For children, the first people they see when they open their eyes are their own fathers and mothers, so parents are trustworthy and trustworthy for them, and their links to the world mainly rely on their parents in the early stages.
So parents play a vital role in the first stage of their child's birth, and until the child is able to connect with the world, the parent is the child's world. So at this age, they will show a lot of clingy behaviors, such as as as being extremely anxious and insecure as long as the eyes leave the parents and children, or when the child is hurt and wronged, the first reaction is to find the parents first.
Gradually wait for the child to grow up, enter the kindergarten and have their own small partners, the children at this stage will gradually connect with the world independently, although they will have their own small groups and good partners, but the importance of parents is still incomparable.
Therefore, in the hearts of children, parents are so important, as parents, we must also understand why our baby is aggrieved after being reprimanded by parents, and even cry and hug?
1, the baby is particularly insecure, afraid that the parents' scolding is a manifestation of abandoning themselves
Many parents think that their children always cry after scolding their children loudly, thinking that the children are the performance of knowing where they are wrong, but in fact, the reason why the children cry is more afraid of the parents' undulating emotions, because they are particularly insecure, so they feel afraid.
Therefore, parents usually pay attention to their own attitude to the child's treatment, and must not yell at the child because it is just a trivial matter, which will only make the child more and more insecure, spending childhood in panic, and if the sense of security in childhood is insufficient, it is easy to affect the child's future character building and self-confidence.
2. The baby habitually cries.
When parents always habitually lose their temper with their children, children will be in a physiological condition of fear and tension for a long time when facing their parents, so that if they are angry every time they are angry later, the children will collapse and cry, because the child's response to the parents has become a habit.
It can be seen that if parents often shout at their children, they will cause non-negligible harm to their children.
1. Become a flattering personality
My child's long-term attitude towards parents is to please parents and please parents, so that children will also behave this way to others in their later work and study life. The so-called flattering personality is to deliberately please others regardless of their own feelings and interests, and such a personality will definitely be unhappy and painful in later life.
They would rather sacrifice their feelings and emotions to seek perfection, or even sacrifice self-esteem just to gain forgiveness from others, believing that no parent wants to see their children become such a character.
2. Extreme personality
At first, when the child is not yet able to resist, he may be afraid of the parent's yelling and anger, but when the child gradually has his own ideas, in the parent's consistent yelling, the child will become particularly rebellious. Even in this repressive family sphere, the child will go to the extreme, obviously it is an easy problem to solve, but the child has to complicate things.
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