01
My mother-in-law, who has never had much contact with me, was sick, and my husband called me one after another, urging me to take leave and come back to take care of her.
I hung up the phone silently, noncommittal to my husband's request, whose parents would take care of him.
Back then, when my child was only two years old, he was sick and had a high fever, and I had taken more than a week off work to take care of my child. If you continue to ask for it, you will be fired from the company.
I asked my husband to call my mother-in-law and urge her to come quickly and help take care of the children for a few days. As a result, the mother-in-law said that she refused to come if she had something, and her husband looked indifferent, so she was dismissed, so what can be done if the child is sick?
02
I was so angry that I burst into tears, why is it so difficult for your parents to take care of their children for a few days? Who parents don't help their sons and daughters-in-law take care of their children, even if your parents are only in their early 40s, they lie flat and support their children, they don't earn money and don't take care of their children, and they just wait for their son to live with 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses.
My husband was immediately unhappy: "Don't you do this, my parents don't look at the child as their duty, who stipulates that parents must take care of their daughter-in-law?
My husband's words made me feel very helpless and helpless, and my mother-in-law wanted to take my brother and sister-in-law's children, and she was also lacking in skills. I could only ask the leader for leave, but the leader didn't say anything, but after the child recovered and I returned to work, he gave me all kinds of small shoes and asked me to resign voluntarily.
I was aggrieved for a month, and finally resigned voluntarily and went home. When I just resigned, my husband was still very happy, thinking that he earned money and I took care of the children, so why should I make myself so tired?
03
But after I took care of the children at home for two years, my husband's face changed again: "You said that the children are all in kindergarten, you should also go out to find a job to work, stay at home all day, everyone is abolished, and I am overwhelmed all day long, and I dare not relax in the slightest." ”
My husband only complained a few times at first, but in the end, he complained more and more, and every time he reached out to his husband to ask for money, he had to look at his face and ridicule.
I wasn't a character who could swallow my anger, but after learning from the pain, I was ruthless and found a job that was similar to my child's commuting time to school. Although the salary is not high, and there are no opportunities for promotion, it is fortunate that I can take care of my children and family a little.
After I go to work, I occasionally work overtime, so naturally I can't take care of my children and family. When my husband came home from work, he saw that there was a hot meal waiting for him as before, and he called me desperately, urging me to come back and cook quickly.
04
The list goes on and on. If it weren't for the sake of the children, I might have filed for divorce a long time ago.
A man who has never known how to be considerate of his wife can hold up for his wife?
For the sake of my children, my aggrieved days went on like this. As long as I can endure it, I can live my life. Once I can't take it anymore, the days are gone.
When the child was about to enter elementary school, her mother-in-law, who had always been healthy, fell ill and was hospitalized, and her husband took 3 days off to take care of her. Three days later, my husband called me again and again to urge me to take care of me, I said that I wanted to go to work, and he forced me to resign, saying that your job is only 5,000 yuan, and it is better to resign and come back to take care of my mother.
05
I ignored my husband's yelling, even if it was 5,000 yuan, it was my hard-earned money, and I spent it with dignity, and I didn't need to look at anyone's face.
What's more, when my child was sick and I was alone, my mother-in-law didn't lend a helping hand and pulled me. Now that she is sick and hospitalized, doesn't she still have her baby son?
I decided to do the same and let my husband experience the feeling of being alone. But who knows, he called one after another, without exception, all of them asked me to take leave to take care of my mother-in-law immediately, otherwise his job would not be saved.
I didn't agree, I just told him coldly, what you said at the beginning, mother-in-law looks at the child is love, not looking at it is duty. It is the duty of the daughter-in-law to take care of her mother-in-law, and it is her duty not to take care of her, besides, doesn't the mother-in-law have a daughter?
06
My refusal made my husband angry. He roared at me, accusing me of being selfish and cold-blooded. I have not defended these accusations.
The man who feels sorry for you, he will empathize without you opening your mouth to complain. A man who doesn't feel sorry for you, no matter how good you are, he will only think that you haven't done enough and are not good for his parents.
I have been married to my husband for 8 years, and I have never experienced the warmth of my in-laws' house for a day. Perhaps, it is only a small amount of warmth.
Without waiting for my husband's call to come again, I packed my bags with my children and went back to my parents' house. When my mother-in-law is well, I will come back.
Even if my husband threatens me with divorce, I will not compromise and obediently take care of my mother-in-law. After all, some sincerity needs to be exchanged for sincerity.