Angry and heartbroken.
November 2021, Xi'an, Shaanxi.
Ms. Tian gave birth to a boy. The arrival of the long-awaited newborn makes the whole family very happy and valued.
In order to better take care of the baby and the mother, the family decided to let Ms. Tian take the baby to the confinement center to recuperate.
There, she was placed in the special care of her sister-in-law for two months.
A month passed quickly, and in the blink of an eye, Ms. Tian was going home.
As a new mother, she felt that she was unable to do the meticulous work of caring for her children.
Therefore, from the two sisters-in-law, she hired Xiao Mou, who was still good at performance, to continue to go home to take care of herself.
However, Ms. Tian and her husband did not expect that it was this decision that made them regret it.
After Xiao came to Ms. Tian's house, he asked to sleep in a room with the child.
Ms. Tian said: It is to facilitate her care for the baby.
Xiao mou began to behave "very well", was thoughtful and careful to the children, and the work was also neat and tidy.
Ms. Tian is very satisfied with her and has expressed her gratitude on WeChat.
However, on January 23 this year, Ms. Tian, who was napping, checked the surveillance on her mobile phone, and the picture was extremely heart-wrenching and angry.
She found that Xiao had squeezed the child hard when he was holding the child.
How can a child who is only more than 2 months old be oppressed by a powerful external force?
She was heartbroken and went to question Xiao.
At first, she did not admit it, and it was not until later, when Ms. Tian took out the surveillance video and confronted her, that she had nothing to say.
Ms. Tian called the police and took the child to the hospital for examination.
But the diagnosis made her even more heartbroken: the child was not squeezed and injured, but had an old fall, which showed that the child may have long-term injuries.
That said, there have been other abuses before this one.
Anxious, Ms. Tian and her husband immediately went to check the surveillance, and the footage in those videos made them take a breath of cool air.
From January 17 to January 23, the sister-in-law abused babies almost every day.
Sometimes it's holding the child and shaking it vigorously.
Sometimes it's spanking his ass.
Sometimes, even sometimes, she would scold such vicious words as "kill you" and "drop you".
Isn't it a beastly act of a strong adult to commit an atrocity against a baby who has no power to bind a chicken?
The child is less than 3 months old, and it is precisely when it needs the care of adults, and the child who is hard to look forward to is treated in such a cruel way!
Ms. Tian regretted and blamed herself, unable to accept this reality, and this month's sister-in-law was actually found by her own hands.
At present, they have handed over the evidence to the police, hoping that the law will severely punish them.
After Ms. Tian's matter was exposed on the Internet, many netizens asked her to go to the confinement center for trouble, but unfortunately, the confinement center did not need to bear any responsibility for this matter.
Why?
Because this month's sister-in-law was privately invited home by Ms. Tian, she did not pass through the Confinement Center at all.
And this behavior is precisely the beginning of Ms. Tian's biggest mistake.
Why not reach a service agreement with my sister-in-law privately?
Because of the existence of the confinement center, it is a deterrent effect for the confinement sister-in-law.
There is a precision contract between the confinement center and the confinement sister-in-law, and once the child abuse occurs, the confinement center has a hundred ways to treat the confinement sister-in-law.
And most importantly, the confinement center will generally leave a part of the salary, and the next task of the confinement sister-in-law will also be arranged by the confinement center, which is very important to her.
However, Ms. Tian privately invited Yue's sister-in-law to go home, so that Yue's sister-in-law was completely out of some of the systems that constrained her.
Between her and her sister-in-law, one does not have a strong deterrent contract, the other does not have long-term effective management, and if she does not do well, she will pat her clothes and leave.
How well the sister-in-law does is purely dependent on self-awareness, but self-consciousness is often the most unreliable.
This was the beginning of Ms. Tian's first mistake, and her second mistake was to give her sister-in-law far more than her original salary.
Xiao's monthly salary is as high as 19350 yuan. This salary makes most highly educated white-collar workers look out of reach.
Why give her this fee?
Because in the confinement center, generally 30,000 to 40,000 a month, giving the sister-in-law 19,000 is relatively cost-effective, and she feels that the salary for the sister-in-law is higher, and the sister-in-law may be grateful and be kind to the child.
But it is precisely this kind of high salary that promotes the arrogance of the sister-in-law, and she will feel that you give me such a high salary, that I am worth this money, not a good customer.
Therefore, when she is upside down day and night with the child, and she is extremely tired, she will pour all the anger on her body into the child.
Why does the sister-in-law dare to attack the baby?
Because the baby will not speak, will not complain, this pain point, is how much money can not be avoided, but more money is more confident to abuse children.
Therefore, the only way to deal with the "abuse" incidents that have been repeatedly prohibited by the sister-in-law is to strengthen supervision and strengthen punishment.
Only by letting them know that they have done bad things will they be known and will pay a heavy price, will they be jealous.
there is an old saying Chinese, called "first the villain, then the gentleman".
