The child's schoolbag was shocked to avoid the Y set
My brother's daughter just entered the first year of junior high school this year, one day my brother and daughter-in-law found an unopened "avoid Y set" in helping the child organize the schoolbag, she was stunned at the time, and felt very angry after reacting, because I usually have a good relationship with the child, so the brother and daughter-in-law told me about it for the first time, and then we also realized that we have never popularized the knowledge of "sex" to children since childhood.
After we calmed down and reflected, we decided to talk to our children, so I took them out to eat delicious food on the weekend. Talking about this during the meal, I asked her how the things came from, the child was very scared at first, and after I calmed her emotions, she told me the reason for the incident, it turned out that they had just taken a physiological hygiene class, and there were a few male classmates in the class at that time who were playing around, using the "Y Sleeve" as a balloon to blow, and secretly stuffing it into the schoolbag of the female classmate, so this happened.
The first year of junior high school girl's schoolbag was shocked to avoid the Y set, and her mother's textbook coping style was praised.
I told my child that it wasn't her fault, it was the male classmates who were at fault, and that they shouldn't have done this in public, let alone to the female classmates.
After sending the child home, my brother and daughter-in-law and I had a conversation on how to popularize science about "sex" for the child, specifically in the following aspects:
1. Parents are the best teachers for their children
As the saying goes, "Parents are their children's first teachers, and families are their children's first schools".
If parents want to give their children the right sex education, they first need to accumulate more knowledge, such as learning physiological knowledge and understanding the structure of the human body...... So that when children have questions, they can answer their questions in a timely and correct manner. If parents are too difficult to talk about their children's problems, this will only provoke their children's rebellious psychology and make children have wrong perceptions.
2. Find the right time and communicate patiently
Adolescent children will be more sensitive and rebellious, blind accusations and criticism will only make children more resistant, find opportunities to communicate with children on the right occasions, patient guidance will make children more acceptable, but also to think from the child's point of view, not only to instill their own ideas into the child, but also to let the child experience what the parents say.
3. A child's "puppy love" is not scary
Adolescent children are in the beginning of the period of love, they have their own favorite of the opposite sex is actually very normal, some parents will think that "early love" is the child's wrong thinking, some will speak ill of the child, and even hit the child, these ways are wrong, will only make the child want to escape from the control of the parents more.
Parents should communicate with their children in a timely manner, and calmly analyze the problem, so that the child knows that it is normal to interact with the opposite sex, and "puppy love" is not terrible, but at the same time, it is also necessary to remind the child to protect himself from being hurt, and of course, not to hurt others.
4. Pay attention to respect your child's personal privacy
In order to get to know their children better, some parents will peek at their children's diaries or peek at their children's mobile phones, which are not advisable. As a parent, you must respect your child's privacy, protect your child's privacy, look at your child's things at will, invade your child's privacy, and make your child feel disrespected, which will only backfire and make your child more defensive of his parents.
5. Companionship trumps everything
Some parents let their grandparents take care of their children because they are busy with work, but the elderly and their children are always next generation. Parents should spend more time with their children, care more and love more, so that their children can feel the warmth of the family, and at the same time, they can understand the situation of their children at any time, and they are more willing to communicate with their parents and listen to their parents' opinions.
After unifying my opinion with my brother and daughter-in-law, I immediately placed an order to buy a set of books about puberty for my child, a total of two, one is "The Private Book of Adolescent Girls" and the other is "The Secret Book of Adolescent Boys", and the reason why I bought her a boy is because I think that no matter girls and boys, in this special stage of puberty, they should not only understand the physical and mental development changes of their own gender, but also understand the physical and mental development changes of the opposite sex, so that they will not make mistakes because of curiosity.
What should I do if I have emotional trouble?
After spending an afternoon at her brother's daughter-in-law's house, when chatting with her children, she said that there was something she was very confused about, it turned out that she had a female classmate who had a good game and secretly told her that she liked girls, and she was afraid that the female classmate would have thoughts about her, so she didn't dare to associate with that female classmate anymore.
I told her that everyone's "sexual orientation" does not change in various ways due to the environment, but in the development of "sexuality", individuals may be discovered and confirmed through the exploration of a variety of "sexual" behaviors, so we can't look at this matter with colored glasses.
There is also a type of "homosexuality", also known as "homosexuality", which is one of the sexual orientations of people, referring to people who only have love and desire for the same sex, and individuals with this sexual orientation are called "homosexuals". Adolescent children may develop this sexual orientation due to certain biological reasons and the relationship between the environment in which they grew up.
If a child finds that he or she has this kind of problem, he or she should communicate with his parents in time and seek help from his or her parents or psychologist.
Only when children fully understand the various emotional troubles that may be encountered in adolescence can they know how to handle interpersonal relationships correctly and not fall into the quagmire of interpersonal communication.
It is very necessary for children to understand puberty correctly
The "sex" education of children is an issue that we should pay attention to, we should not wait until after adolescence to start, when children are very young, they may ask us some questions, such as: where do they come from, what is the difference between boys and girls...... Parents should not avoid these problems, and try to explain them to their children with some scientific and interesting stories.
When talking to children about "sexual organs", don't deliberately avoid it, let alone reprimand the child, some questions that we can't answer, don't pretend, don't pretend, tell the child some incorrect views, and be sure to guide the child correctly, so that the child can grow up more healthily and happily.
If you really don't know how to popularize science for your child, then I suggest that you buy a set of books about puberty for your child, just like the set of "Private Book for Adolescent Girls" + "Secret Book for Adolescent Boys" I gave to my niece, this set of books is very comprehensive about the physical and mental development changes and characteristics of boys and girls in adolescence, the troubles encountered during adolescence and how to deal with them.
This set of "Adolescent Girl's Private Book" + "Adolescent Boy's Secret Book" is a set of books specifically for 10-16 year old children, the book comprehensively tells the secrets of adolescent children's physical development, the handling of relationships with the opposite sex, about some confusion between the sexes, about how to face learning and complex interpersonal relationships, how to get along correctly with parents and teachers, how to better protect themselves, etc.
In the book, when do girls start to develop their bodies, what kind of underwear should they choose to help their physical development when they develop, what problems will occur when they have their first menstrual period, what kind of disorders will occur in their bodies at the beginning, and how should they deal with them......
When do boys start to change their voices, why do they lose their menstruation, and what kind of changes do they quietly undergo in their bodies......
In the face of these sudden changes, what kind of burden will children's psychology bear, how should they regulate their psychology, accept it calmly and deal with it positively, you can find clear answers in this set of books.
This set of books adopts the style of fiction, lists real cases that are closely related to children, and gives positive answers, teaching children what to do when they encounter similar situations.
Adolescence begins to be interested in the opposite sex, and the book clearly analyzes the fresh and hazy psychology of boys and girls in the face of emotions at this time, which not only affirms this normal psychological state, but also teaches children how to deal with it correctly.
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