A parent's love for their children often needs to be carefully considered. As their children grow up, many parents are most worried about whether they are supporting enough and whether they are performing well enough.
In education, individualized education is an important principle. The same method of education works for some students, but it can be counterproductive for others.
As a result, people will have different opinions and opinions about the same way of education. Recently, a parent shared a "warm note" for her daughter on social platforms, which sparked a discussion among netizens.
Parents quietly put the "warm note" into the student's schoolbag, and netizens said that it was a "suffocating maternal love" after reading it. "I just want my daughter to be healthy and happy", this movie line may bring tears to many people's eyes, but when it is actually applied to themselves, can it really allow students to grow up completely freely?
As a parent, in addition to urging students to study, you also need to make efforts to set aside time for students to have fun. It is necessary to use the educational methods that students are willing to accept, and strive to strike a balance between keeping students happy and encouraging them to study well.
Therefore, one parent came up with an ingenious way to turn face-to-face language education into a "warm note" behind it, hoping that in this way, students can always remember the importance of learning, and at the same time not make students feel overly oppressed by their parents.
A small note read: "...... You have to work hard...... Mom is full of confidence in you, you should pay attention to the lecture in class, and pay attention to the details of the exam......", and then the parents quietly put it into the student's schoolbag, waiting for the moment when the student opened the schoolbag, and found this note.
When a parent shared his education tips, it caused a lot of opposition from netizens. Some people bluntly say that this kind of behavior is the most oppressive "oppressive maternal love", thinking that parents are always in control of students, even in school, students are like Sun Wukong who is bound by a tight spell and cannot escape.
Other netizens suggested that if parents can empathize, they will find the inappropriateness of this approach. Take a "part-time worker" to work as an example, if you see a note left by your parents in the company, asking you to work hard and obey the leader, will you really feel "warm-hearted"?
Of course, in the midst of widespread doubts, there are also some netizens who think that they can feel the tenderness and care of their parents through the note, and they do not understand the feeling of "suffocation". If it were themselves, they might be happy and so on.
In general, it is quite normal that different perspectives, personalities, and moods can lead to different opinions and opinions on this issue. This kind of discussion just proves the saying - teach students according to their aptitude. The same approach to education may not be suitable for all students, and even students of different ages may react differently.
Taking this note as an example, the author thinks that if it is in elementary school, it may feel warm, but if it is in middle and high school, it may be annoying, because the author still remembers the pressure of studying at that time, and the last thing he wants to hear in the face of such pressure is the encouragement of "come on, you can do it".
There is nothing wrong with parents and netizens, but education needs to be taught according to their aptitude and cannot be blindly applied. A "warm note" sparked widespread discussion, perhaps the parent was unaware of the potential controversy. However, it is not entirely unreasonable for parents, as their children find this note heartwarming.
The netizens who oppose it are not wrong, because the reality is that some children do not like their parents' practices. Through such discussions, countless parents have learned an important lesson: education needs to be tailored to the individual's aptitude, not a mechanical application.
Some students may adapt to their parents' way of education, which is an effective method, but there are also students whose personalities and ages make it impossible for them to receive such an education. If parents blindly imitate the praise of others, they may only end up alienating the relationship with their children, which will eventually lead to unnecessary consequences.
Therefore, in the process of educating children, parents must remember not to go their own way, and should pay attention to their children's feedback. What you think is good may not be applicable to all situations, and only a truly educational method can be regarded as a truly good education.
Author's Note:
Through the discussion among netizens, I saw that many young people complained about the difficulty of education and felt that they were afraid to become parents. However, I once saw a saying that the more people are afraid to become parents, the more suitable they are to become parents, because they know how to reflect on their own problems. Therefore, I hope that we can all be parents who know how to self-reflect.
Topic discussion: Which side are you on for this "heart-warming note" from parents to students?