel off, often not because they are not handsome enough; nor because they do not have much money at the moment.
And it was only because of what the man had done that made her feel disappointed.
So which of men's behaviors are the most depraved in women's minds?
After investigation, it was found that in the minds of most women, there will be the following three.
Without responsibility, you can't bear things
In the relationship, no matter how strong the appearance of a woman, is eager to be pampered, cared for, protected.
They want the man around them, if not everyone's hero, but at least their own hero.
When danger comes, when faced with pressure, you can appear in front of yourself without hesitation and tell yourself, "Don't be afraid, I am here!" ”
But if a man always shrinks back when things happen, or even pushes them in front, then such a man's good feelings in women's hearts will plummet!
In the TV series "Know It or Not", Sheng Minglan really likes Xiao Gongye, which is beyond doubt.
But in the end?
In the end, when Xiao Gongye faced his mother's obstruction and encountered some difficulties, he withdrew, he gave up Sheng Minglan and married the county lord.
It was also at that moment that Sheng Minglan was completely disappointed in xiao Gongye, and the feelings of the two people were doomed to have no more results.
I once saw such a sentence in "Strawberry Life":
"I like rational people, but in front of people I like, I want to have the right to be spoiled, weak, and protected." 」
In this life, there are many difficulties.
For women, although they do not want to be completely attached to a man, in their hearts, the other half must be able to rely on and trust.
If a man, when he is not responsible for things, can not bear things, naturally will disappoint women, and in the end, even if they love again, they will be different.
Blindly nibble on the old, do not seek progress
I have seen such a sentence:
"I'm not afraid that you'll be poor for a while, but I can't stand it, and I'll be poor with you."
In the hearts of women, they are not afraid of poverty, but of poverty and hopelessness.
If a man is always at ease with the old and is not self-motivated at all, then such a man can only make women despise and despise.
In the TV series "Under the Warm Sun", Lu Keying, because of "love", married Song Wei, who was still nothing at that time, after graduating from college.
In Lu Keying's heart at that time, as long as Song could only work hard, then they would have everything one day.
However, the truth was not as Lu Keying thought, and the only thing song was completely crushed because he encountered several setbacks in his job search.
He played games all day, and when he had no money, he asked his father for it, and even needed Lu Keying to earn money to support him.
In this way, after being disappointed again and again, Lu Keying was completely chilled, and the feelings of the two people also came to an end.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"The hurt a man does to a woman is not necessarily that he is in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations."
Is poverty terrible?
In fact, for most young people who have just entered society, no one is not poor, and the poverty at this time will not be looked down upon by women.
However, when a man is not only poor, but also does not have a little motivation to make progress, he always has to get by, and he has no money to find a family.
Then such a man will wear down women's patience little by little, and eventually he will inevitably be thrown down like garbage by women.
Indecisive, no opinion
Someone said:
"Every woman will fall into the decisive charm of a man."
Admittedly, for women, they always admire the kind of person who has an opinion and can tolerate her.
And when a man is always indecisive and ambiguous about anything, then naturally it will make women feel unreliable and insecure, and instinctively want to stay away.
Some time ago, my friend Lolo met a man through a blind date.
At first, Lolo felt that the man was quite good, and his appearance and job met her criteria for mate selection, so he also planned that the two of them could try to communicate.
But just after the second date, Lolo decisively ended the relationship.
I asked Lolo, aren't his conditions pretty good?
Lolo just said, "Don't mention it, I'm angry about it." ”
It turned out that on the second date between the two people, Lolo had thought that the man would arrange all the processes.
But when she saw him ask him what he was doing, he said he didn't know; she suggested going to dinner, and he just said yes.
In Lolo's words:
"With him, I don't feel like I'm having a boyfriend, but like I'm taking a son, it's really tiring!"
Men and women get along, in fact, this is the case, women will always want to passively accept love, accept men's arrangements.
Only when men have a little opinion, then women can feel safe.
On the contrary, if a man always does not have his own ideas, then the woman will feel tired and naturally will not have any good feelings.
When men and women get along, in fact, what can attract each other is the kind of comfortable and natural behavior.
If a man's behavior always makes women feel off, then the opposite sex naturally cannot be good, and of course, it is impossible to chase the girl he likes.
As a man, although you can't please all girls, at least don't be disgusted.
For the rest of your life, may you put an end to the above three behaviors, and then be appreciated and better find your share of happiness.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.