Raising children is a long journey, in this journey, parents are experiencing two emotions all the time, we will pay attention to the child's every move, because of love, sometimes more because of fear.
In fact, many of us are doing our own childhood or their own fantasies in the good parents, in their imagination, the things they want most in their childhood are dedicated to their children, the things they are most afraid of in their childhood are the things that we are most afraid of happening to children now, but have you ever thought that your children really need these? Does your child really need you to worry about this?
My girl is 2-3 years old, often constipated, in fact, it is not so serious, just an interval of 2-3 days to pull once, each time there will be some dryness, I and the child's mother for a long time, worried that the child will be very painful when pulling, worried that she will not pull for a long time will accumulate food and get sick, worried about how she will go to the kindergarten later, constantly blame herself for not taking care of the baby. The more we care, the more the child will care, the more nervous we are, the more scared the child will be, there was a time when the child was very resistant to going to the toilet, very afraid of going to the toilet, and then I and the child's mother realized this problem, we decided to let go, no longer care about this matter (of course, just in front of the child's face to show that it does not matter), we will not ask her if she wants to go to the toilet, will not deliberately remind her not to pull will be sick, etc., when she wants to go to the toilet, sit on the toilet by herself, if she needs we will sit next to her, pretend not to care about playing with the mobile phone. Slowly, she found that it was not so scary as to pull the rice, and once she just sat on the toilet and shouted, Mom I pulled it out, and at that moment we felt that we had chosen the right choice.
Later, my child's mother and I recalled this past and found that we did have a similar experience when we were young, we were very uncomfortable, but we did not get the attention of our parents, how I hoped that my parents would not be so busy at that time, to pay attention to us, to understand what we wanted, but it was a pity that we could eat enough in that era. So the biggest mistake we make in the child is to pay too much attention to her, pay attention to her bit by bit, but there is not much space for her, too many opportunities to try on her own.
Therefore, parents must learn to let go and learn to return the right to grow to their children, so that she can live happily and you live easily.
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