In today's society, many families are reluctant to have more children, especially women, because if they want children, their lives will change dramatically. It's just that due to age pressure, public opinion pressure, and even their own parents are asking about their children, they can only compromise.
Many women feel that this compromise is only short-lived, and after having a child, the child grows up and goes to kindergarten to go to work. He also put down the bold words, "Wait until the baby is three years old to go to work." In fact, after the child goes to kindergarten, he knows regret.
As we all know, nine to six is the normal working hours. For employees without children, there is naturally no difficulty, you can open the sea and the sky after work, and you can do what you want to do. It's just that if the mother at work, it is difficult to take care of it. After all, kindergartens are basically out of school at 5 o'clock, and the child's mother has not yet left work. Not only after school, but also a problem in school, the general kindergarten opens at 9 o'clock, and the child's mother needs to go to the company at this time, it is simply too late.
Even if the child's mother finds grandparents or grandparents can pick up and drop off, but if the company has an unexpected situation and needs to work overtime, if it is late to pick up the child, the elderly may also have whispers, indicating that they disrupt their life plans. Imagine that a mother who is busy for a day goes to her parents' house to pick up her child, and she is also told by her parents that the child is still young, does not understand her mother, and will lose her temper, saying that her mother came late to pick herself up, and this kind of heartache many working mothers have experienced.
Many working mothers have to admit that after three years of full-time with their babies, their entire ability to work is not as good as before. Maybe this working mother had a strong working ability before she became pregnant and was heavily valued by her superiors. After pregnancy, a pregnancy for three years, even if it is slowly recovered later, Bao Mom still feels that it is not as good as her previous memory and her reaction ability is fast. This is due to physiological factors after giving birth. In the process of taking the baby, long-term physical overdraft will also have an impact on the body.
In addition, Bao Mama is not competitive in the workplace, and many employers are often more willing to recruit recent college students. Although these college students are not as good as Bao Ma in terms of work experience, they are flexible in their minds, willing to learn, have a lot of time to spend on work, and it does not take long to adapt to the company's schedule. College students have no family burden, and overtime is hard work, so it may not be easy for Bao Mom to find a job.
Although it is a very hard thing for Bao Mom to return to the workplace, it is also necessary to overcome all difficulties and return to the workplace. The economic base determines the superstructure, after Bao Ma returns to the workplace, the family will have an additional income, do not underestimate the income of this acre and three points of land. This is the lost self-esteem of many women, with a baby at home, and all the expenses in the family are husbands. If the husband is reasonable, he will feel that this is taken for granted, and if the husband does not know right from wrong, he will often make sarcastic remarks.
If the mother has an income, the family that may not be short of money is the icing on the cake. Families that are poor in themselves can also alleviate stress and reduce marital conflicts. In addition to financially helping the family, there are also many benefits for yourself, such as self-worth. Many people look for the so-called sense of achievement in the work, and the mother is also OK, and the more affirmation in the work, the whole person will become more confident. If the ability is insufficient, it is also the opportunity for the mother to exercise herself and make herself a more powerful person.
Nowadays, many husbands abandon their wives after giving birth to their mothers, and it is not all their husbands' fault. If the mother does not go to work, she is at home with her children all year round, and there are many things at home, and because at home, many mothers often do not trim the edges and are disheveled. Only laundry and cooking, no time to clean up after yourself. Thinking about not going out anyway, who to show the makeup, and I have to often touch the child, afraid of the impact on the baby, and dare not wear makeup.
If Bao Mom goes to work, in order to give colleagues and people around a good impression, it is natural to pay attention to dressing up and so on. After all, it is to deal with outsiders, which is the most basic etiquette. Another point is that during the full-time period with the baby, there is no schedule, if the child's schedule is irregular, he cannot eat and sleep on time normally, which also has an impact on the state of the whole person.
After Bao Mom goes to work, the child goes to kindergarten and has normal rules, so it is also helpful for Bao Mom to restore her normal life, and the whole state will remain in the best state.
Of course, Bao Dad should also show support for Bao Mom's work. For some fathers with strong earning power, they do not want to go to work from their mothers, which are also divided into two types, one is to worry that their mothers are too tired and their bodies and spirits cannot be consumed. The other is that I think that my mother earns much less money than herself, and she can take care of her family. Bao Mom still has to adhere to her own point of view, and working independently is the best choice.