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Wang Yujun is a 5-year-old boy, usually when he is at home, he can still quietly read books, watch TV or play with toys, but as long as there is a person in the family, he can't hold it and starts to be very excited!
One day Wang Yujun's mother's colleagues came to play at home, and when her mother was chatting with her colleagues, Wang Yujun began to make all kinds of small actions, suddenly turning the TV to the loudest, and deliberately walking around the house at once.
The mother was very impatient and said to Wang Yujun, Junjun is quiet, and the mother is chatting with the aunt.
Wang Yujun became more excited when he saw his mother calling himself, and even danced in front of his mother and made a grimace at his mother.
Wang Yujun's mother felt very faceless, how this son was disobedient, loudly reprimanded him to go back to the room, don't come out, shame here!
And Wang Yujun heard his mother say this, returned to the room and slammed the door shut, turned his electronic keyboard to the maximum in the room, and played the piano in it!
Yujun's mother's colleague said that the child is fine, don't worry, my sister's child was also like this before, and then my sister also went to learn child psychology, saying that the situation of this kind of child is actually called "people come crazy".
This is related to the characteristics of the child, but also to the improper discipline and neglect of the child by the parents!
Why do children "go crazy"? It has something to do with the child's personality and the parenting of the parents
★ Children have poor self-control
From 1960 to 1970, marshmallow experiments were conducted in kindergartens at Stanford University, mainly to test children's self-control.
Give your child a plate and a marshmallow, if the child can hold out for 15 minutes without eating marshmallows, you can get a second one, if the child eats the marshmallows in 15 minutes, then there is only one.
In fact, many preschool children have no way to wait until 15 minutes to eat marshmallow uncontrollably, and the child's self-control is still relatively poor.
Therefore, when guests come to the house, parents generally encourage their children to express themselves, and many children become crazy when they over-perform.
★ Children crave attention
Many parents are busy at work and do not have time to take their children out to play, while the elderly often ask electronic nannies with their children to let their children play with toys or watch TV at home.
It is not easy to come to the family, the child hopes to do some actions to attract the attention of others, especially when the parents at home rarely accompany the guests, the child does various actions, which is more likely to attract the attention of the parents.
★ Parents are too strict with their children's education
For example, usually children can't talk when they eat, or they can't speak loudly, etc., and the education of children is too strict, which will inhibit the child's playful nature.
When the guests come to the house, the parents' attention is very focused on the guests, and the child knows at this time that the parents will not scold themselves and will be more tolerant, so they will take the opportunity to release their own nature.
So the child is crazy, as a parent to understand the reason, this is related to the characteristics of the child itself, it is more likely that the child usually receives less attention, the child is more insecure, or the parents are too demanding of the child.
What should I do if the child is "crazy"? A few points moms need to know
Point 1: Protect your child's self-esteem
Don't blame criticism in front of guests, or even scold your child, as it will hurt your child's self-esteem.
Point 2: Give your child the opportunity to perform appropriately
For example, let the child sing a song to the aunt, or play the piano for the aunt, or help the aunt get a fruit, which is a good performance opportunity for the crazy child, he will especially like it.
Point 3: Take your kids out to play
Take more children out to play, in order to let children make friends, when children have sustenance, have friends, children at home when guests can know more about people and things.
When children are crazy, parents should not scold, do not be distressed, understand the reasons, and respond to them in a targeted manner.
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