My twin brother is a complete "good person", caring for everyone in the family, everyone in the kindergarten class, even the unknown crying children and grandfathers walking on the road.
The brother is just the opposite, he is very "selfish", extremely seeking self-satisfaction and entertainment, and paying little attention to family and friends.
As a life partner and friend, everyone will like the younger brother, but as a mother, I also "selfishly" think that the brother's personality of putting himself first, he will live a much easier and happier life. And for my brother's "rotten good guy", I really have too many worries.
1
The brother's "good" is touching, but it makes the mother very worried
My brother, the kind of kid who makes you want to give him a big hug, say a few examples.
Children are required to wear masks when entering and leaving kindergarten. I usually prepare two masks for children, ask them to use the one in the morning and put it in the bag (the garbage can in the kindergarten class is more hidden, may be afraid of the child's touch, so they are generally required to take the morning mask home and throw it away), in the afternoon out of the kindergarten, take the new mask in the bag.
When it is hot, wearing a mask on the way to kindergarten, you may be sweaty, and it will be uncomfortable to use the old one in the afternoon. Or the child blows the wind a little runny nose and gets dirty. So I feel that using new in the afternoon is better for the health of the child.
However, my brother, when he comes home in the afternoon, he basically does not take the new mask in his bag. Unless a classmate forgot to bring it, he would give the new mask that had not been used to the classmate.
Whether it is No. 3, No. 15, no. 30, he will know that he can see and hear, and he can reach over and give his classmates a new mask.
And the brother? Every afternoon after school, obediently take a new mask to use, even if he does not bring a student number (the line at the end of school according to the student number station), he will not know, or his brother gave his new mask to his classmates.
One week in kindergarten, my brother would give a female classmate a spoonful of Chinese medicine every morning before going in for breakfast. I asked my brother, "Did the female classmate ask you to help feed it?" ”
The younger brother said, "No, I saw her eating very slowly and very unhappily." I remember that I took medicine before, and it was my grandmother who was very happy to feed her spoon by spoon, and I thought of taking the initiative to feed her. ”
This behavior of the younger brother lasted for a week, and the female classmate did not play often, was not a good friend that the younger brother often mentioned, and may not be the closest of this kind. But when he saw that people were unhappy, he would find a way to help the handle.
In fact, I am a little worried, after all, the female classmates must be cold when they take medicine, and my brother is so close to her that he may be infected with infectious bacteria. My brother told me, "Mom, you can rest assured, I have a mask to wear, and I will take off the mask after feeding the medicine!" ”
Such a child really wants to hug him fiercely.
The list goes on and on.
In the kindergarten, there are students from other classes who know each other in the extracurricular class, crying in the corner, and the younger brother will go to comfort him, help him find the class teacher, and ask the teacher to escort the crying students back to the classroom to rest.
When a classmate dropped a bone on the ground during a meal, the younger brother would be very angry and criticized, because he was afraid that other children would not see it and would fall if they accidentally stepped on it. I told him, "If you tell your classmate to pick it up, she doesn't; you have to tell her what you're worried about; if she still doesn't pick it up, you can go get the broom and sweep the garbage away, and you don't have to worry about the classmate wrestling." The younger brother was very happy to hear it.
My dad had a leg injury the other day, and I told my child not to touch grandpa's leg when he was playing next to him. Later, I asked them if they were obedient, and my brother said, "I have to take good care of Grandpa, Grandpa is asleep, and I covered him with a quilt." ”
I also heard my brother in the next room learning to ask in an adult tone, "Grandpa, are you better?" You have to be careful next time, you can't go so fast. ”
Look at my brother again, continuing to play with his building blocks, and everything outside is like a floating cloud.
We will be touched by our brother again and again, but we are also sad that he cares about too many things that do not match him at a young age, and we are afraid that he will hurt himself. My brother's warmth and friendliness made us love and worry ambivalently.
But some of the things I've encountered in the past few days and some of the news I've seen have made me have different ideas.
2
"Why not eat minced meat"? Society still needs enthusiastic, righteous "little angels"
At the training institution where the child attended the class, there was a sub-MI receiver. The training institution requires all parents and students to undergo 3 tests within two weeks before resuming classes. This includes the children who attend classes the day before the MI pick-up is at the training institution, that is, all the students who have not had the opportunity to reach out.
My family is two children, and I need my husband and I to take the children to class. That is, in the case of complete lack of contact, 4 people need to take 3 days off, test 3 times, and spend 1,000 yuan.
