01
My son called back and said that my daughter-in-law's due date was in July, and I asked me to go over and take care of the confinement child.
I'm a little embarrassed, I have been suffering from back pain recently, and I guess I have a herniated disc in my lumbar spine again, and I can't help if I go, but it will add to the chaos.
The son said unhappily, you can't go, then pay for it, you take 20,000 yuan, and I will ask the confinement sister-in-law to take care of your daughter-in-law's confinement.
I was very angry by my son's lion opening tone, where is this son, he is simply a vampire, he has never considered the difficulties of his parents, he just blindly obeys his daughter-in-law.
02
My name is Zhang Chunmei, I am 53 years old and I have only one son. My wife and I have high hopes for this son, hoping that he will be better than the blue.
However, our expectations were ultimately disappointed. My son is not as good and excellent as we expected, and sometimes it can only be said to be mediocre.
My son barely finished college and found a job where he couldn't starve to death or have enough to eat. After falling in love with his daughter-in-law, he often asked us for love funds, saying that when two people fell in love, they couldn't let the girl pay for it.
Well, girls can't pay for it, but parents can. For the sake of our son's marriage, we can only pay silently, and we can't complain.
03
The son fell in love for more than half a year, so he went home and said that he was going to get married, and his daughter-in-law was pregnant before marriage. After some discussion, the two decided to give birth to the child and leave it to us, and they continued to live happily.
We are happy and worried, happy that our son's marriage has come to an end, and our wish to hold our grandson is about to come true. It will be our responsibility to worry about the land and grandson, and it will all be our responsibility in the future.
The son told him that his daughter-in-law was pregnant before marriage, but he couldn't treat his daughter-in-law badly, and the wedding room and wedding banquet should be available, and the grade should not be too low.
My father and I looked at each other and said okay, so we almost emptied all our net worth, bought the real estate she had loved for a long time according to the daughter-in-law's requirements, and gave a bride price of no less than 100,000 yuan, and even the wedding was held in the five-star hotel designated by the daughter-in-law.
We spent a lot of money to organize our son's marriage and contributed money and efforts, but our mother-in-law only accompanied the marriage car and drove it for several years.
As for the dowry, it is also some invaluable household items and bedding.
04
Organizing the marriage for our son, we broke our muscles and bones, and the old bottom was exposed, and our vitality was greatly damaged.
I thought that we had fulfilled our parental responsibilities and could sit back and relax and enjoy our old age with our hands.
As a result, my son has only been married for half a year, and he has once again set his sights on our free manpower. If I didn't want to contribute, he asked me to pay, and it was the same anyway.
I am very embarrassed, it's not that I don't want to serve my daughter-in-law's confinement, but my body, which is not angry, will also add chaos and have no effect.
If you don't go, my son asked me to give 20,000 again. But our savings were all spent on our son's marriage, and now my wife still has to bear my son's monthly mortgage of 5,000 yuan, where is the money to ask my confinement sister-in-law to serve my daughter-in-law's confinement?
05
But my son didn't care about this, he thought that since I couldn't contribute, I should pay for it. Since I am a mother-in-law, I have the obligation to serve my daughter-in-law's confinement, otherwise how can I have the confidence to ask my daughter-in-law to provide for her in the future?
My son tried to kidnap me with affection, saying, your daughter-in-law gave birth to a child in confinement, you don't contribute money or effort, what do you let your daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law think, others will think that you don't treat your daughter-in-law well, and you don't want to see your unborn grandson.
I looked at my son, who was talking to us at length, and told him the truth, not that we wouldn't come, but that we couldn't even get 20,000 yuan, so he asked him to go to his mother-in-law to help take care of the confinement child.
My son-in-law suddenly became angry, can my mother-in-law's confinement be the same as your mother-in-law's confinement service? Your daughter-in-law just wants to see your statement and performance, and you say that you are neither a person nor a person, nor a money, doesn't it make me in a dilemma?
06
The son was still puzzled and said, your daughter-in-law has spoken, our family does not contribute money or effort, she will let the child take her mother's surname. Can you bear to be ridiculed as a son-in-law by others? You are not even qualified to decide the child's surname.
My son's words made me stunned, and I felt that I had really raised a good son.
At the beginning, the son and daughter-in-law put forward so many marriage requirements, Sanjin was not sincere to buy hardware, diamond rings to buy one carat can not buy broken diamonds, kissing red envelopes and lip red envelopes can not be less than 8888.
And the two in-laws, except for marrying some worthless dowries, let go of the rest, regardless of whether they asked, did not contribute money or efforts, and now they don't even care about their daughter's confinement.
07
I was angry and unwilling. We have all paid so much for our son, and my daughter-in-law clamored to change the surname of my unborn grandson because I didn't go to serve the confinement child.
And if the daughter-in-law asks us every day, we have to meet it unconditionally, and if we can't meet it, we will be blackmailed to compromise with divorce and grandchildren's surnames, when is such a bottomless pit a head?
What makes me even more angry is that my son still obeys his daughter-in-law's words and has never understood our difficulties as parents.
08
I took a deep breath and decided to leave the stall alone, I said to my son, you go and be a son-in-law, the child can take whoever he likes, there is nothing we can do.
My son scolded and hung up the phone, and since then he has rarely contacted us again, even on holidays, as if he is going to completely cut off relations with us. My wife persuaded me to take the initiative to bow my head and give them 10,000 yuan, even if it was a gift for our grandson.
But I don't want to, and I don't want to put my hot face on their cold ass anymore. They cut ties with us, and I'm happy to be quiet and relaxed, and I don't have to be their ATM anymore.