Regarding the baby's tantrum, I don't know if the mothers have such an experience:
If you want to eat something, you can't wait for a minute, and you cry if you don't give it in time;
Other babies touched the family's toy car, began to cry, and even hit people;
Go to the mall to buy toys, do not buy on the ground and roll;
Play with toys, play well with children one second, scream the next second...
At this time, the mothers on the verge of madness said: "gentle and firm" This kind of pit mother's parenting rules do not want to remember!
As everyone knows, the above is actually a good time to cultivate children's high emotional intelligence!
So, let's take a look at it together, how to face the baby's temper is scientific?
Mother asks: Why does the baby lose his temper when he doesn't agree?
Most parents, seeing their children lose their temper, simply boil down to unreasonable teasing, or being spoiled. In fact, there are many reasons why children lose their temper, such as changes in the environment and people, unmet needs, and the establishment of a sense of order.
Children 1-2 years old
Babies over 1 year old are gradually becoming self-aware. When emotions come, because they are not good at expressing their emotions, they can only lose their temper.
Changes in the environment and people will also make the baby emotionally uneasy and anxious. For example, if a stranger comes to the house, or the baby arrives in a strange place, he may cry because he is not adapted.
Children 2-3 years old
Well, at this time, the child has come to the stage of "terrible two-year-old" and "terrible three-year-old" when the mothers are frightened. They develop self-awareness, love and mother in opposition, but often when the needs are not met, they will express their dissatisfaction in the form of "tantrums".
In addition, the baby at this stage is also in a sensitive period of order, and has a particularly strong awareness of their own rules. The toy he put away moved the position, angry; the clothes he wanted to wear could not be found, angry +1...
How can smart moms help their babies develop emotional intelligence?
The first trick: help your child release emotions
Children cry mostly because they have negative emotions. For example, in the park, the baby and the little friend are having fun, and as soon as the mother says that she wants to go home, the baby will shake off her throat and cry. At this time, don't rush to reason, stop the child from crying, first find the reason behind the crying, and allow the person to release his emotions.
At the same time, mothers can also master better ways to communicate with their children.
For example:
When reminding the child to go home, give the child a "preventive shot" in advance: Baby, after you have piled up this castle, we will go home!
When the child is mentally prepared, the resistance will be reduced.
The second trick: help your child recognize emotions
Children rolling, stomping, dropping things... It's actually because they feel "sad", but they don't understand what this strange emotion is. At this time, it is important to guide children to understand emotions.
You can bring your child to know the "color of emotions".
When the child loses his temper, you can point out that the child's current emotion is red, and this feeling is angry, like a dinosaur that can breathe fire; when the child cries, the emotion may be blue, like a lonely little fish in the sea.
This can help children learn to discern emotions, and then learn to describe their "anger" and "sadness", rather than blindly crying.
The third trick: express empathy,
Increase your child's sense of security
For babies with small emotions, mothers need to express more empathy and accompany their children to increase their children's sense of security.
When the child's snack falls to the ground and he cries, we can communicate with the child like this:
"You like this snack a lot, right?" Mom knows you're sad. Shall we buy another one tomorrow..."
Such a "understand + solve" sentence pattern can help children know that "my mother understands me and is willing to help me solve the problem".
These 3 tricks, have you learned?