After I fed back to the upper level, the teacher of the training institution called me and said: "The test is free, right?" ”
I thought of the story of "why not eat meat" (there was a famine one year, and the people had no food to eat, only to dig up grass roots and eat bark, and many people starved to death. The news was quickly reported to the palace, and Emperor Hui of Jin sat on a high throne and listened to the minister's report, and was greatly puzzled. The "kind" Emperor Hui of Jin wanted to do something for his people, and after much deliberation, he finally realized a "solution": "The people are hungry without corn, why not eat meat?" "The people are hungry and have no rice to eat, so why not eat porridge?" ）。
I explained to the teacher: "At present, there are not many free ones, and there are restrictions on time and place. My husband's daily work time is 10 o'clock, and in the morning our husband and wife need to send their children to kindergarten, and there is really no extra time to go to the test. ”
The requirements are considered globally, we understand. But have you ever considered the lives and actual situations of many ordinary people?
These days, Deng Lun has evaded hundreds of millions of taxes on the news hot search, and people can be fined in hundreds of millions of dollars just by taxes and fees, but what about most ordinary people? Who can see their lives, understand their sufferings, and really solve their problems.
On the same day, a middle-aged man in Shenzhen, the breakfast shop has been closed for half a month, but the store rent, loans, and labor costs have to be paid as usual, and parents and children must be supported and raised as usual. "I thought it would get better slowly, but looking at the family photos, my eyes were red, and I really broke down!"
Most people live this kind of collapse, the brink of collapse, or the life of genuinely wishing someone to help!
These are two pieces of news that swept the screen on the same day, one is high above, the fairy world of 5% or even 2% of people; the other is a true portrayal of the general public.
Zhumen dog meat smells, the road has frozen bones.
In China's 9.6 million square kilometers of fertile land, the area of 15 "new first-tier" cities such as Nanjing, Qingdao and Hangzhou is added up, accounting for less than 3%.
That is to say, 97% of the more than 300 prefecture-level cities, more than 3,000 county towns, more than 40,000 townships, and 660,000 villages, there are a billion people living, and they may live a life that you can't imagine.
The right to speak may always be in the hands of some people and a small number of people, but we all hope that those who have the right to speak can speak for ordinary people and can really stand in the perspective of ordinary people. This also requires a younger brother who has a natural "sad and compassionate" personality, a little more!
Dare to speak up, be willing to speak up, speak up for the public, not just speak for yourself!
3
Children of "rotten good people" need to learn to fight for the right to speak, protect themselves and speak up for more people at the same time
Randall in the TV series "Our Day" is a child who has compassion at all times.
3 children saw the Challenger explode on live television.
The brother has always been an evasive attitude: "Just a story on TV, not true." ”
The sister felt, "Fortunately, they fly very high, so they are close to heaven." ”
Brother Randall was worried about the children who had sacrificed astronauts, and when his mother asked him how he felt, he finally broke the silence: "That astronaut teacher and children, will someone make them dinner?" ”
When Mom told him, "Their Dad will take care of them." ”
Randall stopped fiddling with the shuttle and looked back at his mother, "You send them some macaroni and cheese, just in case." Randall wanted to share his delicious dinner with the child who had lost his mother.
Randall, like his mother's prediction many years ago, has a savior-like heart, but he also encounters setbacks along the way.
Randall met a burglary thief when he was 39 years old, and the police caught the thief 2 years later, and he ran to court on his 41st birthday to tell the thief: "You pointed a knife at me, and our whole family was scared." ”
Randall then bailed out the thief, he wanted to give the man a chance to be a good man again, and he wanted to meet him at the shelter. But sadly, Randall didn't wait for the people he expected to change.
Randall became a district councilor because he went to his biological father's rental house and found that many of the surrounding road facilities needed to be repaired. But the feedback to the MPs did not improve, and he decided to run for MPs himself.
With a savior's heart, even his assistant said, "We are not here to be politicians." "Because of many of their practices, it is indeed out of line and a bit of a reversal of priorities: they will release the pigeons of other parliamentarians twice in order to receive the public visitors."
But his wife still loved his true nature, praising him as a "true gentleman" and "single-mindedly thinking only of helping others, like obsessive-compulsive disorder." ”
epilogue
Our society needs people like Randall in "Our Day," and people like Holden in "The Catcher in the Rye": people who want to protect all innocent people, all children, who want to save all people.
A warm, kind and righteous child, I will no longer think about correcting him, hitting him, let him learn to be moderately kind, learn to be kind on the premise of protecting himself.
The goodness of the adult world is a little tight: dare not speak, dare not reach out, but long for others to speak for themselves.
I hope that children will have the courage to speak in the future, speak for most people, and be an upright person as always!
(Some of the pictures are from the Internet, the copyright belongs to the original author)