To be a "villain" is not to ask you to harbor evil intentions and harm others and benefit yourself, but to tell the other party at the beginning that you have teeth and that you have a way to make her pay the price for doing bad things.
In this way, the two people can be "gentlemen" with harmony behind them.
Human nature is changeable, and only strong regulation can contain those deep and terrible places in human nature.
Human nature needs to be regulated, and this truth applies to many aspects of life.
I used to live in a neighborhood, and in the corner of the parking lot on the first floor, I could always smell a foul smell.
The source of the smell is the random littering of animal feces, the littering of garbage, and even the defecation of people there.
The property was plastered with tips everywhere but didn't make any difference.
Why can't such a foul-smelling behavior be prohibited?
Because human nature is selfish, it is only convenient for itself, and it does not care about anything else. And most people, have a fluke mentality, do bad things, as long as no one catches, will continue to do, a paper prompt, can not be prohibited at all.
Later, I gave the property a trick:
In the invisible corners, all the cameras are installed, the kind that must flash red lights, so that people know that there are cameras here.
The property shook its head and said that there was simply no money to do the job and that the lines were very complicated.
I said, not necessarily the real camera, fake can also be, must be red light, and then paste a notice saying that the camera caught uncivilized behavior, it will be exposed in the owner group.
After the property did this, sure enough, such behavior was never seen again.
I insist that the nature of human nature is ugly, and that once unregulated, the evils in human nature are unleashed, and only by exposing them to the sun can they be completely dispelled.
We often say "enwei and give", what does it mean?
When you treat people only with kindness and generosity, what you get will not be sincerity.
Only by using tough and effective means to distinguish the boundaries and balance strictness and leniency can we go further.
When I was just out of college, I entered a company that had a manager who used to influence me a lot.
In the past, when I went to talk to customers about business, I first helped customers to do things and designed the plan first, but when I encountered customers who temporarily regretted it, I had no way.
At that time, I had just graduated from college, my personality was weak, it was easy to be led by customers, what customers said was what they were, and finally the performance was very poor, and it was easy to be "white prostitute".
But that manager, the way he did things was completely different from us.
At first, he did not do anything for the client, neither design nor cooperation, but first out of the contract.
The terms in his contract are the most detailed I've ever seen.
From large points of interest to small problems that may arise, everything is written in the contract, and once signed, it is strictly implemented in accordance with the contract.
When the contract is signed, he does things, and if the contract is not signed, he does not move a step.
I used to think that this would lose a lot of customers, but he did this precisely to exclude those customers who liked "white prostitution" and had no intentions, and then spent more time on valuable customers.
Therefore, his performance is the highest every month.
To this day, I still remember what my manager said to me:
Human nature is uncontrollable, and if you don't sign a contract, everything can happen, then anything you do for the customer is useless.
Don't be afraid to reject customers, rejection can show your value the most. If you play the hole card in advance, it will be you who is passive in the end.
This passage, when I am fine, I like to take it out and touch it, and I feel that I benefit immensely.
Don't think that some people are stubborn and rigid, don't think that some procedures are cumbersome and useless, but those tedious and useless procedures, deep in the wisdom.
A few years ago, I went to a small country in Southeast Asia on a business trip.
My friend was working as a supervisor at a construction site, and I stopped by to see it.
However, his image has subverted my cognition.
He was originally polite, courteous and courteous, but when he arrived at the construction site, he was like a different person, shouting at the local workers who were blind and thin, and they were not close to humanity.
He told me helplessly that this was how people here should be treated.
They are lazy, lazy, and they do not have the three words of responsibility in their bones.
You have to set the rules and enforce them strongly so that they can be in awe of you, so that the project can be completed on schedule.
Countless painful experiences have taught him that blindly being kind to others, without principles and constraints, you will eventually become a "soft persimmon" at your disposal.
That day, on the construction site in Southeast Asia, which was full of yellow sand, I had a relationship:
What is human nature?
Is it kindness? Is it evil? Is it industriousness? Is it laziness?
No, the depth and complexity of human nature often surprises you.
Any single word is simply not enough to generalize.
Never underestimate the greed of human nature, and the speculation and luck based on greed.
If you are so good that there is no bottom line, there will be people who are bad enough to be unscrupulous.
In this society where the weak eat the strong, if you are a "good person" with no principles, it is you who will suffer in the end, it is you who is angry, and it is you who is used by human nature.
Don't abuse your generosity and kindness, that will only make you a weak and deceitful object.
Someone asked: Why is it that in the temple of compassion, the bodhisattvas are all low-browed, while the Vajradhara is angry and fierce?
Answer: "Vajrapani was angry, so he surrendered to the four demons; the bodhisattva lowered his eyebrows, so he had the six paths of compassion." ”
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Rule of Law Scene "Angry! 1.9 million please monthly sister-in-law, but do this to my children? 》
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