The biggest problem in education now is to erase the children's self-drive and enthusiasm, and self-drive and enthusiasm can not be based on chance, what parents have to do is to turn chance into necessity, so that children can obtain self-drive and enthusiasm for learning.
Teacher Zhang Quanling is trying to do education in the hope of planting the seeds of children's self-motivation into a warm conservation area.
So, where does a child's self-drive come from, and how to protect it?
Teacher Quan Ling knocks on the blackboard: positive feedback, finding what you really like, and a sense of social responsibility.
How to stimulate a child's self-drive and protect it?
The first point is to get positive feedback for the child.
It may be hard for you to imagine that Teacher Quan Ling was a very timid person when he was a child.
How timid is it?
She wanted to go to the bathroom in kindergarten, but she didn't dare to raise her hand, and was sent home because she peed her pants.
This happened repeatedly, and later the teacher took two measures against her.
The first measure is that when she wants to go to the toilet, she does not need to raise her hand to tell the teacher that she can go out by herself, which is to remove a shackle for her;
The second measure was that the teacher found that her imitation ability was particularly good, so he took her to the stage and let her participate in the performance, which allowed Teacher Quan Ling to discover his strengths - it turned out that I was a person who could perform in public.
After discovering this strength, Teacher Quan Ling participated in many performances in the Children's Palace in elementary school, and was later selected to start dubbing at the Shanghai Fine Arts Film Studio, with the white pigeon detective of "Black Cat Sheriff", and also participated in the dubbing of many animation films.
Because there are works to be left behind in the dubbing, this makes Sensei Quan Ling greatly encouraged.
She began to take the initiative to find all kinds of things that could be left behind.
For example, I went to submit articles to the "Little Master Newspaper" and then became the editor of the "Little Master Newspaper".
As these things happen step by step, you will find that the real positive feedback is that the child can find his own strengths, and then he can find some opportunities to maintain such a discovery.
So the most important thing for parents to do is to find such an opportunity for their children, and then let it become a shining point for him to find himself, as long as it can be achieved through hard work, not a chance.
For example, you can encourage your child to set up a public account, the first users may be your friends and family, but slowly, he may have more opportunities to contact strangers.
If running a public account is too heavy for a child, you can encourage him to leave a message on some knowledge platform, and maybe get a reply.
It's also a form of positive feedback, and children today have a much more chance of getting this positive feedback than we did back then.
Positive feedback is like adding fuel to an engine, otherwise even if he starts to start, he will not start due to insufficient follow-up power.
Therefore, parents should form a refueling mechanism for their children.
The second important point is to find something you really like.
For books you don't like, it doesn't matter, you can not read if you don't like them, you actually read books to find books you like.
We don't read books to complete a belief, to complete a task, but to find the books we like.
Then Teacher Quan Ling spent a lot of time in the library to find out what books she really liked to read, no longer because the book was famous, or completed a certain task to read books.
Finding what she likes to do and doing it from the bottom of her heart has a great impact on her later life.
The third important point, the formation of self-driving force, is also a considerable part of the sense of responsibility.
Many parents may feel that the sense of responsibility is too early for children, Teacher Quan Ling feels that the sense of responsibility needs to be cultivated from an early age, if there is no sense of responsibility for the family and what they should do when they are young, the sense of social responsibility when they grow up will not be out of thin air.
In terms of cultivating a sense of responsibility, one of the things teacher Quan Ling is doing to her son now is to "take the initiative to show weakness.".
For example, to create an opportunity for him to serve the family, Teacher Quan Ling would tell him: "Mom's neck is not very comfortable today, she can't bow her head at all, and she needs you to help me clean the room." ”
After he finishes his service, he will get positive feedback of "I can still do this thing" and "I can still help adults", which is the process of cultivating children's sense of responsibility, and opportunities are hidden in the most ordinary family life.
To sum up, how to stimulate a child's self-drive and protect it?
Teacher Zhang Quanling told us three tips, one is to let the child get positive feedback; the second is to find what he really likes; the third is to cultivate the child's sense of responsibility from an early age.